ok i was talkin to my mom about howard and she said she was kinda nervous about me being so far away from any type of family (we live in cali) and how the closest family i have is in atlanta...so my question is how far are yall from family and did distance affect your college choice?
the.pretty.prodigy.
I am from Houston and I got to school in VA. It isn't as far as Cali is from DC, but it is a bit of a distance. To answer your question distance did play a big factor in my decision. I was ready to leave. All I was thinkin was heck yea... I'm leaving this place. It was a good chance to experience a new enviornment. When you go to school you will meet people that are from the area. They eventually become your extended family, so it becomes less hard to be away from home. You also become a little more independent if you aren't already. All in all it is a growing and learning experience more than a burden.
yeah i've heard that extended family thing...and ya knoe im pretty mature... i come from the classic single mom who always works and i gotta fend for myself background...and pleeeeze believe im ready to get up outta here...its jus that even though im by myself a lot the longest ive been away from home is like a couple of months and i just dont want to make a bad decision...but imma think about that though... :wink:
the.pretty.prodigy.
im a senior in high school tryna go to Spelman (i applied early action, waitin on my letter, prayerfully) and my mom prefers that i go away b/c she thinks thats the only way i'll grow and be my own person. i live in DC so moving to ATL would be a great distance for me, but im embracing the distance cuz i think thats when i'll truly develop myself and who i am. plus, im always wit my sister so it'll give me a chance to be my own person :wink:
I was ready to leave. All I was thinkin was heck yea... I'm leaving this place. It was a good chance to experience a new enviornment.
COSIGN! other than the whole becoming independent part, i am really sick n tired of this area and am ready for something new! plus being away from my family means they wont come n check on my every damn second!!!
yeah i've heard that extended family thing...and ya knoe im pretty mature... i come from the classic single mom who always works and i gotta fend for myself background...and pleeeeze believe im ready to get up outta here...its jus that even though im by myself a lot the longest ive been away from home is like a couple of months and i just dont want to make a bad decision...but imma think about that though... :wink:
the.pretty.prodigy.
Well before I went off to school I had never been away from home. I was always with family. In the beginning I was kind of lonely, but that didn't last long. No matter where you go, the experience is up to you. Even if you are close to home, if you don't open yourself up to new people then you won't have a good experience anywhere.
Undergrad: In state tuition was my only resolve because we were PO', and I was financially responsible. BUT I WANTED TO BE FARRRR AWAY, so I ended up one hour away, and NEVER going home in four years.
Graduate School: I left S.C. for Alaska (18 hours aways= $3,000 flight to get home) So now I'm finally away, age 25, with 3 yrs to go, and I'm homesick. (Blaming it on the holidays).
I go to Albany State and I am from Atlanta so I'm only 2 1/2 hours from home. Distance affected my school choice because my ma feels like I'm her baby and she didn't want me too far during my freshman year. I wanted to go to Howard, Morgan State, and some schools down south but my ma wanted me to stay in state.
Distance was the MAIN factor in my college decision...Regrdless of whether I was at a PWI or an HBCU...I knew I wouldnt be going to school in state. I know peoples parents who wont let them go outta state and thats ridiculous, cause people gotta be able to let go and let their children experience life, and view a world OUTSIDE of what they seen everyday for the last 18 years. Thank God my parents were open to letting me go where I wanted...Dont get me wrong..my parents do worry about me cause Im from Connecticut and have no family in Florida whatsoever. My closest relative is in North Carolina...SO my parents realize I am there alone....but they know I can handle myself and Ill be alright. I just think its selfish for parents to hinder their child from going to school outta state just cause they gonna miss them....Im not saying you gotta go to school 20 hrs away...even tho Im 24 hrs from home, lol...but if a parent cant deal with their child going to an outta state school like 5 hrs away...then thats a problem...cause they aint never gonna let them grow up and do them...Ill be damned....M parents want me to be happy, and I wouldnt be happy going to school near home....so thats why I went far away...I like my independence. Dont get me wrong, my parents do wish that I was a lil close to home...Even if it was still outta stae but I could go home every other weekend or sumthing...But like I said, they want me to do what is best for me and what will make me happy. Being away from home I met so many different types of people. The problem with going to school in state is that I would go to school with half the people I graduated h.s. with. I didnt want that at all. I wanted all new friends, experiences, etc... I know I will never move back home. Ima stay down south. I wont live in Fla...but ima live somewhere in the south. But yeah...I got off on a tangent...Distance was an important factor in my decision, and thankfully I had parents who were open to me leaving home.
