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It's The Year 2030...Speak Honestly To Your Freshman "C Posted on 05-29-2005
College Mom

That should read "Child". Type on this site mysteriously disappears... Ok, fast forward... You have graduated from college, grad school, etc. You and your spouse are on your game...your phenomenal "child" is at a HBCU, just wrapped up Freshman year with a 4.0 GPA and more AND is "ready" for Greekdom! You can have a boy or a girl. Oh heck, make them twins or same age cousins just for fun! Remember, you (Greek or not) are the one they go to first and foremost. How you gonna do this in 2030? :grin: I know that some of you treat these Greek questions like somebody just asked you "where do babies come from?" So, switch gears for a few minutes and share that moment in 2030 when your "child" asks you which frat or soro to be "interested" in...be real. Be in that moment of truth. Your "child" is coming to you not the HBCUCONNECT Greek Fam Message Boards which may/may not be an option. What are you really gonna say? This is a "fun" post so try and play nice. Thanks!
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La replied on 06-03-2005 05:03PM [Reply]
cafe-aulait wrote:
College Mom wrote:
:-D That's TOO funny! I got about 5 HBCU students here for the Memorial Day B-4 BBQ. They are all on the computer, amongst other things, while waiting for the coals to get hot. Any way here is what they have to say: HBCU Student #1: ...now that I have slapped you stupid for bringing that pink and green up in my house we can talk... HBCU Student #2: ...yes, yes, yes! That's my boy...barking sounds. Im mo call yo daddy, grandaddy, god father and em to tell them that my boy is a real family man! HBCU Student #3: ...your grandmother will be proud that you are keeping the legacy alive! she then starts play fightin with #1 above about how tough HER line is gonna be in the Fall of '05... HBCU Student #4: (She is a thinker)...If the frats and soros don't stop killin, hazin and hatin my kids won't have no BGLO to ask me about! I may not even be Greek. I am not impressed with ANY of them...{#2 jokes and says: that's not what you said when you got otta that Kappa's bed last night } HBCU Student #5: "...shooooot. Im mo tell my kids to make um BEG fo you then go the other way... He is being loud talked and sprayed with water guns. He foolishly told a couple of frats that he MIGHT holla at them in the Fall of '06... Back to the BBQ... :grin:
I dont get it.
lol...im glad Im not the only one cause I was lost for a minute...but umm lets see...umm sumthing my parents would say to me is... Mom: " :rolls eyes: Why do you wanna be apart of a sorority? Cant nobody pay me enough for someone to boss me around and tell me what I can and cant do. blah blah blah " Daddy: " Oh thats good. Those fraternities and sororities do alotta good things for the community...they did when I was back in school. Just dont let no one degrade you or put your hands on you. " Here is a real life example I went thru: Me: " mom Im in the process of becomin apart of the Order of the Easter Stars. " Mom: Why you joining that. i HEARD that they are this and that, blah blah blah... Me: Daddy Im joining Order of the Eastern Stars Daddy: Oh thats good. You need to make as manyconnections in life as possible and thats a good one. I work with a Master Mason and blah blah blah " lol...so as you can see m dad is pretty supportive of me joining these types of things...My mother really could care less. She more so doesnt see the point in doing them.
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PrinceMannyX from columbus, OH replied on 06-04-2005 04:54PM [Reply]

I don't think this will be as tough for me I'm going to support my SON in his Choice of becoming an Alpha Man because he will be so involved and surrounded by Alpha men it will be impossible for him to see anything worth joining. My Daughter I bet if my wife is greek she would go her way and if not my aunt and a few cousins will let her KNOW! (1st Fam)
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BluFantasy20 from Washington, DC replied on 06-04-2005 11:23PM [Reply]

See this is tricky for me and I've this conversation w/ some sorors and frat. I don't have a lot of greeks in my family so I didn't have any pressure nor anyone to really seek advice about Greek life from. My decision was 100% mine and I did it carefully. I'd like to think that I'd be laidback as a parent like my mom is w/ me. She just told me to follow my heart. HOWEVER, I can't front. I'd be compelled to tell my daughter/son how beautiful the Blue&White family is. It will most definitely be a strong influence in my household. And now that I grow into my organization my heart might hurt if my child chose otherwise. BUT, at the end of the day the decison will my child's to make based on their personality and campus atmosphere. I'd just make sure they know that whatever org they seek membnership into--it's a for real, for real committment. No BS'n. Peace&Blessings.... * Edited b/c it's always nice for my writing to reflect the fact that I have education:grin: *
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replied on 06-06-2005 02:18PM [Reply]
Thanks for the honesty... The "saga" continues...Our son's maternal grandma has gotten in on it. She just finished reading the book called The Divine Nine and has some very strong thoughts on what her grandson "should be". We were trying to tell her how things work and all she said was "...um,huh...ok...right...grandson is gonna be a such and such man...huh baby?" :? Then she started calling all her friends and asking them what frat their grandsons were "pledging". She know darn well that some of her friends grandson's aint' even in college...My mom is REALLY competetive so she was saying (making up) which frat her grandson would be "pledging" in the fall. Our son just laughs and hugs his grandmother...Thing is I bet she's right on the money like always...
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cafe-aulait replied on 06-06-2005 02:20PM [Reply]
College Mom wrote:
Thanks for the honesty... The "saga" continues...Our son's maternal grandma has gotten in on it. She just finished reading the book called The Divine Nine and has some very strong thoughts on what her grandson "should be". We were trying to tell her how things work and all she said was "...um,huh...ok...right...grandson is gonna be a such and such man...huh baby?" :? Then she started calling all her friends and asking them what frat their grandsons were "pledging". She know darn well that some of her friends grandson's aint' even in college...My mom is REALLY competetive so she was saying (making up) which frat her grandson would be "pledging" in the fall. Our son just laughs and hugs his grandmother...Thing is I bet she's right on the money like always...
What if he doesn't make any line??
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replied on 06-06-2005 02:53PM [Reply]
Good Grief! You gave me a scare!! Naw...he will. :-D Despite him being "billy-bad-****" at times (with me) he is a real out going, sincere and charismatic person. He has the type of personality that people really like. Son can hang with the lowest of the low and he can hang with the highest of the high while still being himself. He has that knack. He don't run him mouth and he don't run with any clicks per se. Folks are always saying to him: "I did not know that you knew such and such..." Every since he was a baby he been popular with everybody from the nerds to the dumbest kids you would ever want to meet. I swear, at his 5th B-Day party we invited over 100 kids, peeps he knew since day one who were his friends...The 17th B-Day party had the 1000 folks...he/we knew them all. It was the other 400 folks outside the party that messed things up. Even in that bunch he knew some of them knuckleheads(roll eyes). And...the girls...they just LOVE him. He has some who have known him since pre-school. They are more protective of him than I am. Thank goodness his very first GF was "ok" with them. They were all over her, even though they knew her, with "friendly threats" of death if she messed him over. He has already said (even though he is just a lil'bitty, 6'4, Freshman...I mean Sophomore) that "his" Delta's are gonna be mad if he does thus and so and that "his" AKA's are gonna be mad if he does thus and do as far as frats go..."His" SGRO's and Zeta's are (of course) supportive of whatever he does. I say "of course" because MY greek girlfriends, even at my age(cough) are identical to his greek female friends with how they are (mad about whatever vs. supportive about whatever). He has NEVER said that this frat or that frat is after me or jockin me even though his friends say to him: "man, this frat and that frat is jockin you". he says "naw, it ain't even like that" and he keeps goin'. 8) Now, I know for fact that 3 frats at his college are certainly planning to approach him. My hubby and my baby daddy say for me to keep that information to myself. He totally respects the "Frat". He is not arrogant, ignorant or stupid about that. Besides, he has too many BGLO family to be actin' stupid or ill about this. Not his style either. He will make line...fo sho!
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Soundcheck 1898 replied on 06-06-2005 03:00PM [Reply]
cafe-aulait wrote:
College Mom wrote:
Thanks for the honesty... The "saga" continues...Our son's maternal grandma has gotten in on it. She just finished reading the book called The Divine Nine and has some very strong thoughts on what her grandson "should be". We were trying to tell her how things work and all she said was "...um,huh...ok...right...grandson is gonna be a such and such man...huh baby?" :? Then she started calling all her friends and asking them what frat their grandsons were "pledging". She know darn well that some of her friends grandson's aint' even in college...My mom is REALLY competetive so she was saying (making up) which frat her grandson would be "pledging" in the fall. Our son just laughs and hugs his grandmother...Thing is I bet she's right on the money like always...
What if he doesn't make any line??
lol good point. cus thats the hardest part truth be told.
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replied on 06-06-2005 04:37PM [Reply]
Soundcheck: See my post above yours. I think we were writing at the same time... Do you really know folks who did not get invited to "pledge" and they really wanted to? Gee, that ****... I did have one friend, undergrad at our PWI who really wanted to be KKGamma. I thought she was in. She came in, after they get theire "welcome" letters and was beside herself with sheer grief! She said that they were prejudice. She was white, filthy rich so I was baffled. I asked her what did she mean? She said that KKGamma did not want any Jews. I never knew she was Jewish. My other friends(white) were not shocked and they teased me for not knowing she was Jewish. I was not raised to even be curious about someone's religion. My black friends said "um...so how else does she live in a phat mansion in Beverly Hills and drive that brand new BMW?" I get it now but I was still clueless back then. She was my best friend was all I knew and to me she wasn't no more well off than we were... That's enough, this is the internet and the "detectives just might figue this out ANYWAY...she did get the "hand" from Greekland (at USC no less!) and it hurt her bad :-( So, she continued to hang out with my oblivious black ****... :lol:
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PrinceMannyX from columbus, OH replied on 06-06-2005 05:29PM [Reply]

cafe-aulait wrote:
College Mom wrote:
Thanks for the honesty... The "saga" continues...Our son's maternal grandma has gotten in on it. She just finished reading the book called The Divine Nine and has some very strong thoughts on what her grandson "should be". We were trying to tell her how things work and all she said was "...um,huh...ok...right...grandson is gonna be a such and such man...huh baby?" :? Then she started calling all her friends and asking them what frat their grandsons were "pledging". She know darn well that some of her friends grandson's aint' even in college...My mom is REALLY competetive so she was saying (making up) which frat her grandson would be "pledging" in the fall. Our son just laughs and hugs his grandmother...Thing is I bet she's right on the money like always...
What if he doesn't make any line??
WOWOWOWOW I believe you just took the words out of my mouth AT LEAST AS FAR AS I KNOW YOU DON'T PICK ALPHA, ALPHA PICKS YOU MAKE SURE YOUR SON WHATEVER FRAT IT IS HE'S DOING HIS PART TO BECOME A MEMEBER THERE IS NOTHING WORST THEN A SKATER
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replied on 06-06-2005 09:49PM [Reply]
Good Evening Mr. Alpha Prince MannyX: :grin: I knows about bein' picked by an Alpha...WORD...I am his wifey and best friend fo life (smile). As I proudly say in my earlier posts on Greek Fam: "I sleep with a Greek". Son is gonna do his part plus. He ain't neva skated and believe me he is all soldier AND his very very Greek daddy ain't havin' no "weak **** son" doin' whatever frat that he decides to commit to. He got reach...some national pan-hell office...
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