ok, I want y'allz opinon ri now, aiight?
Let's say you have been wanting to go this HBCU forever, and it's your dream school, and you're really excited to go. But then you meet this guy, and after months and months and months y'all 2 fall in love, and you're all mushy with him.
Then one day, you and your boyfriend get into the discussion of college, and you find out he wants to go to a PWI back in his homestate of Michigan (Michigan State University to be exact). Then you say you wanted to go to this HBCU down south. Y'all bicker a lil bit b/c y'all don't wanna be apart, but he has ties to Michigan that are keeping him from going to the HBCU with you. He doesn't ask you to go to Michigan State, b/c that's not fair to ask you to change yur plans cuz of him...but that's what he wants.
So then, it basically comes down to this: do you want to be brokenhearted without him for 4 years, or do you wanna do what you've been wanted to do since b4 you were with him
what do y'all think??
*just as a note for the sake of argument: If it weren't for him, you'd never EVER consider Michigan State, you don't even like Michigan (stupid Pistons lol)
PLEASE go with what you were planning before you met him. if you don't even like michigan you shouldn't stay there. and say you stay and go to MSU, who's to say that y'all will be together the whole time? go with what will be most beneficial to your future. i'm not dissing him or what y'all have, that's just what i think
go with what you were planning to do cause if you put your life on hold cause of him you will regret it and you don't even know what's going to happen once you get there yall might split up for one reason or another. and then you'll be stuck in the cold at a school you never even considered. if you realy want this to work you'll find a way to be together
Girl, go to the school that you were planning to attend. Like the people before me stated ya'll might grow apart while ya'll are in Michigan. Then you're going to be stuck in a place that you really don't want to be and you're going to be surrounded by people that you really don't want to be around. If tha love is real and he's really in love with you then he going to love you no matter how far apart you two are. If it's good for you and makes you happy then he should support you. All in all you have to do what is best for you, because if you're not happy, especially with yourself, then no one around you will be happy either. :wink:
I'm kind of in the same situation, he wants to stay in CT, while I want to leave CT for good. I'm just glad I've got him considering college. I think you should go do what you have to do, if he cares about you, he'll be patient and realize how much this means to you. It'll be a test on your relationship, and if it doesn't work out, maybe it wasn't meant to be. In time you'll find the one you're meant to be with. That's how I see it at least.
-DeAnna-
aaawww dayum....nobody tryin to stick up for my bf...wellz, maybe y'all are right. I just dunno how im gon do it. Cuz fa real that's my love ri there. I mean, he told me that if I wanted to go to the HBCU, then go. But, i know and he knows that we wanna be together. it bites... :cry:
Like see, I would stick up for ur bf, but I gotta speak on what I know...
me and my guy have been talking on and off for the last four years, had an actual relationship this summer. We didn't really talk that much for a little while and by the time he found out my plans to attend an HBCU, I had already sent in all of my applications. He couldn't say or do anything to change my mind. Yeah, he's sad that I'm at Hampton and thaz 10hrs away, but he knows that I gotta do my thing, and he's going to Pittsburgh next year to do his thing...it's cool tho, cause we will make it last.
Point is, don't change ur plans for him. If he is what he's been saying he is, he will be there when u get back. He should respect u for going to do ur own thing. So go...u guys will just use up alot of phone time like I do lol
damn man i FEEL you. I been wantin to go to this college since b4 i was in fricken high school! Then I meet him, and I'm just supposed to go to where he's at....he won't even come and VISIT me in cali...but he expects me to move to Michigan??
I dunno man...Now it's more about me not disappointing him....it's like I'm getting his hopes up by just entertaining the thought of moving there. And to be like all of a sudden "it's out of the question" he's gonna be hurt. I don't like being responsible for other peoples pain....
your thoughts?
damn man i FEEL you. I been wantin to go to this college since b4 i was in fricken high school! Then I meet him, and I'm just supposed to go to where he's at....he won't even come and VISIT me in cali...but he expects me to move to Michigan??
I dunno man...Now it's more about me not disappointing him....it's like I'm getting his hopes up by just entertaining the thought of moving there. And to be like all of a sudden "it's out of the question" he's gonna be hurt. I don't like being responsible for other peoples pain....
your thoughts?
I mean basically u gotta do u...even if u hurt ppl in tha process...
oh and if he really loves u and knows that u r his, he will kno that it will b hard but worth it to have ur back in whatever u do...cause if he don't, forget about him...u can't forget about ur dreams just to satisfy his. Hopefully he loves you enough to understand that u love him but u can't sacrifice everything for him...
