We all know the cliche about finding a man/woman at church - how many of you have experienced it?If so, how did things work out? Was your relationship better than those that started in the secular world? Do people still bring the same issues to the table?Just curious...
nope i wouldn't "meet somebody" in church. see... i don't know about anybody else, but usually when i go to church , it's to get my praise on.
plus the way i view dating, God will place the man i'm supposed to be with into my life. i shouldn't be searching high and low for him, because i might get so caught up in searching that i miss who i'm really supposed to be with. so when I go to church, i focus on church. if *future husband* just so happens to be sitting a few pews behind me, then God will make it happen, not me.
I think most people are missing the point to this question. He is not saying that Church is a dating service or something like a club where you go and meet people OR should you go to church to find a date? He was asking to compare dating someone in the church versus dating someone outside of the church. And to keep it real, church people DO date and usually they date each other and they do not necessarily attend the same church. That is great if you are waiting on God to send you a woman or a man. But still there are others that have experience dating "church" people and "secular" people and this question should be answered by them because we are trying to get stories and opinions about the differences in dating those two separate groups of people.
well from my experience its not all that much different because youre gonna be who u are regardless of who is around you, that is if you're real about yourself... like you could play the good girl role but really outside of church you're a different person... but dating a secular person kind of makes you less wary of what you're doing...ive dated both and viewed others' experiences and the experience is not that much different...except for that the person that you're dating inside the church may be more conservative about their actions..whearas the person who doesnt go to church is more liberated to do anything...
i can agree with smc112 it often seem the ones that are in church are the worst like this one i guy i was talking to that goes to my friends old church he was just terrible he thought that he was better than me, it was a privilege for me to just even talk to him ....... and don't let me get started lol but let just say im glad i don't attend church with him
i can agree with smc112 it often seem the ones that are in church are the worst like this one i guy i was talking to that goes to my friends old church he was just terrible he thought that he was better than me, it was a privilege for me to just even talk to him ....... and don't let me get started lol but let just say im glad i don't attend church with him
Sounds like that dude was right terrible! LOL He couldn't have been worse than mine. The church dude I was talking to was a pathological liar too. He lied so much, I think he even started to believe those lies he was telling! I'm telling these women need to watch out, do not get fooled by a brother raising his hands in the church. All at the same time he might be undressing you with his eyes! Planning how he is going to pounce on his naive prey! Ha Ha
nope i wouldn't "meet somebody" in church. see... i don't know about anybody else, but usually when i go to church , it's to get my praise on.
plus the way i view dating, God will place the man i'm supposed to be with into my life. i shouldn't be searching high and low for him, because i might get so caught up in searching that i miss who i'm really supposed to be with. so when I go to church, i focus on church. if *future husband* just so happens to be sitting a few pews behind me, then God will make it happen, not me.
I think she pretty much said it in a nutshell...
I don't think people should get caught up on WHERE they meet someone...unless its the club...then I have to ask...WHY were YOU there, and if that is the case, then no wonder the guy u met is a NUT! lol...but no in all seriousness...I know plenty of people who met their mates in church, including my parents...and I know plenty to met their mates OUTSIDE of church...to me, its all about their character and their love for God, not so much about if they go to every service, bible study...etc
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
Everyone has pretty much said what I was thinking except I wonted to add the fact that we can't just think about the person we're meeting, we have to focus on the person they're meeting. (MEANING OURSELVES) A lot of times people say the reason why something doesn't work out was because of the other person. Well, if the same problem is happening in each relationship, than eventually somebody is going to have to look in the mirror and be honest with themselves. All we can do is get ourselves together. If a lot of people would be honest, they aren't even ready to date, because they are still trying to get themselves together. It's just that SOCIETY makes it seem like a bad thing when someone is single and not looking. My question is how can you say what you want if you don't even know what you have to offer? Know yourself, love yourself, spend time with yourself and then you wont try to make that other person your everything. Let God be your EVERYTHING, because when you make someone else your everything, they can leave you with nothing. Instead of looking for the prize, you'll have to realized that you are the prize.
Superfly, I noticed your whole message was pertaining to what other people are doing in the church. That is none of your concern! You have to have a relationship with Jesus for yourself! You are the one who will stand before Jesus on judgment day and he is not going to listen to your long tirade of what the other people were doing. The best thing that you said at the end of your message is that you are there to learn. That is what you need to do! Just sit there and continue to learn. It is obvious that you need to sit at Jesus's feet and learn from him. You don't have to ever worry about a Christian woman wanting you in the state that you are in! A Holy Ghost filled woman of God will discern your ways, and will not waste time listening to that foolishness you are talking about! So you won't ever have to worry about finding a woman at the Church because she's NOT going to want YOU! Women of God are looking for men who love Jesus and aren't afraid to tell the whole world about it! There isn't anything desireable about an unsaved man. Trust that unsaved men are not high on the list! Woman are looking for men who will honor them like Jesus honored the church! All of those sterotypes that you mentioned are really superficial and silly! It looks like you are too busy observing and philosophizing about other people and you aren't listening to anything the preacher is saying nor reading the Bible.
I'm telling these women need to watch out, do not get fooled by a brother raising his hands in the church. All at the same time he might be undressing you with his eyes! Planning how he is going to pounce on his naive prey! Ha Ha 
