O.k. i have always wanted to attend a black college. I have gotten excepted into eveyone that I applied to. I'm very close to transfer to one but the one thing that is preventing me from making a final choice, besides saving a little more money attending a state school again next year, is that Im a dark skinned sista.Im so afraid about going to the south because I have heard from many people about how different darker skinned people are treated, especially by other blacks. Im from NY, and don't get me wrong, there is hella decrimination against darker skinned people, especailly sistas, but I have been told that its much worse down in the south. This may sound really trivial but this has been on my mind for the longest. My whole life I've heard, "you cute to be a dark skinned girl!" or "you a pretty BLACK girl!", Im used to it by now. I know that I am an attractive person and don't get it twisted, I get major play.....but I know that if I was lighter skinned I would get so much more attention and I wouldn't here uneducated comments. I have been to several places in the south because most of my family is from Alabama, Georgia or LA but I have never lived there for more that 2 months. My question is for all the people who had lived, live or spend a good amount of time in the south, how serious is the skin complexion issue there? Do I really have anything to woory about?Am I being to dramatic about whole thing?
beauty comes in all colors, another thing you must remember is that at any college the students are from all over.....meaning that there is no general belief within the college, because everyone comes in with whatever preconceived notions they have, college is also a time about experimenting and learning about yourself, so i would definitely say you have nothing to worry about....i grew up around almost all white people but i'm doing fine at an HBCU 8)
I think you are being a little too dramatic! Its not tht serious. The whole dark skinned vs. light skinned thing is played out. Thats something folks talked about in highschool. What matters in the south is that you have decent manners and you are not too arrogant. A lot of New Yorkers are very arrogant and people from the south hate that. So I say, as long as you are a classy young lady and have good manners you shouldnt have a problem.
Sweety i am dark myself and i know that here in NC their are people of all colors your coming to the south.....overpowering that thought your going to an HBCU ....there are people at HBCU's that are from trinidad and tabago and other islands. so you wont be the only dark skinned person....plus what does it matter what your skin tone really is your blood is red when it hit oxygen just like everybody else, your a real person. Beauty is more on the inside than on the out.. and that is true. i hope i have helped in some kind of way anymore question feel free to hit me up.
It may seem that the farther down south you go the more men you'll see with light skin women but that's not true. The majority of guys that I know date women because they like the way that they're shaped (thick). but i don't know that could be just me. growin up in texas i know that's how some guys are but i do know some guys who will date a light skin girl just on the basis that she might have long hair or light skin or light eyes or all three but that's not everybody. they'll also get it with a dark skin girl in a minute if they really feelin her
Good question, and believe it or not, the light-skin/dark-skin issue is still an influence. But mainly in rural communities.
At HBCUs, every shade of the human rainbow is represented and a lot of guys actually prefer dark-skinned women. I've seen some of the most beautiful chocolate sistas in school.
That's the good thing about an HBCU; the pressure of rich vs poor, dark vs light; white vs black; urban vs suburban vs rural is lifted for four years. And you all learn to operate as a family.
WELL WHERE I STAY THE COLOR OF YOUR SKIN DOESNT MATTER TO MUCH....WE HAVE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS TO WORRY ABOUT..SOO DONT STRESS TO MUCH ABOUT IT, COME ON TO THE SOUTH IF THATS WHERE U WANNA COME!
To tell you the truth, I heard more of that light skinned vs. dark skinned **** when I was living up North than I do now that I'm down South. As everyone said, there are men and women of all colors and backgrounds down here, and although we tease people sometimes, it's never a big issue. As a matter of fact, when this one guy made a comment about one of our school's dancers being "too black" to be a dancer, the WHOLE GROUP jumped on his **** and told him to shut his **** up.
So don't be afraid and come join us Southerners (yes, I claim being Southern now! I like it better down here ) As someone else pointed out, not everyone who goes to your school is necessarily going to be from the South, especially if you're looking to go to Spelman or FAMU. Morehouse and Spelman I know in particular have a lot of New Yorkers and other Northerners, so you're going to get people from all over...the out-of-state attendence is almost 80 percent.
But the thing is, what you may consider a joke, someone else might take to the heart. I know people who are not even that light skinned, and claim to be all that. Like "I don't date dark skin people" "ooooh, he too dark for me" I mean, you think its played out and ****. But like racsim between black and white is more concealed, so is skinnism between light and dark. Me, i'm proud of the mixture of black and red blood that flows through my veins (and I know that blood isn't black...ya'll know what that means) After many generations, I am a dark brown color. Be proud of what you are....your pride will make other respect you and look past your color.
if you're "used" to it, go for yours
i'm in atlanta and i see people of all shades, backgrounds, cultures and ideas of beauty. i've noticed that guys seem to be more focused on the girl having a body than her complexion...there are also a FEW that focus more on the inside than outer appearance.
) As someone else pointed out, not everyone who goes to your school is necessarily going to be from the South, especially if you're looking to go to Spelman or FAMU. Morehouse and Spelman I know in particular have a lot of New Yorkers and other Northerners, so you're going to get people from all over...the out-of-state attendence is almost 80 percent.
