It seems as if one common thing I hear females talk about is "good men"...usually in the sense of saying "there are no good men" or "it's hard to find a good man". But from how I see it, most of them aren't just speaking of a good man as what it really may mean, but rather what they consider to feel a good man is for them.
If you don't get what I am sayin...it might be a dude who is 100% on point, respectful smart and all that, but he might not be physically attractive or may have a "lame" personality as some say. So with that, they are usually eliminated from the good men category. Same goes for some dudes who may be overweight, or one who may be in college full time with a 3.8 but doesn't have a car or job. Females usually only call a "good man" one that fulfills everything they would look for in a man, and not just someone who should generally get most women's respect in most ways.
So in your opinion, what is a "good man", and why do you think females always get a generally good man mixed up with what they'd call a good man for them?
ALL OF THEM ARE GOOD! Don't think I've ever met one that didn't have a good part, maybe smart, funny, protective, whatever, but somethings always good.
someone who wants to listen and understand your problems, is there in every tense of the word there (sometimes not including physically), and just plain out open to various things and situations.
A good man:
1. Walks in front of me to protect me.
2. Walks beside as my equal (emotionally, physically, and yes intellectually)
3. Walks behind me to help push me to reach my goals.
ALL OF THEM ARE GOOD! Don't think I've ever met one that didn't have a good part, maybe smart, funny, protective, whatever, but somethings always good.
A good man, in my opinion, is a respectful. He's confident and loves me for me. He accepts me with all my imperfections and challenges me mentally. He's not afraid to love me or be loved and he doesn't shy away from committment. He has goals and aspirations that he knows he can accomplish and has faith in God.
You know, I was reading an article in Ebony about why statistically there are few married black women. It was a two sided article, one side by a woman, the other by a man. The most telling part, in my opinion, was what was submitted by the woman. During a workshop that she was putting on about the subject, she had a friend of hers who is an attractive, successful, black man stand out front and happily greet each women as they came in. However, he wasn't in a suit, he was in a janitor's uniform sweeping up. According to the author, less than one percent of the 40 women (I think that was a typo, because one percent of forty people is less than one person...) in attendance actually gave the man a favourable reply.
Fuel to my fire...
A good man is one that loves and respects me for me and is willing to make the necessary compromises that a relationship requires of us to grow together.
During a workshop that she was putting on about the subject, she had a friend of hers who is an attractive, successful, black man stand out front and happily greet each women as they came in. However, he wasn't in a suit, he was in a janitor's uniform sweeping up. According to the author, less than one percent of the 40 women (I think that was a typo, because one percent of forty people is less than one person...) in attendance actually gave the man a favourable reply.
Fuel to my fire...
Wow.
I wonder how many women here would treat a man the same way based on his occupation...
