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hand shaking Posted on 11-21-2004
AKAtude
brooklyn, NY
A friend of mine told me that you are never suppose to shake a delta or AKA's hand. She said that one time when she was introducing her self to one of them and she reached out to shake their hand they just stood there and looked at her like she was crazy. what is the reason behind this? and is this looked down upon?
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 12-03-2004 10:40AM [Reply]

My previous comments were in regards to Interest Meetings. Of course at a Mix and Mingle I will interact with folks.
Ms.SoDamnAmazing wrote:
Hmm i dunno.... I mean how would you be mis-leading them by shaking their hands? I think they are MIS-leading themselves if they think " Oh she shook my hand so I'm in"... Thats their fault for assuming....and if they ever came to me and said " Well you shook my hand....blah blah"... I'd tell them ..." You know what people say about those who assume right?"
Which is why I don't shake hands at an interest meeting at all. Don't start none, won't be none.
Maia wrote:
A simple handshake is considered "dapin" you up "for some cool points"? :?
In some minds. You'd be surprised at what people will do to earn cool points from members of organizations and other aspirants before, during and especially after an interest meeting. In my mind it's less about them earning cool points from me or my frat. But moreso from those that they are going through whatever "process" with.
19OesAggie20 wrote:
I REALLY don't think something as simplistic as hand shake means more than "hi...how r u?" Thats some of the problems we encounter with "Greeks" "Non-Greeks" "tryin to be down" and so on and so forth. Everything isn't about the organization at first glace.... u think maybe they were just being polite. So if people come to thee meetings and DON'T speak..are they not being rude??
Yes, that would be rude. All I need an interest to do is to acknowledge my presence with a time appropriate salutation and sit down and take in this information.
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replied on 12-03-2004 12:40PM [Reply]
laidbackfella wrote:
My previous comments were in regards to Interest Meetings. Of course at a Mix and Mingle I will interact with folks.
Ms.SoDamnAmazing wrote:
Hmm i dunno.... I mean how would you be mis-leading them by shaking their hands? I think they are MIS-leading themselves if they think " Oh she shook my hand so I'm in"... Thats their fault for assuming....and if they ever came to me and said " Well you shook my hand....blah blah"... :idea: I'd tell them ..." You know what people say about those who assume right?"
Which is why I don't shake hands at an interest meeting at all. Don't start none, won't be none.
Maia wrote:
A simple handshake is considered "dapin" you up "for some cool points"? :?
In some minds. You'd be surprised at what people will do to earn cool points from members of organizations and other aspirants before, during and especially after an interest meeting. In my mind it's less about them earning cool points from me or my frat. But moreso from those that they are going through whatever "process" with.
19OesAggie20 wrote:
I REALLY don't think something as simplistic as hand shake means more than "hi...how r u?" Thats some of the problems we encounter with "Greeks" "Non-Greeks" "tryin to be down" and so on and so forth. Everything isn't about the organization at first glace.... u think maybe they were just being polite. So if people come to thee meetings and DON'T speak..are they not being rude??
Yes, that would be rude. All I need an interest to do is to acknowledge my presence with a time appropriate salutation and sit down and take in this information.
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replied on 12-16-2004 07:30PM [Reply]
This is kinda funny... Why is that you are concerned about shaking someones hand? This is simple....you want to get down then you play the game.....I am not going to shake your hand....you want what I have and at an interest meeting you need to get know everyone in the room....They are not happy to meet you.....They are not sure if you are dime dropper or just trying to skate through....So just play the game.....
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asweetie06 replied on 12-17-2004 03:48PM [Reply]
some of yall are just rude.... a hand shake is a part of good maners... maybe i have been out of school too long... but its not that deep... its like speaking... Hello, how are you? smh
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 12-17-2004 07:52PM [Reply]

asweetie06 wrote:
some of yall are just rude....
You are right. We don't have to be nice. They don't have to come to the meeting.
asweetie06 wrote:
a hand shake is a part of good maners...
Not everywhere. You ever seen a plantiff or a defendant shake the judge's hand? There is a time and a place for everything.
asweetie06 wrote:
maybe i have been out of school too long...
Perhaps
asweetie06 wrote:
but its not that deep...
So....why did you respond?
asweetie06 wrote:
its like speaking... Hello, how are you? smh
No speaking is like speaking. A hand shake is all together different. When did you cross in your respective organizations?
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asweetie06 replied on 12-18-2004 10:05AM [Reply]
1994 is when i pledged it is being rude.. but hey i am glad i dont want to join yall org's or that i am in school any more... i repsonded because i think some of you all are rude... and this is a message board and i have every right do respond to what i want...
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 12-18-2004 04:04PM [Reply]

asweetie06 wrote:
1994 is when i pledged
Interesting
asweetie06 wrote:
it is being rude
Never said it wasn't but is there a requisite that we be nice?
asweetie06 wrote:
but hey i am glad i dont want to join yall org's
Me too. D9 ain't for everybody.
asweetie06 wrote:
or that i am in school any more...
Cheers.
asweetie06 wrote:
i repsonded because i think some of you all are rude... and this is a message board and i have every right do respond to what i want...
Awww
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asweetie06 replied on 12-20-2004 08:58AM [Reply]
laidbackfella wrote:
asweetie06 wrote:
1994 is when i pledged
Interesting
asweetie06 wrote:
it is being rude
Never said it wasn't but is there a requisite that we be nice?
asweetie06 wrote:
but hey i am glad i dont want to join yall org's
Me too. D9 ain't for everybody.
asweetie06 wrote:
or that i am in school any more...
Cheers.
asweetie06 wrote:
i repsonded because i think some of you all are rude... and this is a message board and i have every right do respond to what i want...
Awww
lol your funny who said i was not in the D9 humm
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replied on 12-20-2004 09:41AM [Reply]
laidbackfella wrote:
asweetie06 wrote:
it is being rude
Never said it wasn't but is there a requisite that we be nice?
EXACTLY!! You couldnt of said it any better.
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 12-20-2004 12:04PM [Reply]

asweetie06 wrote:
lol your funny who said i was not in the D9 humm
:? Are you saying you are in the D9 or D9 is in you? Today is 12/20 and on 12/17 you posted this statement:
asweetie06 wrote:
ASweetie06 i am an alpha sweet from way back in the day also member of Gamma Sigma Sigma National Service Sorority, Inc. Beta Zeta Chapter at TUSKEGEE University Kee-Koo to my fellow Sweets and Black and Old Gold Big Brothers Wee-Oop to my sorors and frat brothers of Alpha Phi Omega...
In this thread INTRO 2 GREEKS 101 Did you just cross? If not, last time I checked the NPHC included nine fraternities and sororities: Alpha Phi Alpha Alpha Kappa Alpha Kappa Alpha Psi Omega Psi Phi Delta Sigma Theta Phi Beta Sigma Zeta Phi Beta Sigma Gamma Rho Iota Phi Theta So that rules out Gamma Sigma Sigma. Last I checked Iota Phi Theta was the only BGLO to nationally recognize Sweethearts. So please inform me, and the huddled masses. Because I can't see it based on the information you've provided. What makes you think you're D9?
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