Well ma I can only speak for me and maybe those that'll relate to my comments, I dont have a problem opening up to my woman, cause I'm an open person and I'm very expressive when it comes to my feelings, BUT with that said I'm more cautious now than I was before based on the fact I've been that open and have gotten hurt numerous times for that reason. Men dont really open up because they wanna seem weak or by society's standards as not as manly cause they open up. I dont care about all that I open up to people I have a comfort level with. Another thing, if he not opening up to YOU, maybe it's cause you're not his main girl
Personally, I just state however I feel. Cause how are you going to be in a decent relationship if there's not open communication? I'll tell a woman I love her. It's basically a matter of being compassionate. To let a woman know that you're not just there to sleep with them, but to be their man. But due to the fact that we are supposed to be the "less-sensitive gender", we don't always know how to show our feelings without being labeled as "whipped" or something. People will began to think we're on some Maxwell/Babyface type stuff. Plus, you rarely know if they feel the same about you as you feel about them. It has to be true love for the compassion and openess to come out the woodworks.
"One Love"
For those who do have that problem, the fella may think that you will throw it back in they face when yall get into an arguement. Just a suggestion i havent the slightest clue.
I think most guys don't open up simply because they are afraid. A lot of girls play games like guys do. Guys have feelings too and don't want to be hurt. It's hard to open up to someone you don't quite completely trust. It will come with time. I guess girls trust people faster than guys. The mistake a lot of girls make is trying to force a guy to open up. Sometimes this only makes it worse. When he wants to talk, he will.
I believe that a man and woman should be able to open up to one another. If a man don't feel like he can do that than maybe its because he doesn't feel uncomfortable or ready. Than again i would keep it to myself because once u tell a female your true feelings they begin to act a lil different than usual. So it really depends on how long u have been with that person and how well u trust them with your feelings.
The mistake a lot of girls make is trying to force a guy to open up. Sometimes this only makes it worse. When he wants to talk, he will.
i agree with that. i let him know that i wanted to know what was bothering him (even though he would pretend everything was alright i just knew it was deeper than that) so i was like alright i'm just gonna wait until he decides to tell me cuz it has to come eventually. well it did...wasn't anything that i wanted to hear since i'm so sensitive and emotional and all, but we talked about it and i can tell that it was like a burden lifted off him when we talk now and i'm glad we had that talk. but the bottom line is don't rush it. it'll probably just upset them if u do. depending on how close yall are he's gonna tell u when the time is right for him. sorry i got all into my story and all...
Brittany
I think some guys don't open up because they are afraid to be vulnerable. Guys try to be hard so much and they don't want us to find out that they can be vulnerable and scared just like us. Once u open up to someone and let them in, then u can be hurt by them. So guys shut us out as protection.Now true u can't get hurt if u don't open up but u can't be in love either so u miss out on a lot if u don't open up. I mean what's life without love?? So guys pleaz let the females that care about u into your heart, tell us how u feel, we don't bite {unless u ask us to :lol: }, and we don't mind you having insecurities because we have our own.Remember, a closed mouth don't get fed.
As a guy, I can tell you that I don't open up to every female I talk to. I just don't feel comfortable telling my business to some people, even friends (an I'm an open person). The thing is, it takes time for a guy to open to someone. He has to feel comfortable talking to you, and he has to know that the girl he is talkin to is not gonna turn around and try to use that as a weakness. If you want your man to open to you, there are subtle ways to gain his trust. The main thing is to not make him feel bad, and joke on him when he tells you something. If you don't, I promise you, he'll open up to you when he's ready, and it will be sooner than you think. Ladies, you must past the test, and if you do, everything will be a lot better.
Well, guys don't really open up to their girls totally because it is seen as a sign of weakness. Regardless of how girls wanna say, "yeah, I want him to open up to me totally. I want him to be sensitive," that just will not work. A girl will end up growing apart from a guy, especially if she knows all of his business. He loses that mysterious persona, thus losing part of the girl's attraction to him. I'm not saying don't open up. You can show some feelings. But a guy that opens up totally to a girl will lose that girl eventually.
sorry i got all into my story and all...
Brittany
