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Why do Guys LIE about What they Want in a Relationship?? Posted on 07-29-2008
sabrinaashields17

Okay, So I have a question when a Guy meets the WOMEN That could possibly be the "ONE" they spend time together,Love everything about each other, met each others parents ect... Why do They LIE about what they want From the Person??? I know Alot of guys whem they hang out they talk just as much as women do about THEM but when marriage and other topics are at hand they'er like OOO NOOO I will never get Married but then they'll put on a Front and tell U(Ladies) Yeah I wanna Get Married and Kids and all that other Stuff!!! Then when we call them there Guys are Like SHE got U on a Leash and all that other B** Ish!! LOLZ
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sabrinaashields17 replied on 07-31-2008 11:55AM [Reply]
NeoSoulBrotha wrote:
Sometimes they don't know what they want. If a dude doesn't know you that well (and you can't get to know someone well in a few weeks), he honestly doesn't know yet if you will be someone he wants to spend his life with. Other possibilities... he is interested in you, and doesn't want to scare you off so he says what he thinks you want to hear. Or, he may have an agenda. But for those types, you'll probably recognize that up front.
GREAT Explanation I dont have this problem any more I used to have it Im very happy in my relationship... I just know alot of friends that do have this problem I thought it was an interesting topic to dish out to the people... I do agree with you all the way because some of my friends are like this they see a guy hes cute thats sometimes ALL he is they fall in love... then they break up because they are at this point heart broken ( They come crying to me like Im Dr. PHIL LOL) ... because they were fed a bunch of lies!!! Thats why I tell them DONT rush HIM to do anything he dosent want to do other wise he will leave you in a Heartbeat!!
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xshortmochax replied on 08-25-2008 03:32AM [Reply]
whether it be just dating or long term, i dont think most people (men and women) even really know what they want out of a relationship...how many people do you know who actually take the time to sit down and think about what they want in a relationship and will not settle for less...thats why you have so many relationships that are a hot mess...before you can even have a healthy, successful relationship with someone else, you hafta truley know yourself!!
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TSUblueTiger replied on 08-25-2008 01:55PM [Reply]
^^^Good post!
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smc112 replied on 08-25-2008 04:12PM [Reply]
NeoSoulBrotha wrote:
Sometimes they don't know what they want. If a dude doesn't know you that well (and you can't get to know someone well in a few weeks), he honestly doesn't know yet if you will be someone he wants to spend his life with.
Yeah, it can be vice versa. With men I wait before I jump to the conclusion that he might be marriage material or not. I have to sit on it for a while, possibly a year or two. By a year or two, you will know most definitely if that person is the one or you need to be moving on!
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smc112 replied on 08-25-2008 04:18PM [Reply]
C_Nels wrote:
Enjoy life for a minute and then think about settling down....that's for males and females. Some females think they're ready for marriage but really aren't. Your life changes after marriage!
That is true. There is no rush to get married. You have the rest of your life to be married, and I encourage single people to enjoy their single years. When kids come into the picture, things do change. Children are a blessing but you do have to cater to them until they are out of your house and off to college. Even then, you still have to help support them when they are in school. To the person who started this thread, marriage shouldn't even come out of your mouth at the age of 17. I don't even suggest people in this day and age to be married at 21, because the maturity factor is not there. At least wait to 26 or 27 to be married.
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