Nothing!
I didn't get no special offers when I wanted to become a member of the
Oldest, Boldest, and Most Def the Coldest Frat
My Sands and I had to earn everything. Therefore we must teach them so that they Know that what they get is on the base of what they earn
NO SKATERS ALLOWED
"What Do We Owe Aspirants?"
NOTHING
We do not owe them anything, they are the ones who want what we have. Now we can answer certain questions that they may have, but we dont owe them anything. If they want it bad enough they find what they are looking for. We can give them advice, but they have to want it. We can answer questions but they have step up, and be man enough or woman enough to ask. We cant just baby and hand feed every aspiring G. D. I. No one did it for me, and I dont think that we should do it for them.
"People tend to forget how intimidated or scared they were when they wished to join an organization."
I agree with this statement. When persuing an organization, everyone was nervous at one point or another, but moreso for the reasons that laidback gave. "What kind of person do they see me as?", "Do they feel that I am worthy enough?" Those questions pose the greatest discomfort in any G. D. I. (We were all there) but as I said before, can help and give them a little bit of advice, but they have to suck it up and ask.
Before we can help anyone, they have to help themselves. This might be difficult for them to do, but who said that it was supposed to be easy?
laidback I have to say that I actually like what you have to say because youo are ever so honest. But really what do you own aspirants....I say nothing.
But what about people that fall into unfortunate situations when pledging sorority or fraternity XYZ. Like maybe at the time that they were in the "process" a package was denied, or someone died, or someone had an accident and had to delay their process. What do you owe those people that have to wait for certain things to fall into place?
But what about people that fall into unfortunate situations when pledging sorority or fraternity XYZ. Like maybe at the time that they were in the "process" a package was denied, or someone died, or someone had an accident and had to delay their process. What do you owe those people that have to wait for certain things to fall into place?
If someone died then I owe them my prayers, for their family.
I owe them nothing if they aren't Bruhs.
I owe an aspirant the same thing that i believe i owe any human being...respect. I don't feel as tho i'm any better than anyone else or that i should be put on a pedastal. I don't think it solves anything to be rude, nasty, or disrespectful towards someone, especially if it isn't called for. Some people like to be diffucult just for the hell of it, or to play mind games. I'm not into that ish. If i feel like they're question/comment is out of pocket, i can let them know that in a decent matter. I was Kenya before i was "that Zeta" so if "Kenya" is accustomed to handling situations in a certain way, then "that Zeta" is gonna handle situations in that same manner...with decency and respect.
Personally, I feel we definitely owe them more than nothing.
If anything we owe them right to be treated like the men/women they are. I don't know bout ya'll but i don't want somebody who is willing to let me treat them anyway I wantl to become part of my org. We are in the business of finding and making men therefore, we owe them the opportunity to prove that they are... what kind of man they are will be determined later on.
Also we owe them something to aspire to get into beyond the more superficial/surface things... A chapter/organization that doesn't just talk about what they do but actually uphold brotherhood/sisterhood, scholarship, service, and whatever values that individual org holds dear...
if we are on our A game then we will get quality interest who will be on their J.O..
A lot of y'all are going off on tangents.
Aspirants are humans.
Humans automatically get a certain level of respect from me.
Being that an aspirant is human, by default they get respect for having breath in their body.
What do I owe them past acknowledging that they are human?
A lot of y'all are going off on tangents.
Aspirants are humans.
Humans automatically get a certain level of respect from me.
Being that an aspirant is human, by default they get respect for having breath in their body.
What do I owe them past acknowledging that they are human?
I understand where you are coming from but truth be told way too many greekts don't even give them that much.
Aside from that we don't really OWE them much outside of being a good example of what it means to be part of our org.
What about those people who are first generation students. No one in their family has been to a college let alone been a member of a Greek ORG. They get to college see all the colors service projects, step shows and become interested. What are they to do? Go to the web sites and read. The differences are not really spelled out. They can not come to the members from reading the posts here. You have to worry about proper protocol, respect, overstepping boundaries, the etiquette, unspoken rules ( never reveal your interest) of simply being in the presence of members of BGLOG's. All people deserve respect and should not be punished or reprimanded for approaching you as another human being. That would be like a person asking a Vascular Surgeon what he does and the Surgeon getting **** because you don't know the difference between the medical specialities...which he worked so hard for.
I think that for aspirants it is really hard to find an org that they really want to feel like they fit into. I found that when I attended a Florida university, everyone fell into the org that was most active, rather than waiting for a particular org to become active again.
Aspirants don't know what they are getting into. It is hard t otry and figure out how people will receive you, so true colors are never shown until a friendly hand is extended.
I think aspirants need to keep their ears to the ground and their eyes on the prize an they will get to where they want to be. They have to learn how to be patient.
For whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required.
