I was interested to see if Greeks felt better dating other Greeks and if there is a difference from dating Greeks than Non Greeks. I been talking to a Greek at my school and I just wanted to see if there were positives and/or negatives to being in a relationship with someone involved in an organization.
Well I guess I will be the one to kick this off....
I do date a greek. He's a member of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Inc. Do I think dating a greek is better than a non-greek?? I don't think I date him because he is greek, yet I wouldn't of met him unless I crossed and he crossed (the Sigmas invited the Sigma ladies bowling the weekend after we crossed).
Personally, the only thing you may run into is maybe the fact if you're the type of person to spend 100 percent of your time with a guy, he may not be able to give you 100 percent because he may be busy with his organization or he may have step practice every night. Those are the only things I can think of that you may have a problem with. But always remember, just because you have letters doesn't make you any different from anyone else. Don't think that just because X is an Iota or Y is a Que makes them better than anyone else. A cheater is a cheater. A liar is a liar. A lover is a lover.
I am a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and no I don't date a greek. However, I do think that in some instances it is better if u do. I say this because if both of u are greek, then ya'll understand thing s a little better. For example, my boyfriend is not greek and so he doesn't understand why we hang out with the ques so much. He thinks that all it is is people tryna hook up. i told him that sometimes that's the case, but not all the time. It just seems to me that if you are greek and you date another greek, then some of the confusion on things might be cleared up. :lol:
I totally agree with nyc_cutie.......
When you date someone who is equally as active as you are in your organization, than seemingly he/she can understand...why things are the way they are. Especially, if he/she who happens to be a non-greek doesn't understand why there's no QT, or latenights are no longer with that special someone but with your sorors/frat....
Ultimately, in a way it is much easier to maintain an understanding while dating someone who is also greek.
that's my .08 cents!
I am a member of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. and I met my wife before I pledged, when I competed (and won) in a Zeta Pagent. About a semester later I joined the blue and white fam, and we have been happy from day one. Me pledging was hard for her, but she maintained. So I say do what you do, I didn't care about her greek affiliation, and she didn't care that at the time I was non greek. We had way too many other connections.
I'm currently dating an Alpha and we can definitely relate to each other easily because our commonality stems from our respective greek affiliations. However, my LS has been dating this guy before she crossed and after an ongoing four year roller coaster ride with him, she managed to still be with him to this day.
I say that to say...what's most important is being confident about your relationship, whether you are greek or not. If you're dating someone who's greek and committed to their organization, try to understand that they will definitely be preoccupied with handling chapter business, spending time with their sorors/bros and busy with the social scene with other greek orgs. Realize that any quality time you have will be limited and you'll have to make the most out of the time that you do share together. However, if you know that you need more than what you're receiving and that you are NOT satisfied...express yourself, say how you feel. Hopefully, you come to understand that there's a lot to juggle when you're greek and if they want to be with you...they would make somewhat of an effort to make the most out of the relationship and MAKE time for you.
"If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. Don't complain." ~ Soror Maya Angelou
I am dating a greek. I myself am a Sigma, and wifey is a Zeta. I didnt get with her cuz she was greek or a Zeta for that matter. I got with her cuz who she was as a person, it just so happens that we both are greek and part of the Blue & White family.