Fellas... How come yall got problems wit us ladies havin friends that are guys? I told my boyfriend that my friend from high school was comin from detroit back home to do somethin at the radio station here (he's in the music industry). When I told him that I was goin to see him, maybe for dinner or something, he flipped out!! Why is what I wanna kno?
Fellas...?
I am starting to think you don't like me very much...
You haven't posted anything to cause me to gain or lose an appreciation for you.
I simply want to gain a better understanding of your value of "best friends".
Men and women have a different interpretation of 'best friends' LBF. You know that.
But hey, women's lib has some of them thinking they know men or manhood better than we as men ever could. Go fig.
But getting back to the original question. . . it's like a never ending battle. You get irritated if we're slightly jealous of the 'old friend' in town for a visit. We're supposed to be secure. . etc etc yackety smackety.
But the second that you say you know what? It's cool I trust you, and act indifferent towards the thousands of guys that are hitting on your girl every day; she begins to question whether you care for or are passionate about her. You can't win fellas. . . I say if you're jealous, be an **** and continue to be jealous. If she don't leave you, then that means she likes the attention anyway.
LOL
The absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence: Perception is the mother of numerous break-ups. There is no reason to gain more friends of the opposite gender unless you looking. Most of the time for trouble or validation if you feel your partner is lacking in whatever area. For those with friends already, tread lightly. If old boy/girl wanna hang out, do it together as a crew (u, ur mate, and the friend). This will dissuade any and all feasible doubts. But if you go on the date anyway, without your partner, you are asking your mate to trust both of you. You "could" be trustworthy, but all it takes is perception. Now the question at hand: is your current relationship's health worth dinner (innocent or otherwise)?
Like I always advise younger troops who think doing something could get them in hot water: I normally say, "Do what you "think" your career can handle. And if you are wrong, be prepared to accept whatever the outcome." In this case, do what you think your relationship can handle.
