copied the post below from a forum www.nigeriansinamerica.com which came from a a site, www.naijarules.com. Makes interesting reading...
Conversation between a daughter of Nigerian immigrants to america from another Nigerian.
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Yesterday I was over at my wife????s parent????s house helping her dad do some home improvements. While there, my sister-in-law was talking on the phone to one of her friends, when I overheard her mention to her friend that she doesn't like Nigerian guys, and would never date one.
So after her talk with her friend I asked her why she felt the way she did about dating a Nigerian boy, and she replied that they just weren't her "type", and furthermore it just wasn't Naija boys, but African guys period. Now that struck a bit of a nerve with me, and I asked how could she say such a thing????? when she herself was African. Well, to say the least????? that was obviously the wrong thing for me to say, because she immediately when ghetto on me and in a loud %#&@$!y voice blurted out "I aint no African".
In a state of utter shock, I replied with, " you are an African; aren't your parents African, aren't they Nigerian? Her: "Yeah, so what, that's them, not me. I wasn't born in Africa, I don't talk like one, I don't speak any African languages, I don't act like one; and I only been there like once, and I don't even remember it all that much. And plus I don't even really know any Africans other than what????s in my family... so.???? BENIN: "What about Kells, and Nina (two Naija friends of hers)?" HER: "They ain't African, either. Our parents, and uncles and stuff are African, but we aren't!!! We were born and raised in America, and hardly know anything about Naija or Africa period... so what's the point? Even our own cousins from Naija say we aren't African... Sooo. And plus we don't want to be African; what's so special about being African? Nothing!!!"
As I stood in shock, and in an state of discontent... shacking my head side to side in a show of disbelief over what I just heard this little 13yo say, her father came into the area from the next room were he must have been standing listening to the conversation. In a sad and distraught voice, he blurted out... "How can you say that? You are African!! Your mother and I, your sister!! Where did you get these foolish ideas from; who's been teaching you this stuff? Your cousins back home? HER: " No, it's the truth. And you guys can't make us be something that we aren't and don't want to be... Ok? Sorry!!
^^hmm....the same things happen with second generation asians for some reason too. they quickly become ashamed of where they're from, they're parents, language, and try to become as americanized as possible.
pretty much happens with ALL immigrants to america. europeans, asians, africans....the american-born generation hates thier homeland and orginal culture ect...
i really hate it when these cats try to be white.
*cough cough*
asians.
"They told us that Indian ways were bad. They said we must get ‘civilized’….It means ‘be like the white man’… And the books told how bad the Indians had been to the white men—burning their towns and killing their women and children. But I had seen white men do that to Indians. We all wore white man's clothes and ate white man's food and went to white man's churches and spoke white man's talk. And so after a while we also began to say Indians were bad. We laughed at our own people…” Sun Elk, Taos Pueblo, Carlisle, 1890 [1]
Not just black Americans happens to almost everyone who comes into contact with white culture.
LOL...My b/f is 1st generation 100% Nigerian-American ( I'm Black)...and so are many of my friends at Morgan. They all claim Nigeria and even speak with an accent to each other.About half of the guys say they wouldn't marry a Nigerian chick but ALL the girls are completely loyal to their countrymen and sometimes exclusively to their ethnic group.They all rep their heritage though but my b/f hates how the older Nigerians act. So closed minded and stuck up so he says.
That's usually how it is for a lot of African or foreign kids when they are at that age and as they grow and get older and wiser they start to appreciate their background more.
