Ok. I've never seen this addressed in a thread...
What if a greek asks an aspirant if he/she is interested in their org (and he/she is, but has never expressed interest)? Should the aspirant lie?
What if the greek is a friend of the aspirant? Should the aspirant then be honest?
Will a greek even ask such a question?
Also, when is it appropriate for an aspirant to express interest to a greek he/she knows in that chapter? 1st semester (soph. year) seems too early and Rush seems too late....when (if) did you verbally express interest?
I hope my questions don't cross any boundaries. Forgive me if they do.
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Glad to know I'm not on the greek hit list! Not all prospects ask dumb, unthought out questions.
'Preciate the luv & informative responses!
Thanks so much for asking this question girl! I really am puzzled on when the right time to formally express your interest is. Some say the earlier the better. Others say you should wait until you are somewhat established, and have bonded with a few of the members.
I know it is probably evident that I am interested, but I am not trying to jump the gun. I don't want to mess anything up.
Neways this is probably the most I have said in this forum (and the most I ever will) regarding my interest in pledging, but this topic happened to hit home with me.
O yea, is it true that it is best to show that you know some information, but not EVERYTHING? And should you be dressed professionally when you express interest?
Dressed professionally...it depends on the setting in which you are in.
I didn't give them info until they asked for it. I didn't just go up to a Delta and name off the founders (I know you wouldn't do this-it probably didn't cross your mind to be THAT bold) but believe...when they asked me something, I was on top of it.
I didn't just go up to a Delta and name off the founders (I know you wouldn't do this-it probably didn't cross your mind to be THAT bold)
Now thats a bit much!! I know you MUST be prepared when asked questions, BUT I have been told before that you should show that there is still some room for growth, and that you should not act like a know-it-all.
I think people should express interest after theyve done enough research to be fairly knowledgeable about all the D9 and/or other orgs. I expressed my interest at the beginning of sp 04, and didn't end up going through the membership intake process until sp 05. During the time in between tho, I did interest things, among which was going to Philly Greekfest last summer with my to-be prophytes.
When I was interested, I wasn't all too worried about finding the right time to express my interest. I just did it when I felt I knew that I wanted to become a part of Alpha. I think, generally, the chapter will decide if/when they'd like to bring you into the organization, regardless of the 'timing' of your expressing of interest. In my chapter, although we might know you are interested, see that you have the credentials, and we generally think that you'd be a good addition to the chapter, but do not think you are ready to be brought in, we have no problems making you wait.
Lots of helpful advice between OoHatDude and Laidback. Thanks.
I have a question tho.
What makes a greek go out and " recruit " someone as opposed to a person going out and trying to get their face familiar amongst those greeks...if that makes sense
For example...I have friend at school who has told me that all ABC orgs have all came to him. Im just curious to know what stands out about a person that the org would come to them...I mean I know at FAMU if you are in SGA thats a big recruitment from Greeks cause they like to recruit student leaders, but other then that Im curious to know what they see in an aspirant that they would go out of their way to express interest in them.
Im not sure if yall can answer that, but some type of response would be appreciated.
Ok. I've never seen this addressed in a thread...
What if a greek asks an aspirant if he/she is interested in their org (and he/she is, but has never expressed interest)? Should the aspirant lie?
What if the greek is a friend of the aspirant? Should the aspirant then be honest?
Will a greek even ask such a question?
Also, when is it appropriate for an aspirant to express interest to a greek he/she knows in that chapter? 1st semester (soph. year) seems too early and Rush seems too late....when (if) did you verbally express interest?
I hope my questions don't cross any boundaries. Forgive me if they do.
If you're interested in XYZ and an XYZ asks, there's no reason to lie. However, I highly doubt a Greek would ask an aspirant straight out if they're interested in becoming a member. I wasn't asked when I was an aspirant nor do I ask now. It wasn't until I personally expressed my interest to the sorors of my chapter that I was then asked why I wanted to become a member. A Greek will ask why do you want to be a member, but not do you want to be a member of such and such.
Um, 1st semester of your sophomore year is when you need to express your interest to a member discreetly. If you are good friends with a member, then you can tell that person. If not, then speak to or write a letter to the membership co-chair or the president of the chapter. Remember though to be discreet. Don't wait till rush, b/c if you wait till then you'll probably will have already missed the 'boat.'
^^^^ Is it smart to email a greek member at your school period when trying to express interest? I have concidered it before but decided to wait.
It depends...With me, I emailed. It was "formal" (well as formal as an email could be)...so no 'ttyl' or 'i c myself' etc. However I think it depends on the Internet culture of your school. At mine, everyone (professors, deans, students, etc.) communicates via email. Also you need to take the chapter into account...meaning if the women in the chapter dress up business casual at all their events then perhaps they're more formal in their approach and would appreciate a typed note/letter or you telling one face to face in an appropriate setting.
