So you have a buddy that wants to get down with your org....
They want you to pull some strings to get you in, but you know
they ain't no good, and would probably embarrass you if they
fug up and drop line, cause drama, etc. How do you tell them
that you won't be able to vouch for their entry into your org?
If not simply no (if they're a real friend I'd be straight up ), then I would either tell them that I think being Greek is something that someone must obtain on their own to fully appreciate it (true) or that I'm not vouching for anyone as I am still learning everyday what it takes to be a GOOD Delta woman, therefore, I cannot say that you or anyone else has that in you (also true).
Like I say. .
I don't sponsor **** anymore. . . i've had my heart broken once by a sorry pledge, and I said never again.
Don't take it personal, go to the next cat.
Ive been through a similar situation. Simply I told her that just because she is a good friend wont make her a good Soror and that since I knew her I also knew that she was just not ready to join my sisterhood. I would only vouch for another female if I feel strong enough about her abilities that I would sacrifice my pearls to make sure that she could partake in the sisterhood....it has 2 be THAT strong. Quite frankly, I haven't found any one that I would want to vouch for...I guess that is because I was a DIE HARD AKA prospect (literally) and even b4 AKA I was like a walking greek history book and I studied every aspect of greek history in my free time...i guess Im just trying to find that die hard quality in someone else...so far no luck
Honestly. Let me preface this by saying, I'm also an Eastern Star, so I don't take my ability to vouch for another lightly.
I think you should tell whoever it is that is deemed "unworthy" honestly and directly. Not need beating around the bush or being vague about it.
It also depends on the nature of the relationship and whether or not you'd like this person to ever be "worthy" of seeking membership.
You could point them in the right direction to earn it for themselves or simply decline to vouch, give no indication as to where they need work and let the chips fall where they may.
Other than honest and upfront, technique would be the only other consideration.
Much like my "spec club" my "vouch club" is ridiculously tight.
If all of our members were this way with their vouch-ability I believe we could cut down on some of the garbage that slips through the cracks.
So you have a buddy that wants to get down with your org....
They want you to pull some strings to get you in, but you know
they ain't no good, and would probably embarrass you if they
fug up and drop line, cause drama, etc. How do you tell them
that you won't be able to vouch for their entry into your org?
If ya friend is some sh!t, then hell, I'd tell him what the deal is that to get his stuff together and come correct so that I can meet him half way. If not, then he's just not cut out. Even if he's my homeboi.
I have a pretty good relationships with my friendz...and i must emphasize...not homies, not associates, but FRIENDS. And in those relationships, there is an element of realness. I can tell them sumthin straight up and be open and honest with my opinions, and vice versa. If it was someone that I am truly connected with, I'd have no problem telling them how I feel about the situation. Friend on no friend, I don't don't play when it comes to my letters.
