Ms.SoDamnAmazing wrote:

Ok this is an issue of my Xanga entry that i wrote like 2 days ago..someone said it would be good for a discussion on HBCU...so i'd like to get both point of views on this topic... I mean..what chall think?? Oh yeh..if your in a " i dont give a fucck mood" as some of u are when you enter my post...click the back key and get cha ass out Today is a special issue of my Xanga page...and here goes the title " What it means to be wifed"...by tiphani Ok..so when the talk of commitment comes into play between to people who are feeling eachother, usually its the guy who gets scared and wants to back off and slow things down. He feels as though he'll loose his " freedom". Well in certain cases...THATS THE TRUTH.. Guys fail to realize that ALL females are not the same. Let me break it down to you The Needy chick- this is the worst kind to wife, she wants you to call her at least once every hour and she wants to spend all her free time with you. She never wants to go out with her girls and when she does she's always talkin about " I wonder what Rod is doing right now." I miss my baby"...ect..ect..ect.. She never wants you to hang out with your boys and when you do your " neglecting her needs"..Even when you look at another female who walks by she feels as though your cheating on her, whenever you get a phone call from a female/hug another female/ say HI to another female..your cheating on her.. The STALKER chick- now this should be obvious..but it starts out subtle..she'll start playing with ya phone, going through ya phone book joke'in like " who's tisha...haha ha...who's mia...haha"...she comes off madd normal...but as sooooooooon as you put the titles on the relationship...she's going through ya phone while you sleep...checking your text messages. He'll she'll call all the females in your phone book and let them kno yall together and not to call anymore. She might even call your mother. She seems to know where you are at during ALL times during the day... The "I'm Fucckin Ya Boy" chick- Ight this is sooo obvious...but niggaz get BLINDED by the beauty that they fail to realize they girl dippin out with some N*gga. She comes across as a GREAT girlfriend..spends time with u...doesnt hassle u...but shyt she likes the way yo guy looks in his white tee..and makes a move for him...all the while your too blinded by 'beauty' that you miss out on the fact that "she's fucckin ya boy"...you don't believe people who try to tell you this..and then u have to find out the hard way...you walk in her crib...and find her ass in the air...fucckin ya boy..damn shame Gumming Hoe- Ok...once again blinded by beauty...this is the chick that's gumming the hell out of you ( gumming means to take a N*gga for what he's worth)..she doesnt let you hit...but she puts some typa spell on ya ass that u jus take her out on dates...buy her shyt..and be a dumb ass cuz you have a "dime" on ya arm..she's the worst kinda female..but the most respected if she takes ya money and doesnt have to give u no booty... Laid back chick- this is the chick you really need to wife...she's cool calm and collected. She doesnt trip when you hang with ya boys, cuz Sh*t she likes to hang with her girls as well. She lets you have your free time, because she realizes that if yall stay up under eachother 24-7 that bullshit will get old and u guys will most likely end up arguing a hell of a lot. She likes to play cards/ps2/ and can shoot some dice. She doesnt have to be a tom-boy meaning she plays sports, but she does have a respect for " your sunday/monday night football time"..she doesnt call you 24-7...but she'll text you a couple times during the day to say whussup..she's the all around perfect chick... Most guys claim " they don't have time for a wifey"..and thats BULLSHYT..if you really wanted a girlfriend you'd have one..instead of using that tired ass line why don't you be honest and say... " I'm not looking to commit, I enjoy going out with other people, and Im pretty much willing to f**k, but still no commitment." Girls love the truth..and it would be GREAT if yall can be honest with yourselves. Also another point is guys are too busy looking for the ... "DIME PIECE"...you know..the long hair...light skinned...pretty eyes...ect..ect..ect where as they go after beauty and then they get pissed off when they realize nothing is there ... But...females do the same thing...and this is how we miss out on our " wifey's"..by looking only at the physical and not the WHOLE package.. Don't live in the moment of the situation you are in...you should think further down the line..." Is this person someone I can see myself being with in the next 5-10 years...is this person someone i can take home to my momz/popz and be happy about it..." ect ect Lets STOP being scared of commitment...lets STOP looking at the physical features...and LETS open our mind and our hearts to something real... We entering that age when marriage is about to become apart of our lives...not saying that you should go out looking for that wife or husband right now..but it should be at the back of your head... Soooo what have we learned today? That niggaz think with they dick and thats why they always say that bullshyt line " I've been hurt before...I don't have time for a girlfriend...ect ect". I mean...its the truth right?? thats why.. Niggaz aint shyt but hoez and tricks....and thats why I want a MAN PeAce