me personally, ive never been in a serious relationship the ones involving "wow i love you more than like you" so one day i would like to experience that...for me i guess there is no rush...its just i would like to experience something like that at least once ya know before i do settle down so at least i know if i really do have strong feelings for the person i do decide to marry because ive been through it before....ok time to stop the mushiness..........
but im planning on being a single adoptive parent(labor scares me) so ummm i really dont think im going to marry anytime near 30 lol
I feel that there are alot of females that are in good committed relationships but there are just as many that are not. The thing with me is I am trying to finish up school but in that process I know that God will send me that right man that will be right for me. I don't really feel that I am not totally ready for a committed relationship I just feel that I am trying to finish school. I have always been told that I am very mature for my age and when I look around at some of the guys today I do see alot that are not interested in anything serious, but it depends on where there maturity is. I have had many decent guys approach me that did want a more serious relationship so there are soome out here. To answer one question I do look for someone on a mature mode that will want to settle down.
I know for me i dated my boyfriend from junior high school all the way to college before i fiqured out he wasn't the one. So now im taking my time having fun and just being me. If the fellas can't get with that then they don't need to be with me. There's just to much going on at school to try and focus one person cause you'll alwyas feel like your missing soemthing that's how i felt my first couple of months. I felt like i was missing out on everything so i opted to just being friends. If it was meant to be then it'll be. 8)
I know for me i dated my boyfriend from junior high school all the way to college before i fiqured out he wasn't the one. So now im taking my time having fun and just being me. If the fellas can't get with that then they don't need to be with me. There's just to much going on at school to try and focus one person cause you'll alwyas feel like your missing soemthing that's how i felt my first couple of months. I felt like i was missing out on everything so i opted to just being friends. If it was meant to be then it'll be. 8)
I agree I sometimes hear people comment on how after we leave our HBCUs atmospheres that there will be less likely of a chance to meet better rounded single black individuals. I had a guy say once that the women in the AU Center should stop being so stuck up because it was the last time they would be around such eligible black men. I think he was a little bitter, but as far as being around a massive group of hard working intelligent black students and maybe not getting the chance to be in an environment like that after graduation; I think he was right.
I'm not looking for love in college but if it come my way cool.
I was in a committed or at least I thought it was committed relationship and it did not work out. Sometimes I see my peers in relationships and I think "Damn I would love to be in a committed relationship" but then I think about my last relationship and although we had a lot of fun together, I was not happy. I saw the warning signs and I exnored them because I wanted to be with him. I learned a very valuble lesson: You have to put your feelings first and if your not happy or you feel somethings not right, then do what you have to do to keep yourself happy. Never settle. I repeat never settle. If your settling, then you are subjecting yourself to mediocrity, and no one should live like that.
I was in a committed or at least I thought it was committed relationship and it did not work out. Sometimes I see my peers in relationships and I think "Damn I would love to be in a committed relationship" but then I think about my last relationship and although we had a lot of fun together, I was not happy. I saw the warning signs and I exnored them because I wanted to be with him. I learned a very valuble lesson: You have to put your feelings first and if your not happy or you feel somethings not right, then do what you have to do to keep yourself happy. Never settle. I repeat never settle. If your settling, then you are subjecting yourself to mediocrity, and no one should live like that.
I was in a committed or at least I thought it was committed relationship and it did not work out. Sometimes I see my peers in relationships and I think "Damn I would love to be in a committed relationship" but then I think about my last relationship and although we had a lot of fun together, I was not happy. I saw the warning signs and I exnored them because I wanted to be with him. I learned a very valuble lesson: You have to put your feelings first and if your not happy or you feel somethings not right, then do what you have to do to keep yourself happy. Never settle. I repeat never settle. If your settling, then you are subjecting yourself to mediocrity, and no one should live like that.
That is so very true. I was in the exact position, and although I had a lot of fun with the guy, I wasn't happy either, and I also ignored the warning signs. Thanx for the advice!!
