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No pretty black girls? Posted on 07-28-2005
chancebychanel
New Haven, CT
Okay is it just me or if your black and attractive someone asks if your mixed with something else. This is growing annoying. Im like do people think two black people cant make a beautiful black child anymore.
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The Big Girl Sweetz replied on 07-29-2005 07:08PM [Reply]
HamptonBeauty_08 wrote:
I get "You are soooo pretty for a dark-skinned girl" a lot.... it's really sad and ignorant, but I've been told that since I was a little girl. So I just laugh and move on now. My father is Haitian, and only some people can tell that by looking at me... but everyone else knows I'm black, lol...
I get that too...as well as "You are pretty for a big girl" :lol:
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cafe-aulait replied on 07-30-2005 05:59PM [Reply]
cherrybottom69 wrote:
i get that question all the time bc im so high yellow with good hair. black people can come in all shades with good hair http://www.xanga.com/asu_cutie
Those terms make me cringe.
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Change from boston, MA replied on 07-30-2005 07:17PM [Reply]
black people thoroughly consumed with WHITE values and beliefs very disgusting
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*NiseyInWonderland* replied on 07-30-2005 10:35PM [Reply]
cherrybottom69 wrote:
i get that question all the time bc im so high yellow with good hair. black people can come in all shades with good hair http://www.xanga.com/asu_cutie
,,so wut exactly is GOOD hair?? I think i have good hair but not because it's long and soft but because its healthy. But anyways..I've never been asked if i was mixed or anything. The only thing said to me was u got some cute chinky eyes.
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replied on 07-31-2005 11:33AM [Reply]
HamptonBeauty_08 wrote:
I get "You are soooo pretty for a dark-skinned girl" a lot.... it's really sad and ignorant, but I've been told that since I was a little girl. So I just laugh and move on now. My father is Haitian, and only some people can tell that by lookig at me... but everyone else knows I'm black, lol...
I get that to, but i am kinda mixed my mom is a little dominican, native American and cracka ( thats my great uncle says) lol and my dad is Afro-Portugesse. But people will and always see me as a darkskin sista its fine with me.
cherrybottom69 wrote:
i get that question all the time bc im so high yellow with good hair. black people can come in all shades with good hair
I honestly thing all hair is good hair, like you said, good hair is such an ignorant term, there are classifications of hair types, straight, curly etc, but none of them are "bad" there is no such thing as "bad hair" i wish people would stop using that term, its like Wille Lynch all over again
ChangePlease wrote:
black people thoroughly consumed with WHITE values and beliefs very disgusting
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replied on 08-01-2005 03:56PM [Reply]
I went to a club last night and this guy came up to me like, "You know what? I don't usually even holla at dark-skinned girls, you one of a kind...." I laughed in his face and told him that I don't usually talk to ignorant, shallow, narrow-minded ****. He then called me a 'black **** ****' and stalked off angrily. My thing is, why am I supposed to feel honored because you think I'm pretty? The funny thing is, this never happens at Hampton U... only when I come back home to the south. So my question is...Are shallow racial stereotypes (males only finding light-skinned, long-haired females attractive) more predominant in the South?
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La replied on 08-01-2005 04:41PM [Reply]
I hate that term " good hair " also...it actually sickens me when I hear another black person say so and so has good hair? What is that suppose to mean? That because your hair is straighter and long and doesnt need relaxers its " good. " Black people and thier ignorance I tell you. Its the same thing I see on Facebook. Groups called " i have good hair and im proud? B*tch and??? Seriously tho...its just silly and ignorant that in todays society we STILL got black people thinking white so its gotta be right.
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replied on 08-01-2005 06:55PM [Reply]
HamptonBeauty_08 wrote:
The funny thing is, this never happens at Hampton U... only when I come back home to the south. So my question is...Are shallow racial stereotypes (males only finding light-skinned, long-haired females attractive) more predominant in the South?
YES!!! as far as i can see...i'm in NC. all my cousins and i have tons of them, are always talking about they want a light skinneded woman with long, good hair. my opinion, if you have ANY hair, its ALL good!! the other thing that pisses me off about it is that these men that want these women will then have the audacity to let fly out of there mouth that dark skinned women are foul mouthed, have bad attitudes and the such. AGGRAVATING!!!! that's such an **** stereotype. i am by no means very dark or very light. i'm in the middle...a nice even brown. but its still offensive bc they are trying to insinuate that light women are more submissive and easier to handle. i want to laugh in their faces bc a lot of times (some) women play the role. and by the time the ignant man figures it out, he done "got got" for everything he was trying to give and more!! i dont say anything. just let their stoopid butts get played and remind them where the pieces are when they have to pick their faces up off the floor.
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replied on 08-02-2005 02:35AM [Reply]
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HamptonBeauty_08 Posted: Mon Aug 01, 2005 7:56 pm Post subject: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I went to a club last night and this guy came up to me like, "You know what? I don't usually even holla at dark-skinned girls, you one of a kind...." I laughed in his face and told him that I don't usually talk to ignorant, shallow, narrow-minded ****. He then called me a 'black **** B*tch' and stalked off angrily. My thing is, why am I supposed to feel honored because you think I'm pretty? The funny thing is, this never happens at Hampton U... only when I come back home to the south. So my question is...Are shallow racial stereotypes (males only finding light-skinned, long-haired females attractive) more predominant in the South?
To address that, I honestly don't believe it's more predominant in the south. I think that it's a universal thing. (By the way i TOTALLY understand the "ur cute for a dark-skin girl thing" i get that WAY too much.) But, I've lived in NYC my whole life and it's pretty much the same thing up here. Honestly, when i go downsouth, brothas are more susceptible to approaching me than in NY. Maybe it's because they think that i'm naive because i'm not from their area (who knows) but one of my guy friends says that it's probably because there are not a lot of dark-skinned ladies down south (which i find hard to believe) But, i mean, you can't totally blame the fellas. With songs like "Caramel" by City High (i think that's what they were called) and all these light complexioned girls in the media, they really have no choice. Plus, there are SO many females that succomb to that shallow stereotype. I'm of Jamaican decent, among a various amount of others, and i can tell you that right now in Jamaica most, if not all, of the dark-skin women are bleaching their skin to become lighter. When i was younger i heard alot of "tar-baby, skillet, blah blah" so i used to try to lighten my skin with bleach (like some **** serious Clorox. lol). But now, i don't know about the rest of my dark skin ladies, but I'm proud of my complexion. It's rare, beautiful and closer to my ancestors, in my opinion. But regardless, BLACK WOMEN AS A WHOLE, EVERY SHADE, SIZE, AND HAIR TEXTURE IS BEAUTIFUL AND ARE QUEENS AND SHOULD ALWAYS REMEMBER THAT.
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cafe-aulait replied on 08-02-2005 04:03AM [Reply]
F.A.T.A.L wrote:
I hate that term " good hair " also...it actually sickens me when I hear another black person say so and so has good hair? What is that suppose to mean? That because your hair is straighter and long and doesnt need relaxers its " good. " Black people and thier ignorance I tell you. Its the same thing I see on Facebook. Groups called " i have good hair and im proud? B*tch and??? Seriously tho...its just silly and ignorant that in todays society we STILL got black people thinking white so its gotta be right.
Im in that group! But I think the creator wasn't using the term to put anyone down. The title was probably used to grab attention. The people in the group have all different textures and grades of hair. If you keep your hair clean and styled, you have "good hair"... There is a group also called "Brown Sugar: Cause them light skinned **** are going out of style", but I don't get offended by that, because hopefully whoever named that group was joking.
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But, i mean, you can't totally blame the fellas. With songs like "Caramel" by City High (i think that's what they were called) and all these light complexioned girls in the media, they really have no choice
What's wrong with that song? That's one of my anthems, even though Im 5'4" and lighter than a caramel-complection. I think the song can be appreciated by anyone who is proud to be who they are. Btw- Whats wrong with a caramel-complected girl loving the skin she's in??
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