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When she says "But...you're like a BROTHER to me". Posted on 11-13-2005
Kool 2k6

...what do you do, personally? Do you play along with the 'friends' garbage, do you keep trying to hit (or date or what-have-you), or do you avoid her altogether? I've met too many chicks and ended being somebody gotdamn "big brother"... :x But on the flipside (so no one gets it twisted), I've had my fair share of, umm, well....interested females. Good times. Most of them just didn't work out, one way or another...or moved back home and stuff. But ladies....this big brother shyt's is for the birds. I avoid that mess like the plague. Being "big brother" or "friend"=being "useless". Discuss.
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In Rod We Trust replied on 11-19-2005 05:48PM [Reply]
Females never tell me im like a brother to them until I claim them as my lil sister.... True Shyt
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replied on 11-19-2005 07:01PM [Reply]
My personality doesn't let me fall into the "big brother" role with any female I've ever met. But I beleive men and women can't be friends, associates but not friends.
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Kismet_TNT replied on 11-19-2005 11:02PM [Reply]
Riley wrote:
My personality doesn't let me fall into the "big brother" role with any female I've ever met. But I beleive men and women can't be friends, associates but not friends.
I disagree TOTALLY!!! I do believe that there will always be one person who will want more out of the relationship. But it doesn't have to be. I have to really good male friends and although one of them knows there can never be anything more than friendship, he respects that. We have been friends for four years in February. So I see where u are coming from, but i don't agree.
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Thoroughly_Confused replied on 11-20-2005 01:34PM [Reply]
Riley wrote:
My personality doesn't let me fall into the "big brother" role with any female I've ever met. But I beleive men and women can't be friends, associates but not friends.
One of my best friends is a guy, but most of the guys that I call my big brothers are the ones who look out for me like they really are my brothers. They make sure that my riemds and I are ok and they are there for us if we need them. Moe than likely if I call a guy my big nrother it is because they treat me like my real brothers do.
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Miss. Soulful from Macon, GA replied on 11-24-2005 11:23PM [Reply]

I don't call a guy my big brother unless he say we like family or she my little sister and that only happen once. But wen I don't like a guy or I don't want him to get the wrong idea that i'm attracted t him I just tell him none of that oh we just friends or big brother crap cause I know I would hate it if a dude I wanted would come out wit that crap. But I can only speak for mysef I don't know how other females hande they situation. even if a guy is protective like a big broter would be, I would be like he my best friend....until he stated claiming me as a little sister or part of the family.
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Mrs. Obannon from Oakland, CA replied on 11-29-2005 10:38PM [Reply]

Kismet_TNT wrote:
Kool it depends on the famale. For me personally I have never been the one to use the "big brother" phrase. But I have used the "friend" word. It's not a bad thig nor does it mean that nothing will ever come of it. Personally I would rather become real good friends with a person b4 I get with him. This will allow me to see how he treats women and get to know him on a different level. Then if or when we decide to get together on a more intimatem or what-have-u level, I will know what 2 expect. I have met a guy who I had no interest in what so ever. He was just mad cool and I loved the friendship. He was attracted to me and wanted more, but I was like no we are just friends. To make a long story short he ended up growing on me. I started to like him for more than a friend just because I got to see the type of person he really is. So Kool don't let the "friend"/"big brother" thig get in ur way. Patience is a virtue.
Took da words out of my mouth!
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NeoSoulBrotha from Rosedale, MD replied on 12-24-2005 07:08PM [Reply]

Kool 2k6 wrote:
...what do you do, personally? Do you play along with the 'friends' garbage, do you keep trying to hit (or date or what-have-you), or do you avoid her altogether? I've met too many chicks and ended being somebody gotdamn "big brother"... :x But on the flipside (so no one gets it twisted), I've had my fair share of, umm, well....interested females. Good times. Most of them just didn't work out, one way or another...or moved back home and stuff. But ladies....this big brother shyt's is for the birds. I avoid that mess like the plague. Being "big brother" or "friend"=being "useless". Discuss.
Depends on what you're looking for. If you weren't looking for anything serious, just someone to talk to or are just being friendly/courteous, then its no big deal. If you're looking for something more (a girlfriend, or to get laid) then you're in the wrong place and she's letting you know that. At that point, you have to make a decision - either make your move or back off. Otherwise you're just going to get frustrated. Same situation as when you have a girl who you're tight with but not "your girl". Chances are if you're cool with that, it's gonna stay that way. If she wants something more, she has to let you know. The basic principle is the same. Holla!
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replied on 01-05-2006 12:53AM [Reply]
Well not all girls are the same. I can only give the original poster my opinion based on my personal experiences. It is my opinion that if you don't experience something, you don't think its possible. Like how I'm a female, and I grew up with my daddy. I thought everyone had a daddy too. But this wasn't the case. Well, I've never had a brother. And every guy I meet, I treat as my potential stand-in brother or friend but that's all. Setting aside petty crushes, I've never been shown emotions (not that I've noticed anyway), so I didn't properly develop emotions. Maybe the girls you are meeting are hard as stone, but even rock wears out with enough rain..... ....so get creative, and become the very thing that melts her heart in a spot she didn't know existed....and you'll have an incestuous, i mean, a non-brother/sister obstacle standing in the way of your relationship. ((also, she might just be frontin to see what you'd react like. some girls know who they like but don't say anything because they are afraid of something and just pull the brother card)).
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laidbackfella from Orangeburg, SC replied on 01-05-2006 11:07PM [Reply]

Kool 2k6 wrote:
...what do you do, personally? Do you play along with the 'friends' garbage, do you keep trying to hit (or date or what-have-you), or do you avoid her altogether? I've met too many chicks and ended being somebody gotdamn "big brother"... :x But on the flipside (so no one gets it twisted), I've had my fair share of, umm, well....interested females. Good times. Most of them just didn't work out, one way or another...or moved back home and stuff. But ladies....this big brother shyt's is for the birds. I avoid that mess like the plague. Being "big brother" or "friend"=being "useless". Discuss.
If we were cool before I tried to push-up, we'll still be cool. Otherwise I bounce. For your reading pleasure http://www.intellectualwhores.com/ Pay super close attention to The Ladder Theory
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SuperFly replied on 01-13-2006 11:45AM [Reply]
Magnitude of disparity...
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