It seems as if one common thing I hear females talk about is "good men"...usually in the sense of saying "there are no good men" or "it's hard to find a good man". But from how I see it, most of them aren't just speaking of a good man as what it really may mean, but rather what they consider to feel a good man is for them.
If you don't get what I am sayin...it might be a dude who is 100% on point, respectful smart and all that, but he might not be physically attractive or may have a "lame" personality as some say. So with that, they are usually eliminated from the good men category. Same goes for some dudes who may be overweight, or one who may be in college full time with a 3.8 but doesn't have a car or job. Females usually only call a "good man" one that fulfills everything they would look for in a man, and not just someone who should generally get most women's respect in most ways.
So in your opinion, what is a "good man", and why do you think females always get a generally good man mixed up with what they'd call a good man for them?
I think the definition of a " good man " differs for every female depending on what she wants in her mate. For me, a good man is someone that I know can trust, non judgemental, God fearing, goal oriented, respect for himself and all those around him. A good man is a man that loves me for all my flaws and assets but accepts 100% of me cause I am who I am and was before I ever met him. But he just loves me unconditionally in spite of all that. A good man accepts his mistakes and doesnt mind seeking help when he makes one. He doesnt have ego issues and doesnt have issues with me being a strong independent black woman. A good man treats and respects me as his queen and would do anything for me so I can be happy. ( and im not necessarily speakin on material things either ). He understands our relationship is a partnership that is 50/50 and treats it that way. We have equal responsibity and power in the relationship. There is no dominating from either parties. He understands what the word SACRIFICE means and is willing to apply it to our relationship when necessary. A good man loves God. If he loves God I know he can love himself and me, and from there I think everything will be like it should.
Thats what a GOOD MAN is for me in a nutshell.
men cant be like that. we'd be turnin hoes into housewifes all over the place....
I think that a good man should have self control, self respect for himself and for those in his family. He should be God fearing/loving. He should be "man enough" to be able to stand as a head of a family reguardless if he is on or not. a good man should be a man, mature to make good decision, strong enough to handle any situation, man enough to admit his wrongs, to right those wrongs that can be. A good man for me would have to be someone who could understand all my faults, a man who is able to stand tall and seem fearless in front of the world but knows when he's with me he can shed all his tears and share all his secrets......i have more just can't think now brb..
For me a good man is a man who exceeds my expectations. He excels at whatever he does. A good man treats you with the upmost respect and knows how to take control, but also sit back and let me share the power. To me a good man just bascially have small feet...j/k. But it does differ for everyone.
well ladies, a good man is a gentleman who willing to do whatever it takes to keep that smile on your face at all times (ups & downs). also ladies don't forget that a good man is a gentleman who's honest, faithful, single, and trustworthy!!!!!!!
i think a "good man" in general is different from a "good man" for me or any other girl...
...in general a "good man" is intelligent, amiable, gets along with his family, respectable, and ambitious...a good man for any girl has to have these basic qualities...
^^Why am i not surprised to see in u in this thread Dame?
Anywho..."What is your definition of a good man?"...My answer? ....JESUS
lol, k, although that is true, i'll try to be serious for a ****. Ummm...i think this answer is really relative. Ask any man in America (or beyond) and they will tell u they are a "good man". Everyone, male or female, thinks they are "good". But like i always say, "just becuz someone is good, doesn't mean they are good for me"
So my question to the author of this thread is, do u want females to sit here and describe what type of man they want personally (which it seems like alot of the answers have been thus far), or just what we think a good/decent guy is period? Becuz i see good Black men all up & thru HU's campus (or just around in general). These are men who are in school, trying to make something of their lives, and for the most part have alot of positives qualities. However, that doesn't necessarily mean one of these men just so happen to be the love of my life or my soulmate.
In my opinion a good man must have a good relationship with God. If yall have a good relationship with God everything else will fall into place. Like the good book says: "The steps of a good man are ordered by the lord." And I couldn't agree more! To be a good man you don't have to be perfect. Who is? Just becuz a brotha got a few extra pounds or is a few shaded darker or wuteva don't have nuttin to do wit his personality. Also its all about how you guys carry yall self. Don't wear your pants down to your knees. Try n look decent. Girls really respond to that. Good Luck!!
^^Why am i not surprised to see in u in this thread Dame?
You know I had to chime in with my 200000 cents. But you probably wont read this reply for a WHILE since you *cough* never come around these parts anymore *cough*
^^Why am i not surprised to see in u in this thread Dame?
You know I had to chime in with my 200000 cents. But you probably wont read this reply for a WHILE since you *cough* never come around these parts anymore *cough*
Anywho..."What is your definition of a good man?"...My answer? ....JESUS
lol, k, although that is true, i'll try to be serious for a ****. Ummm...i think this answer is really relative. Ask any man in America (or beyond) and they will tell u they are a "good man". Everyone, male or female, thinks they are "good". But like i always say, "just becuz someone is good, doesn't mean they are good for 
