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HAVE YOU BEEN IN LOVE BEFORE??? Posted on 06-11-2004
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I just thought about this topic from so many different convedrsations I have had with people...And the topic of love and relationships come up. And I will tell someone ( specifically guys ), that I have never been in love before and they find it shocking. Mainly because of 1) my age and 2) the fact that girls tend to fall in love easier than guys...so for me to be almost 20 and never been in love surprises people. What do yall think about girls falling in love easier than guys, and have you been in love before???
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replied on 06-12-2004 03:12PM [Reply]
na i've never been in love
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ThatClassyGirl216 replied on 06-12-2004 03:14PM [Reply]
ReDD HarLeM DeViLL wrote:
* $ MiLa $ * wrote:
I gotta question, since most of yall have been in love b4: How do you REALLY know that you are in love with another person, and not just lusting after them real hard??? Whats that one thing you know for yourself that lets you know that you are in love??? I know some people may not be able to explain it...but anyone who has the slightest idea to help me understand would be helpful.
This is a tough one to answer, cuz everyone has different views, thoughts, feelings and ways of going about and seeing things. Me and a fellow HBCU Central-el were arguing the other night on whether there was a such thing as "Love at First Sight", I honestly do not believe so. Love is so much more than an Idea, Word, thought, or feeling for that matter. It's a complicated matter when trying to distinguish strong feelings and true serious LOVE, especially when you have no idea what it really is. Going on this "Love at First Sight" to me that is LUST. You see something you want and go after it, something comes to you and you taKe it. It's there to serve it's purpose which is to fulfill your need(s) for this love you seeK but, is not what you thought it was. Love is a PROCESS, something the two of you collectively share. Completely, Whole Heartedly, Open Honest and true. It is not to be searched for, it's not something you would find by looKing, and dayum sure ain't popping up over night. When you are in love, and that love is TRUE, you have found your "Other" as I call them. The one that maKes you whole, the one that completes your being, the one that you can see forever with. All questions are answered and there are no more to be asKed, Trust is not an issue, Honor and Honesty is a given, Loyalty and Commitment without question, you'd have no second thoughts, no matter how tough or rough things get you Know without a doubt he/she will be there regardless, and what you feel for them is truely unconditional and limitless. ....Oh yeah, and never giving up. Cuz you will get tested on your faith in your love. There will be other Men/Women who will try you and your partner. When you give in to them, or seperate with your partner then you've given up. Things liKe that you just you push through together, love is all about ups and downs, the moment you give up on it... you've failed. Oh yeah, Love Hurts... I'm done...
He explained it pretty nicely...and yeah love does hurt!
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AggieWarrior from Charlotte, NC replied on 06-12-2004 09:54PM [Reply]

right now i am... but i still got a shield on my heart though.... i've been single for the past three years before March and for a year and a half i was still hurt by the things my last girl did... somethings now i still think of what i did wrong b/c i just got dissed for no good reason... i'm really just taking the relationship i'm in right now a day at a time... i just still feel the pain of the past one... and i can't fully love anyone to the maximum ability... b/c that shield is always up... and only time can change that shield... i know this will be a shock to a lot of people, but this is the truth... as much as i love the girl i'm with now... inside of me there's still that dark spot that will always be there... b/c i was in love, and it wasn't returned... and it was a crushing blow to my whole being... so yeah, i've been in love before, and in my side this is a risk for me to be in love right now... and i'm takin it a day at a time... :arrow:
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oOoDazzlingDanceroOo replied on 06-12-2004 10:04PM [Reply]
Yes, I am in love now...And I'm loving it! I've been through my hurt and pain from love...Now that I found my boo, it was all worth it..Man, I love that chocolate nicca. ..No man can make me feel so much love and joy for myself than him...Damn, I miss him, c'mon August 24th. :wink: :twisted:
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In Rod We Trust replied on 06-12-2004 10:10PM [Reply]
Man I wanna be in a happy relationship too
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AggieSweetie07 replied on 06-13-2004 01:39AM [Reply]
AggieWarrior wrote:
right now i am... but i still got a shield on my heart though.... i've been single for the past three years before March and for a year and a half i was still hurt by the things my last girl did... somethings now i still think of what i did wrong b/c i just got dissed for no good reason... i'm really just taking the relationship i'm in right now a day at a time... i just still feel the pain of the past one... and i can't fully love anyone to the maximum ability... b/c that shield is always up... and only time can change that shield... i know this will be a shock to a lot of people, but this is the truth... as much as i love the girl i'm with now... inside of me there's still that dark spot that will always be there... b/c i was in love, and it wasn't returned... and it was a crushing blow to my whole being... so yeah, i've been in love before, and in my side this is a risk for me to be in love right now... and i'm takin it a day at a time... :arrow:
*as she thinks to herself*
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1FocusedBruh replied on 06-13-2004 02:05AM [Reply]
Being In Love is Great!!! But being in a relationship is like working a 9-5 job but without the off days.... Is it possible to be in LOVE but without the relationship??
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ClassyWisdom08 replied on 06-13-2004 02:09AM [Reply]
1Fine_Iota wrote:
Being In Love is Great!!! But being in a relationship is like working a 9-5 job but without the off days.... Is it possible to be in LOVE but without the relationship??
Thats the reason people(mostly male species) dont like being in relationships.It takes constant work and effort.Thats why so many relationships go down the drain....Not enough time and work put into. Its very possible to love someone and not be in a relationship with them.
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replied on 06-13-2004 02:41AM [Reply]
Riley Freeman wrote:
Nope, can't say that i've been in love before
Oh u havent? .. Thats cuz u havent met me yet .. I can take care of that for u lol :lol:
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replied on 06-13-2004 03:12AM [Reply]
AggieWarrior wrote:
right now i am... but i still got a shield on my heart though.... i've been single for the past three years before March and for a year and a half i was still hurt by the things my last girl did... somethings now i still think of what i did wrong b/c i just got dissed for no good reason... i'm really just taking the relationship i'm in right now a day at a time... i just still feel the pain of the past one... and i can't fully love anyone to the maximum ability... b/c that shield is always up... and only time can change that shield... i know this will be a shock to a lot of people, but this is the truth... as much as i love the girl i'm with now... inside of me there's still that dark spot that will always be there... b/c i was in love, and it wasn't returned... and it was a crushing blow to my whole being... so yeah, i've been in love before, and in my side this is a risk for me to be in love right now... and i'm takin it a day at a time... :arrow:
Idunno the whole and complete situation, but in order for you to truely be able to say you Love the one you are with now, you have to allow yourself to let go of what happened. Don't allow the past to mess up today and tomorrow for you, especially if things are going in a good direction. If you continue to hold up this Shield as you say then it is obvious that you are not yet ready for a relationship. It is a good thing tho that you have chosen to stand by your decision and staying with the feelings you have now for this person, but at the same time If you can't allow yourself to see past what has happened already then you are setting yourself and your partner up for a great let down, Which will be due to your thoughts and doubts, and all else that you are holding on to in your mind. Trust when I tell ya, It's not that easy but it is so much better to let it all go *I have been there before* When you let all that is holding you bacK from truely loving this girl completely...When you let that go, THAT is when you and her will both be able to be happy about the situation. Cuz right now (From what I see, and I might be off or a li'l wrong) she does not completely have our heart, the way that she should. Not with that shield present... Not trying to **** in or anything, just looKin out
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