Now im sure you all have read this before...it went out in an email a long time ago...but...i just felt the need to post this up so that if a sista on here is having a bad day and needs a "pick me up"...they can come read this and not only smile and be satisfied...but to know that there are black men out there who are just simpley off the chains!! lol enjoyWhite women's opinion of black women & a brother's
response It seems that an article was written to Sister 2
Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a
response from black men. Dear Jamie:
I'm sorry but I would like to challenge some of your
Black male readers.
I am a White female who is engaged to a Black
male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don't
understand a lot of Black female's attitudes about our
My man decided he wanted me because the pickings
amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they
were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too
argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or
carrying too much excess baggage.
Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was
constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine
and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are
so up in arms about us being with their men, why don't
they look at themselves and make some changes.
I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks
when we're out in public. I would like to hear from
some Black men about why we are so appealing and
coveted by them.
Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one
of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson
Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl
Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan,
Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy
Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes...
I could go on and on. But, right now, I'm a little
angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly..
Don't be mad with us White women because so many of
your men want us. Get your acts together and learn
from us and we may lead you to treat your men better..
If I'm wrong, Black men, let me know.
Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA RESPONSEDear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A
Disgusted White Girl.
Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black
man. I graduated from one of the most prestigiousuniversities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of
Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job
at a major corporation and have recently purchased a
house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of
successful black men.
I will not use my precious time to slander white
people. I just want to set the record straight of why
black men date white women. Back in the day, one of
the biggest reasons why black men dated white women
was because they were considered easy.
The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the
church. They were very strict about when they lost
their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of
our impatience to wait, brothers would look for
someone who would give it up easy without too much
hassle. So, they turned to the white girls.
Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white
women because they are docile and easy to control. A
lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and
overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the
strength of our black women. We are afraid that our
woman will be more successful than us, make more money
than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.
Because of this fear, many black men look for a more
docile woman. Someone we can control.
I have talked to numerous black men and they
continuously comment on how easy it is to control and
walk over their white women. I just want to set the
record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know
that not all successful black men date white women.
Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael
Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood,
Kenneth "Babyface" Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and
Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip
the script, there are numerous white men, in and out
of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black
women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and
David Bowie to name a few.
I just don't want a disgusted white girl to be
misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white
that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when
black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris
were **** Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you
were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and
beating each other over the head with clubs. Read your
It was the black woman that taught you how to cook andseason your food. It was the black woman that taught
you how to raise your children. It was black women who
were **** feeding and raising your babies during
It is the black woman that had to endure watching
their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, ****,
and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two
strikes against them: being black and being a woman.
And, through all this, Still They Rise!
It is because of the black women's strength, elegance,
power, love and beauty that I could> never> date
anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer
beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not
the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors
and shades that I love them.
Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about
black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing
souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome
great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what
they believe in, and their determination to succeed
and reach their highest potential while enduring great
pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with
I honestly believe that your anger is geared more
toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If
this were not so, then why do you continuously go to
tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so
proud to be white, then why don't you just be happy
with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject
your lips, hips, and **** with unnatural and
dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more
I think that your anger is really a result of you
wanting to have what the black woman has.
BOTTOM LINE: If I were looking for a docile woman,
someone I can walk over and control, I would give you
a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a
Virtuous Woman; someone that can be a good wife and
mother to my children.
Someone who can be my best friend and understands my
struggles, I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking
for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT
fit the bill.
No offense taken, none given.
Signed, Black Royalty