I agree with you about a man needing to be affirmed and that some women can overlook, over analysis, and always compare the men we are dealing with; but what is so wrong with that? What is so wrong with using the wisdom you gained from your pervious dealings with men to decide whether you should invest time in this interested suitor? I don't think is ever wise to rush into anything, because as quick as you can fall into love, you can fall right out of it. However, I think it is a sign of maturity for anyone not to enter into a relationship, (even if that man or woman is great...), if your not ready for that type of commitment. YOU can't rush people and if your looking more for a WIFE, maybe God is trying to tell you that this person is not (THE ONE). It might be a way of Him protecting YOUR heart. And, every experience with others prepares you for that (ONE); so when the time is right you'll know she it (the one), because she won't have the same actions as the previous women you have dealt with. Don't you DESERVE the BEST?