Go to college for YOU, not for anyone else. Because in the end its all about YOU and what YOU need to do to become successful. His college may not be the best for whatever field YOUR interested in and that may affect your experience. And lets say you do go to college for him... and in the worst case scenario, it doesn't work out?... Then what?? Transfer and start all over?? Or maybe stay and make the best of it hopeing that you can move on and it won't take a toll on your school performance. Could you live with seeing him on camous with another girl and not having it affect you in the least bit?? Because in the end it's all about YOU and YOUR life. Just keep in mind, "YOUR education comes FIRST... everything else is second."
Your mother has a good point, however, it is important to get out into the world and have your own experiences. Whatevever college choice you make, be sure that it is in your best interests both academically and for your future career aspirations. It is never easy, but do your best to make the choice, which works for you, not for everyone else. As you stated, it is hard to please everyone and you cannot do it anyway. Your mother raised you; now it is your turn to apply what you have learned and make good choices for your future. I'm sure that you will do the right thing for you.
Good luck!
M.che'
Too Much Woman
I have to say that I'm having a similar problem but like 2Dolce4Gabanna said it has to be your choice. Choose the school that best fits your educational, financial, and overall needs. But what I don't understand is in one post you are saying that you are choosing NC to be closer to him yet he has nothing to do with you choice. You said you want to please everyone but that your boyfriend is very supportive and wants you to decide for you. As for your mother if you can give her a better reason for choosing a school besides your boyfriend and you two can come to decision together I think she will fine.
Hey girl!
I would listen to your mother, she know best. I would not attend a school to get closer to my bf they come and go, if he is really for you then he will respect that decision and have a long distance realtionship until spring break or the holidays were the two of you can see each other. Trust me on this one.
Go to college for YOU, not for anyone else. Because in the end its all about YOU and what YOU need to do to become successful. His college may not be the best for whatever field YOUR interested in and that may affect your experience. And lets say you do go to college for him... and in the worst case scenario, it doesn't work out?... Then what?? Transfer and start all over?? Or maybe stay and make the best of it hopeing that you can move on and it won't take a toll on your school performance. Could you live with seeing him on camous with another girl and not having it affect you in the least bit?? Because in the end it's all about YOU and YOUR life. Just keep in mind, "YOUR education comes FIRST... everything else is second."
Lol so um yeah i agree with dolce's subliminal message college is all about YOU so gurl do u in college now is the time to be selfish watching out for u and your education and the memories youll make during this precious venture into the "unknown" lol so live it up and in my opinion i think its the worst thing to go to college while in a relationship because college brings on a whole diff sea of fish and not to say to be a hoe or degrade urself....modestly ur may be introduced to someone much better than the one u've recieved in the past but gurl think with your HEAD and not with your HEART and i wish u the best
Think about this
1) Did you go to college to find a boyfriend/girlfriend/potential mate, or to get an education to further your career?
2) Do you think you can handle a relationship emotionally, spiritually, physically, mentally, and intellectually?
Every choice has a consequence, the question is: will it be good for you?
Take Care
