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A serious question... Posted on 05-01-2008

TheAllure1
charlotte, NC
first of all let me introduce myself, my name is mike from fayetteville state. i am new to this so hopefully i get alot of feedback about this... me and a friend of mine were discussing serious relationships and how things in a girls past affect the way the guy views them. her argument was that the past is the past. and my argument was that when a guy completely commits himself to a female, then that female becomes apart of his swagga, if he is the only guy on campus that has been with this girl or if she is the type of girl that alot of guys "know". if that guy actully had to put in time and effort to get with this girl and if he is proud of what he has accomplished. she said that it was okay for girls to use guys for sex, then i tried to explain to her that it is impossible for females to use guys for sex, is sex stopped when she gets hers or he gets his???? she countered and said that girls give themselves differently when its jus a booty call. but she failed to realize that when u are lying on your back or bent over you give yourself the same. i finnished up by telling her that im old school and when i commit myself to u, the first thing i wanna kno is what am i getting that no other man has had?? i kno that oral sex and things like that are popular but seriously thats something for marriage. i kno i have said alot but hopefully u see where im going with this. Was i wrong??? ladies the floor is yours, fellas if u wanna post thats cool too.
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05-01-2008 05:11PM [Reply]

MiA_theGREAT
Hustletown, TX
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well nobody wants to be attached to a skeezer, male or female. some dudes are known for getting around, as are some females. overall, people should be careful about what they choose to do because sooner or later it WILL come to light and yes, that may affect the person you want to be with. hope that answers whatever question was hidden in there

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05-01-2008 05:29PM [Reply]

TheAllure1
charlotte, NC
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sorry the question wasnt in there, but its there now

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05-01-2008 06:26PM [Reply]
Phylicia215

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I think as long as the person isn't infected with any diseases and they arent giving their goodies to everyone (male or female), you shouldnt judge them for their past. You cant just judge a female, or anyone for that matter, based on their sexual pasts.

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05-01-2008 07:21PM [Reply]
i*heart*pie

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MiA_theGREAT wrote:
well nobody wants to be attached to a skeezer, male or female. some dudes are known for getting around, as are some females. overall, people should be careful about what they choose to do because sooner or later it WILL come to light and yes, that may affect the person you want to be with. hope that answers whatever question was hidden in there
skeezer. ha! that's a new one...

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05-11-2008 12:33AM [Reply]
YoungPhenom4TheFuture
Freeport, NY
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Actually, I think I look at things very similar to the way you do Allure. Nobody wants to be with the girl/guy who's considered the hoe. You're right, when you're with someone, people do view you as an entity, not neccesarily an individual anymore, so if you're with someone who gets around alot...how do you look? I think...like someone who doesn't really have standards...or maybe some who doesn't care. So, is there a double standard when it comes to sex for males versus females? Hell yea. Is it wrong? Mmm...yea most likely, just for society's sake. But is there a reason for that double standard? Yea I think there is...and that is proven by biology ((one egg--> more "selective", thousands of sperm-->spread your seeds)). So nah...I don't think its cute for females to use guys for sex anymore than it is for males because sex is supposed to be something special for people who actually care about each other, but do I think its more "acceptable" for males to have casual sex....yea I do. I defend the double standard...hate me..whatever.

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05-11-2008 09:22PM [Reply]
i*heart*pie

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YoungPhenom4TheFuture wrote:
Actually, I think I look at things very similar to the way you do Allure. Nobody wants to be with the girl/guy who's considered the hoe. You're right, when you're with someone, people do view you as an entity, not neccesarily an individual anymore, so if you're with someone who gets around alot...how do you look? I think...like someone who doesn't really have standards...or maybe some who doesn't care. So, is there a double standard when it comes to sex for males versus females? Hell yea. Is it wrong? Mmm...yea most likely, just for society's sake. But is there a reason for that double standard? Yea I think there is...and that is proven by biology ((one egg--> more "selective", thousands of sperm-->spread your seeds)). So nah...I don't think its cute for females to use guys for sex anymore than it is for males because sex is supposed to be something special for people who actually care about each other, but do I think its more "acceptable" for males to have casual sex....yea I do. I defend the double standard...hate me..whatever.
Don't bring science into it. It becomes very bs-y when one does that. Because according to that same biology, humans should also be screwing for the sole purpose of reproduction and natural selection and all those other lovely terms that Darwin came up with. We as humans have an uncanny ability to read a whole lot out of very little.

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05-11-2008 09:52PM [Reply]
YoungPhenom4TheFuture
Freeport, NY
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i*heart*pie wrote:
Don't bring science into it. It becomes very bs-y when one does that. Because according to that same biology, humans should also be screwing for the sole purpose of reproduction and natural selection and all those other lovely terms that Darwin came up with. We as humans have an uncanny ability to read a whole lot out of very little.
Why wouldn't I bring science into it? Its the most logical terms to think of versus the touchy feely basis of emotions and I actually believe that the science eliminates alot of the bullsh!t. Humans sole purpose on planet earth is to reproduce first and foremost...reproduction is key to our sustanance. But alas, this is only my humble opinion.

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05-11-2008 10:25PM [Reply]
i*heart*pie

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YoungPhenom4TheFuture wrote:
Why wouldn't I bring science into it? Its the most logical terms to think of versus the touchy feely basis of emotions and I actually believe that the science eliminates alot of the bullsh!t. Humans sole purpose on planet earth is to reproduce first and foremost...reproduction is key to our sustanance. But alas, this is only my humble opinion.
According to that logic, whores and manwhores are little more than reproductive oppurtunists. It's either a swing or a miss. Hey, that's all well and good for science, but life just isn't so cut and dry.

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05-12-2008 11:16AM [Reply]

MiA_theGREAT
Hustletown, TX
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if you look at sex scientifically, don't you also have to look at it religiously? lookin at it solely scientifically (or scientifically at all..) has led us to the immensely overpopulated planet we reside on today. due to the ones that have 4,5 babies by different people just for the sake of reproducing. not saying that a married couple wouldn't have a bunch of kids but the religious aspect introduces the sole partner concept... and realistically, if you and your partner are feeding, clothing, & providing for some kids ya'll aint gon have more than you can handle. like i said earlier, if folk would keep in mind that they past WILL haunt them & think before they stick it in- we can eliminate the "woman OR man whore" altogether, and how your past will affect your present won't even be an issue. in a perfect world..

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