It seems as if one common thing I hear females talk about is "good men"...usually in the sense of saying "there are no good men" or "it's hard to find a good man". But from how I see it, most of them aren't just speaking of a good man as what it really may mean, but rather what they consider to feel a good man is for them.
If you don't get what I am sayin...it might be a dude who is 100% on point, respectful smart and all that, but he might not be physically attractive or may have a "lame" personality as some say. So with that, they are usually eliminated from the good men category. Same goes for some dudes who may be overweight, or one who may be in college full time with a 3.8 but doesn't have a car or job. Females usually only call a "good man" one that fulfills everything they would look for in a man, and not just someone who should generally get most women's respect in most ways.
So in your opinion, what is a "good man", and why do you think females always get a generally good man mixed up with what they'd call a good man for them?
I think the definition of a " good man " differs for every female depending on what she wants in her mate. For me, a good man is someone that I know can trust, non judgemental, God fearing, goal oriented, respect for himself and all those around him. A good man is a man that loves me for all my flaws and assets but accepts 100% of me cause I am who I am and was before I ever met him. But he just loves me unconditionally in spite of all that. A good man accepts his mistakes and doesnt mind seeking help when he makes one. He doesnt have ego issues and doesnt have issues with me being a strong independent black woman. A good man treats and respects me as his queen and would do anything for me so I can be happy. ( and im not necessarily speakin on material things either ). He understands our relationship is a partnership that is 50/50 and treats it that way. We have equal responsibity and power in the relationship. There is no dominating from either parties. He understands what the word SACRIFICE means and is willing to apply it to our relationship when necessary. A good man loves God. If he loves God I know he can love himself and me, and from there I think everything will be like it should.
Thats what a GOOD MAN is for me in a nutshell.
