KnowledgableTruth wrote:

In response to rough vs. ****...he's not a ****...he does have bad traits but so does the other one...there are times when i'd rather be with one over the other but the majority of the time i want to be with that Georgia boy...he acts more of the way I think a man should act towards his woman and we aren't together....while on the other hand...the one that i'm with had been trying to get at me for years and once we get together...i'm not happy...he doesn't act the way that i feel the man that i'm with should act...now i'm trying to wait until I go home to see if things get better...you know...if absence makes the heart grow fonder...but on a daily basis...me and the one down here get closer...be it after just kicking it together...or having an argument...we grow while i feel like i'm at a standstill with the other...I do think that the one i'm with is the husband type...but i don't think he's the husband for me...I'M STILL CONFUSSED...HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

AggieWarrior wrote:

KnowledgableTruth wrote:

In response to rough vs. ****...he's not a ****...he does have bad traits but so does the other one...there are times when i'd rather be with one over the other but the majority of the time i want to be with that Georgia boy...he acts more of the way I think a man should act towards his woman and we aren't together....while on the other hand...the one that i'm with had been trying to get at me for years and once we get together...i'm not happy...he doesn't act the way that i feel the man that i'm with should act...now i'm trying to wait until I go home to see if things get better...you know...if absence makes the heart grow fonder...but on a daily basis...me and the one down here get closer...be it after just kicking it together...or having an argument...we grow while i feel like i'm at a standstill with the other...I do think that the one i'm with is the husband type...but i don't think he's the husband for me...I'M STILL CONFUSSED...HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

like Kee said, we told you what you should do.... put like this... if you **** and want to live for the moment.... just go to the rough guy.... if you want to look down the road, and hope things get better... stay w/ ol' dude you already with... it's bad enough you have put yourself in this triangle situation... you made this chaos... someone's gonna get hurt.... you can't have your cake and eat it too.... :arrow:

(Miss Kee) wrote:

AggieWarrior wrote:

KnowledgableTruth wrote:

In response to rough vs. ****...he's not a ****...he does have bad traits but so does the other one...there are times when i'd rather be with one over the other but the majority of the time i want to be with that Georgia boy...he acts more of the way I think a man should act towards his woman and we aren't together....while on the other hand...the one that i'm with had been trying to get at me for years and once we get together...i'm not happy...he doesn't act the way that i feel the man that i'm with should act...now i'm trying to wait until I go home to see if things get better...you know...if absence makes the heart grow fonder...but on a daily basis...me and the one down here get closer...be it after just kicking it together...or having an argument...we grow while i feel like i'm at a standstill with the other...I do think that the one i'm with is the husband type...but i don't think he's the husband for me...I'M STILL CONFUSSED...HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

like Kee said, we told you what you should do.... put like this... if you **** and want to live for the moment.... just go to the rough guy.... if you want to look down the road, and hope things get better... stay w/ ol' dude you already with... it's bad enough you have put yourself in this triangle situation... you made this chaos... someone's gonna get hurt.... you can't have your cake and eat it too.... :arrow:

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BigDaddy Tres wrote:

I usually dont talk on these subects but I got to thinkin about it and I do have something interesting to say on it. Do any of you ladies (and us brothas) feel a lil sorry for the boyfriend back home? I mean, maybe its just me but hearin stuff like this isnt setting for anyone who actively participates in a long distance relationship with anyone. Already homeboy is competing with an invisible force that judges him for things that normally wouldnt even matter. I think some couples got that invisible trip wire. ITS SO UNFAIR! I talked with Shanelle about this. Basically, you have all these things about yourself that you dont know, like your limits and what youre comfortable with and all of that...and then, when you hook up with someone, you impose them but never talk about it. They pull the wire and you go off and all the while youre thinking they should know whats really good and theyre CLUELESS. Communication and Honesty count for so much. If you cant be honest about how you feel (to yourself and your significant other) and then express that idea intelligently to them then what?? Jeez.

BigDaddy Tres wrote:

I usually dont talk on these subects but I got to thinkin about it and I do have something interesting to say on it. Do any of you ladies (and us brothas) feel a lil sorry for the boyfriend back home? I mean, maybe its just me but hearin stuff like this isnt setting for anyone who actively participates in a long distance relationship with anyone. Already homeboy is competing with an invisible force that judges him for things that normally wouldnt even matter. I think some couples got that invisible trip wire. ITS SO UNFAIR! I talked with Shanelle about this. Basically, you have all these things about yourself that you dont know, like your limits and what youre comfortable with and all of that...and then, when you hook up with someone, you impose them but never talk about it. They pull the wire and you go off and all the while youre thinking they should know whats really good and theyre CLUELESS. Communication and Honesty count for so much. If you cant be honest about how you feel (to yourself and your significant other) and then express that idea intelligently to them then what?? Jeez.

^^THAT DAMN BOY IS JUST SO DAYUM SMART :!: I WONDER WILL HE BE MINDS :wink: **PICKS UP THE PHONE TO CALL HIM, THEN PUTS IT BACK DOWN AND REALIZES THAT HE DOESN'T KNOW MY NAME(I FEEL LIKE ALICIA KEYS) AND THAT I DONT HAVE HIS # :!: DAYUM :!: ** OH SORRY I GOT A LIL OFF DA SUBJECT :arrow: HAVE YOU TALKED TO EITHER ONE OF THEM ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL? I KNOW THIS MAY SOUND CRAZY BUT HAVE YOU TALKED TO YOUR MOTHER ABOUT THIS? I KNOW GOD IS THE NUMER ONE PERSON THAT CAN HELP YOU WITH YOUR PROBLEM :!: JUST PRAY AND QUIT TRY-N TO HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TO. SUM PEOPLE ARE JUST TO DAYUM GREEDY :roll:

quannicab wrote:

BigDaddy Tres wrote:

I usually dont talk on these subects but I got to thinkin about it and I do have something interesting to say on it. Do any of you ladies (and us brothas) feel a lil sorry for the boyfriend back home? I mean, maybe its just me but hearin stuff like this isnt setting for anyone who actively participates in a long distance relationship with anyone. Already homeboy is competing with an invisible force that judges him for things that normally wouldnt even matter. I think some couples got that invisible trip wire. ITS SO UNFAIR! I talked with Shanelle about this. Basically, you have all these things about yourself that you dont know, like your limits and what youre comfortable with and all of that...and then, when you hook up with someone, you impose them but never talk about it. They pull the wire and you go off and all the while youre thinking they should know whats really good and theyre CLUELESS. Communication and Honesty count for so much. If you cant be honest about how you feel (to yourself and your significant other) and then express that idea intelligently to them then what?? Jeez.

^^THAT DAMN BOY IS JUST SO DAYUM SMART :!: I WONDER WILL HE BE MINDS :wink: **PICKS UP THE PHONE TO CALL HIM, THEN PUTS IT BACK DOWN AND REALIZES THAT HE DOESN'T KNOW MY NAME(I FEEL LIKE ALICIA KEYS) AND THAT I DONT HAVE HIS # :!: DAYUM :!: ** OH SORRY I GOT A LIL OFF DA SUBJECT :arrow: HAVE YOU TALKED TO EITHER ONE OF THEM ABOUT HOW YOU FEEL? I KNOW THIS MAY SOUND CRAZY BUT HAVE YOU TALKED TO YOUR MOTHER ABOUT THIS? I KNOW GOD IS THE NUMER ONE PERSON THAT CAN HELP YOU WITH YOUR PROBLEM :!: JUST PRAY AND QUIT TRY-N TO HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TO. SUM PEOPLE ARE JUST TO DAYUM GREEDY :roll:

KnowledgableTruth wrote:

I appreciate you all but I've made a decision...me and my boyfriend talked about it...and for right now...we are going to chill out...we'll see what happens when I go home...the thing is...that I'm honest with everybody...no one was left in the dark about anything...I'm the type to keep it real no matter the situation...the one here...we still hang out or what not...I'm just not ready to make any final decisions about who I'm going to be with just yet...maybe i'm not ready for a relationship period...i guess that right now...its time to do some soul searching