We all know the cliche about finding a man/woman at church - how many of you have experienced it?If so, how did things work out? Was your relationship better than those that started in the secular world? Do people still bring the same issues to the table?Just curious...
Relationships are relationships so its not like meeting somebody in the church is going to be peachy keen... and church is not a place to just meet a potential mate, but i do believe God uses to put his children together on common ground. I met my boyfriend at school but it was a christian ministry we were in that brought us together. I do however find tha difference in dating a Church guy and unsaved guy is that u are more on one accord. Like when i told the unsaved guy my wonderful experiences at church and how good God has been to me he just didnt "get it" like my current boyfriend now...so yea i guess thats the difference ive experienced
The only thing that you have to be very careful of is this: Letting your guard down! You have to be careful not to let your guard down with these church men. I know you don't want to be paranoid but you have to be very cautious. A lot of the men (women included) are in church for the wrong reasons. A lot of men will bring those worldly games into the church. They might quote scriptures all day but what you need to watch is their actions. Actions speak louder than words and a tree is known by the fruit it bears. There are many people that have met their mate in the church and there is nothing wrong with that. People just have to pray about anyone they meet whether it is outside the church or inside.
i understand what your saying but the fact of the matter is in ANY relationship eventually you will have to let your guard down, trust and not be so "paranoid" that everybody is out to get you and that they all are trying to do you dirty....Of course when in the beginning of the relationship you can be cautious and always take all things to God in prayer throughout. But if all is well and you are always waiting for him to slip up and be "fake" then what kind of relationship and life is that?
I was meaning at the beginning of a relationship you need to be extra precautious. Oh of course, you need to let your guard down with a man you feel is actually the one God has ordained for you to be with. That is if he's the one, but you have to seek God out to find that answer. Those are some of the quickest prayers that are answered about relationships. God knows how important relationships are and he will let you know real quick if someone is the right one for you or not.
oh ok. Well yea i understand that much.Thats very true!
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
You ladies were having an interesting conversation and I just had to comment on it even though you have went on to something else. The main thing that I wanted to say is that you should always pray to God. Even if everything is going good in a relationship, and not just in the beginning. When someone ask me out I tell them that I have to pray about it. If they don't honor that then you know already that they are not for you. Then I don't give them an answer until the Lord gives me an answer. Dating is not for just doing things together, dating is suppose to lead to marriage. You are not suppose to be trying people out, that's what you do before you get saved. Once you get saved you realize that dating is a serious thing and you shouldn't take it lightly. At least that's the way I see it. Now, as far as having to worry about opening up or not, that shouldn't even be an issue. You should have already been paying attention to this gentleman before you guys go out on your first date. You should already know what kind of relationship he has with God so that you'll know what kind of relationship he will have with you.
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
You ladies were having an interesting conversation and I just had to comment on it even though you have went on to something else. The main thing that I wanted to say is that you should always pray to God. Even if everything is going good in a relationship, and not just in the beginning. When someone ask me out I tell them that I have to pray about it. If they don't honor that then you know already that they are not for you. Then I don't give them an answer until the Lord gives me an answer. Dating is not for just doing things together, dating is suppose to lead to marriage. You are not suppose to be trying people out, that's what you do before you get saved. Once you get saved you realize that dating is a serious thing and you shouldn't take it lightly. At least that's the way I see it. Now, as far as having to worry about opening up or not, that shouldn't even be an issue. You should have already been paying attention to this gentleman before you guys go out on your first date. You should already know what kind of relationship he has with God so that you'll know what kind of relationship he will have with you.
amen! lol its good to see others that think like that and take dating seriously like i do...though im only 18 i take these things very seriously which is why i never was a "casual dater" and short term relationships with just anybody didnt appeal to me.I want something that will last and will lead to marriage. I am dating someone now who is on the same page as me (talk about a miracle i never thought i would find a man who felt so strongly about it as me, more like he found me!) and yes God is always a must in anything for me...how else will the relationship be prosperous? so i applaud anybody who can see this at a young age
Friendship is a great place to start if you are interested in a relationship...with that being said, I'm VERY picky about who I call a FRIEND...
Second, if I don't have peace about it in my spirit, I don't pursue ANYTHING...PERIOD...no matter WHERE I met them! Third, I don't DATE, I COURT...dating and courting is not the same thing, courtship is seeing someone with the intent of marriage...I see people who date just to date..regardless, you pray about ANYTHING before you continue in that direction...
First thought on this is that no matter where you meet a person we all come with our own personal inventory of mess. I think the misconception is that when you meet a person in the church they're going to be completely different than the people in the world, but the that is a wrong way to look at things. I am a Christian and I go to church 3 times a week. I go to young adult bible study on Monday, Wednesday night bible study, and service on Sunday morning. The thing with Christians is that we have accepted Christ, are constantly allowing Him to work on us, and trying to become more and more like him daily; but that's a personal relationship between you and Him. Now the problem in a lot of relationships no matter where you meet is that you have to learn to submit to the other at times, learn to agree on things that you might no want to agree on, over come the historical things that handicap your interactions, and ultimately allow yourself to be completely vulnerable with the other person. Because we all have had years of programing before we started dating it can be difficult trying to adjust to certain behaviors. The only two positive points to dating in church verses the world if you too are a Christian would be that you are evenly yolked and that you are with someone who daily examines themselves to see where the adjustments need to be made in them and not pointing the finger at you all the time. I mean the reality is that none of us is perfect and all have flaws so relationships have struggles because the two must learn to become one and that is true for any relationship no matter where you meet.
First thought on this is that no matter where you meet a person we all come with our own personal inventory of mess. I think the misconception is that when you meet a person in the church they're going to be completely different than the people in the world, but the that is a wrong way to look at things. I am a Christian and I go to church 3 times a week. I go to young adult bible study on Monday, Wednesday night bible study, and service on Sunday morning. The thing with Christians is that we have accepted Christ, are constantly allowing Him to work on us, and trying to become more and more like him daily; but that's a personal relationship between you and Him. Now the problem in a lot of relationships no matter where you meet is that you have to learn to submit to the other at times, learn to agree on things that you might no want to agree on, over come the historical things that handicap your interactions, and ultimately allow yourself to be completely vulnerable with the other person. Because we all have had years of programing before we started dating it can be difficult trying to adjust to certain behaviors. The only two positive points to dating in church verses the world if you too are a Christian would be that you are evenly yolked and that you are with someone who daily examines themselves to see where the adjustments need to be made in them and not pointing the finger at you all the time. I mean the reality is that none of us is perfect and all have flaws so relationships have struggles because the two must learn to become one and that is true for any relationship no matter where you meet.
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
I agree!!!
Regardless of where you meet a person, you still have to deal with the person on the inside. Everyone needs to know who they are and where they are headed in life and why; otherwise, they can't bring anything to a relationship. If you are miserable as a single person, than you will be miserable as a couple, because you can't find your joy & happiness in anyone else (besides God!!!)
PRAISE THE LORD!!!
If you are miserable as a single person, than you will be miserable as a couple, because you can't find your joy & happiness in anyone else (besides God!!!)
