Ok honestly I do not know how to explain this without telling to much so Im just going to tell the basics. Ok I always knew I wanted to go greek for so many reasons but I never knew exactly what I wanted to do I mean I had my ideas but I am not the type to jump into anything. When I got to school for some reason I started hanging with xyz alot and REALLY started to like them and what they stood for and I was set on what I wanted to do but I still do not like the idea of jumping into things so I was waiting until I was ready. Now things have changed I mean I am still interested in them but recently I found out they are doing some stuff that just do not seem right. Basically they are letting someone that has not even been here a full semester pledge (I do not know how) and this chick doesn't even have a gpa yet. Also they only have a few people on the yard lets just say....3 and so I know they probably want to put more people on the yard but I really want things to be done the right way not just sticking people in to say its more people. The problem is I have been hanging with the girls of xyz not because they are xyz but because we are friends so I don't know if other organizations would look down on that. Its also alot more about the organization that I am starting not to like but I dont't want to say to much on that. Basically I need to know should I just look over these things since I like the organization so much or should I stick to the things that are most important to me??? Sorry if its hard to understand I didn't know how to word it.
Hey Sweetie,
There are 2 two things that you must do.
1. Weigh the pros and cons about that org.
2. Do the research on the other orgs that you would consider, and then come them apples to apples.
Once you have compared everything (what you like, dislike, what they stand for, wat you stand for, their aspirations, goal, ect.) then you can make a conscious decision.
About the girl that you said that doesn't have the GPA, there might be more to it that you are not privy to. (ie. she may have transferred or have been there before) who's to know.....
Hey Sweetie,
There are 2 two things that you must do.
1. Weigh the pros and cons about that org.
2. Do the research on the other orgs that you would consider, and then come them apples to apples.
Once you have compared everything (what you like, dislike, what they stand for, wat you stand for, their aspirations, goal, ect.) then you can make a conscious decision.
About the girl that you said that doesn't have the GPA, there might be more to it that you are not privy to. (ie. she may have transferred or have been there before) who's to know.....
Hey Sweetie,
There are 2 two things that you must do.
1. Weigh the pros and cons about that org.
2. Do the research on the other orgs that you would consider, and then come them apples to apples.
Once you have compared everything (what you like, dislike, what they stand for, wat you stand for, their aspirations, goal, ect.) then you can make a conscious decision.
About the girl that you said that doesn't have the GPA, there might be more to it that you are not privy to. (ie. she may have transferred or have been there before) who's to know.....
Co-Signs
And something else I wanna add. If u let one person or people hender u from the org that u have ur eyes set on......then maybe u shouldnt be greek! True enough members of that org are suppose to represent that org in the right way but as we all know EVERYONE isnt that way and EVERYONE doesnt follow the rules. And just cause one person,group, or hell even a ENTIRE chapter is doing something wrong or acts a certain way doesnt mean that EVERY chapter or person in that org is that way. It should be about what YOU can bring to the table and what can u do for HER(the org u have in MIND). So maybe u should sit back and think why IIIIIS it that u wanna even be greek. Cause if u REALLY wanted to be apart of the org that u have in MIND. Then nothing or no one would be able to detour you from HER. Me personally I didnt have to have a org in MIND. I already had her in my heart.
But I really so hope it works out for u
Wrekless is on point!
I have a few "daughters" who are in your shoes...just happens to be about boys...
Ok, it is about Greek too. Here is what you also gotta do. You gotta know that you are a "junior" member-to-be and until you get "established" you need to be comfortable wit the way day roll.
You will burn your bridge if you try and right the "wrongs". As pointed out you really do not know about girlfriend's GPA, legacy status and a host of other items. Focus on you...or, do you...as my son says. If it works then ok. If not then make yo move.
One thing I am not getting from your post...Are you happy? You got a lot of heavy burden on you for becoming a "sister". This is suppose to be FUN! Make sure that you are having fun ok?
Ok I see what everyone saying about how I don't know her situation but she is kinda "slow" and know nothing about greek life so she is going around talking about "da*m I know I'm good I'm online and I don't even have ONE hour" I'm like are you for real? For one thats not something you should be talking about. Thanks for all the advice I know what I am going to do now I am going to just work on what is REALLY in my heart. Thanks
i'm gonna play the devil's advocate for a minute and tell u sumthin a lil different. Becuz sometimes we may think sumthin is for us, when in actuality, it isn't. So even if u think this org is what's in your heart, u cannot really be a constructive member of an organization if u do not vibe well with the members or if u don't feel comfortable in that environment. U never know how God works, so he could have shown u the negative side of this org to push u to look into other things. Before i came to college i was **** set on another org, but i had to see certain things, do my research, and really see where i fit in to assess what org was best for me. Also keep in mind that undergrad is not the only thing there is to Greek life. There is always grad chapter, so if u don't see this chapter as something that is conducive to who u are and what u are all about, then u might want to wait. Becuz if it is REALLY in your heart, then it is worth the wait.
Really think and pray about what is best for u.
ok
it had to be the zetas and sgrho's
cuz the aka's and delta's have lines for years
pledging freshmen?
how desperate can they be
if u aint got nobody you aint got nobody
dag
ok
it had to be the zetas and sgrho's
cuz the aka's and delta's have lines for years
pledging freshmen?
how desperate can they be
if u aint got nobody you aint got nobody
dag
Not really I do not go to a hbcu so not having many people on the yard is common...I mean greek life is big at PWI's but sometimes they go years before they have another line. and most the people graduate.
