In general, how do you feel about pre-nuptial agreements? Do you feel they are necessary in our society, and do you plan to get one when you are married? Aside from the money and property involved, do you feel they are negative because it shows a lack of trust or faith in a marriage? On the other hand, do you feel a woman deserves to take half of a man's earnings during the marriage?
Personally, I am for them in all cases when both the man and woman are working. I feel that the fact that a woman is supposed to get half of a man's earnings was only in place because of the fact that in the (distant) past, many women were housewives and were entitled to half of everything because they never had to work during their marriage, and I figure they "deserved" half of everything. But in 2006, I actually think the law for marriage should be modified to where there is no need for pre-nups, and that a woman should NEVER get half. I just don't see the point of it because woman are now given the same opportunities as males in most cases, and even though they still aren't paid as much as men (which I don't agree with), I don't feel they need half of the money in a divorce, especially if the divorce was caused by something they may have caused.
In general, how do you feel about pre-nuptial agreements? Do you feel they are necessary in our society, and do you plan to get one when you are married? Aside from the money and property involved, do you feel they are negative because it shows a lack of trust or faith in a marriage? On the other hand, do you feel a woman deserves to take half of a man's earnings during the marriage?
Personally, I am for them in all cases when both the man and woman are working. I feel that the fact that a woman is supposed to get half of a man's earnings was only in place because of the fact that in the (distant) past, many women were housewives and were entitled to half of everything because they never had to work during their marriage, and I figure they "deserved" half of everything. But in 2006, I actually think the law for marriage should be modified to where there is no need for pre-nups, and that a woman should NEVER get half. I just don't see the point of it because woman are now given the same opportunities as males in most cases, and even though they still aren't paid as much as men (which I don't agree with), I don't feel they need half of the money in a divorce, especially if the divorce was caused by something they may have caused.
I DONT KNOOOW ABOUT PRENUPZ THEY CAN BE OKAY IF U HAVE A CHEATIN HUSBAND BUT SUPPOSE U GOT A GOOD ONE IM SAYING IT DEPENDS ON HOW THE MARRIAGE PLAYS OUT I DONT LIKE THEM BUT IF I HAD TO GET ONE I WOULD
HELL NO. whatever he's got... i want half. no... i DESERVE it. lol just kidding
but for real, though, marriages should be about love, not about money. if whoever asks me to marry him asks me to sign one, i'd leave, because obviously he's more focused on $$$ than on our love.
HELL NO. whatever he's got... i want half. no... i DESERVE it. lol just kidding
but for real, though, marriages should be about love, not about money. if whoever asks me to marry him asks me to sign one, i'd leave, because obviously he's more focused on $$$ than on our love.
That's the main dillemna between men and women on this issue....the female will usually say hell no, and they'll say it has nothing to do with them wanting money, but them feeling that he is thinkin she is either a goldigger, or that he is more concerned about money than believing that they will have a solid future. I think that may be the hardest thing to communicate.
Say me and you were engaged or whatever....you would really leave because I asked you to sign one? I wouldn't be doin it because I'm so-called focused on money, but because I think it's pointless for you to get half IF somethin did happen, and even though I'd hope nothing would ever happen for us to have to get a divorce, you can never be so sure.
So being honest.....if it was the other way around, and the man was to get half of the female's money after a divorce, would you want me to sign it, or would u still be against it?
I agree with you Rtistic,
Most women that I know would be for the usual "I get half of everything", until it comes to them having more money, then alot of times they have a different opinion. Personally I feel that if the love is there then it shouldnt matter, but if for some reason we do happen to break, I dont feel that my spouse "deserves" ish that she didnt herself work for. For instance, Kobe's wife. If they were to split she'd be rich, when coming into the marriage, she didnt have ish!! Thats not right...
HELL NO. whatever he's got... i want half. no... i DESERVE it. lol just kidding
but for real, though, marriages should be about love, not about money. if whoever asks me to marry him asks me to sign one, i'd leave, because obviously he's more focused on $$$ than on our love.
That's the main dillemna between men and women on this issue....the female will usually say hell no, and they'll say it has nothing to do with them wanting money, but them feeling that he is thinkin she is either a goldigger, or that he is more concerned about money than believing that they will have a solid future. I think that may be the hardest thing to communicate.
Say me and you were engaged or whatever....you would really leave because I asked you to sign one? I wouldn't be doin it because I'm so-called focused on money, but because I think it's pointless for you to get half IF somethin did happen, and even though I'd hope nothing would ever happen for us to have to get a divorce, you can never be so sure.
So being honest.....if it was the other way around, and the man was to get half of the female's money after a divorce, would you want me to sign it, or would u still be against it?
I would still be against it...I would have to agree with Amanda, the marriage should not be about money, it should be about love...no matter what, if there was to be a divorce, things would be complicated, a pre-nup would not make that much easier...just imagine if my mom would have signed a prenup stating that she would not get anything if she were to divorce my dad...she wouldnt have ANYTHING, because she doesnt work...believe it or not there are still PLENTY of housewives...I dunno, I'm just not in favor of them...never have been
divorce rate over 50% pre nups are absolutely crucial!
what, do u actually think yall will be in love forever? No, youll hate the way she breathes in 4 years time
I agree with you Rtistic,
Most women that I know would be for the usual "I get half of everything", until it comes to them having more money, then alot of times they have a different opinion. Personally I feel that if the love is there then it shouldnt matter, but if for some reason we do happen to break, I dont feel that my spouse "deserves" ish that she didnt herself work for. For instance, Kobe's wife. If they were to split she'd be rich, when coming into the marriage, she didnt have ish!! Thats not right...
It would serve him right his dumb a** should not have married. I am not signing any prenup. A man should find him a woman with her own career instead of finding these women looking for a free ride. Then you wont have to worry about a prenup. But I would hope my future spouse would care more about my well being and how I am doing if our marriage ever was to end and want to split half with me anyway, instead of thinking of what profit he will walk away with. That is the mark of a very selfish person and they may want to reevaluate getting married.
It's gonna be a topic of discussion between me and my future spouse. Regardless of whether or not we were both professionals or not. Marriage is not just about love, it's a partnership. I look at it from a business aspect. This is just an insurance policy for me to protect my interest brought into the marriage. I'd expect her to consider it especially if she came into the marriage with money. If you get past the emotional aspect of it, it's not that serious. You can sign one, live happily ever after, and never talk about it again. No big deal. My mother told me this about marriage..."No matter how mich you think you know or prepare yourself for it, you'll never be prapared to deal with what you'll experience." Nothing is certain. Divorce is nothing but a last option for me. If and when I have to use it, best believe I'm tryna keep all MY STUFF. Lol.
^^^I totally agree as well.
and in the case that the female makes more money than the male...I think that both parties should leave with what they came in the marriage with, not no damn pre-nups...I think only the husband should give the wife half if he makes more money than her...traditionally, the male is the provider in the house, so when that income is taken away and the mother almost ALWAYS gets primary custody of the kids, then that is where the half of the income comes in. I dunno, that part makes sense to me but only when the female makes less than the male...
