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What would you do if you were in his shoes? Posted on 10-01-2004
Wisdom_Tree

^^^I concur.... Good Luck Tres...::hug::
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NeoSoulBrotha from Rosedale, MD replied on 10-02-2004 02:33AM [Reply]

Things are best as they already are. The first girl is a good friend, and you should leave it that way. Good friends don't always make good lovers, and if they don't you've destroyed the friendship. The other two are out of your life by choice. I would leave it that way. There's more opportunities out there. Sometimes it is better to get a fresh start than open up old wounds. Holla!
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Blutifully Human replied on 10-02-2004 11:00PM [Reply]
You're single for a reason Tres. Most peeps look at it as a negative thing sometimes, but this is really an important time in your life. Thru singlehood u truly have time to focus on yourself, your needs, and your issues. So when the RIGHT relationship with the RIGHT lady comes along, you can truly be equipped to handle it. I know i'm supposed to be putting myself in YOUR shoes, but look...i've been single all my life, not ONE relationship. And yeah, i have my whiney moments, but i trust that God has had it that way for a divine reason. All i can tell u to do is let go & let God. If u are truly meant to be with one of these young ladies, it will all unfold in time. Don't force it. :wink:
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Kinkee replied on 10-04-2004 08:08PM [Reply]
*PURE*Kindnezz wrote:
You're single for a reason Tres. Most peeps look at it as a negative thing sometimes, but this is really an important time in your life. Thru singlehood u truly have time to focus on yourself, your needs, and your issues. So when the RIGHT relationship with the RIGHT lady comes along, you can truly be equipped to handle it. I know i'm supposed to be putting myself in YOUR shoes, but look...i've been single all my life, not ONE relationship. And yeah, i have my whiney moments, but i trust that God has had it that way for a divine reason. All i can tell u to do is let go & let God. If u are truly meant to be with one of these young ladies, it will all unfold in time. Don't force it. :wink:
I cosign even though I have been through a relationship. Like she said, being single help you evaluate yourself and determine which journey to take. God will make it known what he whats to do what your life. And remember that everything happens for a reason. Just use it as a learning experience. Good Luck.
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Wisdom_Tree replied on 10-04-2004 08:28PM [Reply]
Okay, so girl M became my friend, Girl S...well, we're becoming closer than before but its all nondescript (which im starting to enjoy) and Im taking yalls advice on girl A. If she wants to talk to me, she'll call me. Oh, therees something else I want to talk to you all about... Theres this girl...shes asian, really hot...tennis player... I was talkin to her on the cool tip one day and all of a sudden she says "Youre perfect, Im going to pray on our marriage." Now usually im like "Youre crazy" then click, but shes like "Yeah, and youll never have to work again." What? "What do you mean I'll never have to work?" "Well Im rich? I cant have you going around soiling yourself up for bits of cash when we already have everything we need." Which got me to thinking....in that situation would a man still need to work to maintain his testicular fortitude? I believe no man was put on this earth to be provided for, but would you expect a man to not work if you were say... the hieress of 75 million? Its just a question (no im not going to marry her....)
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Blutifully Human replied on 10-04-2004 10:00PM [Reply]
BigDaddy Tres wrote:
would you expect a man to not work if you were say... the hieress of 75 million?
Heck yeah, he would most DEFINATELY need to work. It isn't even about the money, just the simple fact of sitting on your tail while somebody provides something to u on a silver platter. I wasn't raised like that, and i wouldn't expect my man to be like that either. Where are your goals, your ambitions, your desire to do something profound in the world that u live in? Personally, i couldn't stay couped up in a house everyday. DO SUMTHIN WITH YASELF :lol:
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Wisdom_Tree replied on 10-05-2004 05:53PM [Reply]
*PURE*Kindnezz wrote:
BigDaddy Tres wrote:
would you expect a man to not work if you were say... the hieress of 75 million?
Heck yeah, he would most DEFINATELY need to work. It isn't even about the money, just the simple fact of sitting on your tail while somebody provides something to u on a silver platter. I wasn't raised like that, and i wouldn't expect my man to be like that either. Where are your goals, your ambitions, your desire to do something profound in the world that u live in? Personally, i couldn't stay couped up in a house everyday. DO SUMTHIN WITH YASELF :lol:
Do you think its the same for women though? If the guy had all of the money and you didnt have to work would you feel obligated to have a job? Cuz I know plenty of guys who dont want their women to touch anything close to a job. Mmm boy just touch my body...imean girl just touch my body....-Eminem
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Blutifully Human replied on 10-05-2004 07:58PM [Reply]
Nope, i mean...the gesture would be nice and all. But i'm the type of person who dreads being dependent on another human being. Like, my whole world would revolve around him and his check...can't have that. I have to do something productive with myself on a consistant basis, otherwise i'll lose my sanity. That's what happened the first month of my summer when i didn't have a job. I thought i was gonna lose my mind being couped up in that house :x ! Not to mention alllllll of the doe (and LOANS) that my mother and I are pulling out of our arse for a college education. I'm not going thru all this stress for nothin! I have a life, i have goals, and i can't just drop that becuz a man came along and said it's alright to. Gotta keep living. Ya feel me?
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JsGyrl1110 replied on 10-05-2004 08:00PM [Reply]
BigDaddy Tres wrote:
*PURE*Kindnezz wrote:
BigDaddy Tres wrote:
would you expect a man to not work if you were say... the hieress of 75 million?
Heck yeah, he would most DEFINATELY need to work. It isn't even about the money, just the simple fact of sitting on your tail while somebody provides something to u on a silver platter. I wasn't raised like that, and i wouldn't expect my man to be like that either. Where are your goals, your ambitions, your desire to do something profound in the world that u live in? Personally, i couldn't stay couped up in a house everyday. DO SUMTHIN WITH YASELF :lol:
Do you think its the same for women though? If the guy had all of the money and you didnt have to work would you feel obligated to have a job? Cuz I know plenty of guys who dont want their women to touch anything close to a job. Mmm boy just touch my body...imean girl just touch my body....-Eminem
I believe that in society its a double standard its ok for women not to work and let the man take of her but a guy can't do the same thing because the man is always known and shown as the bread-winner. Personally, it is no way I could have a man paying for all my stuff and I am solely relied on him for every bit of cash I get. I am a independent woman to the fullest and I like earning my own money and doing what I choose with it and taking care of myself and others. I don't mind a man giving me things or helping me out when I need it but never would I settle for laying around on my **** all day doing nothing but shopping and meaningless no-brainer tasks. As TI's song "I can't be your man" goes ...aint nothing worse than a lazy b**tch. Get off ya **** and pay some bills. Thats just my view everyone has their's and I respect that. Stay positive, safe, and keep ya head up -1LUV
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Kinkee replied on 10-05-2004 11:18PM [Reply]
BigDaddy Tres wrote:
Okay, so girl M became my friend, Girl S...well, we're becoming closer than before but its all nondescript (which im starting to enjoy) and Im taking yalls advice on girl A. If she wants to talk to me, she'll call me. Oh, therees something else I want to talk to you all about... Theres this girl...shes asian, really hot...tennis player... I was talkin to her on the cool tip one day and all of a sudden she says "Youre perfect, Im going to pray on our marriage." Now usually im like "Youre crazy" then click, but shes like "Yeah, and youll never have to work again." What? "What do you mean I'll never have to work?" "Well Im rich? I cant have you going around soiling yourself up for bits of cash when we already have everything we need." Which got me to thinking....in that situation would a man still need to work to maintain his testicular fortitude? I believe no man was put on this earth to be provided for, but would you expect a man to not work if you were say... the hieress of 75 million? Its just a question (no im not going to marry her....)
Just chill and continue to evaluate yourself. This could be a test to throw you off track. Don't let no woman take care of you. You are the MAN, you wear the pants.
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