In the wrong family

22 replies · 9153 views · Started by Orca51 · Jul 2008

Orca51

Chesapeake, VA

Orca51 Chesapeake, VA

wow that was alot to read...lol no it wasn't well i could relate to most of the things you said except in my family all my cousins rely on me they think i'm the chosen child so all the pressure was/is on me to succeed in highschool and in college Cursing

so stressful sometimes....for instance in my family this year i had a bad year because my mom lost her job and everything in life was crappy...and my family found out that my gpa had dropped from a 3.4 to a 3.1......and they said some of the most insulting things...which really and i mean really upset me...because the 2 cousins below me have gpa's that are barely 1.0s.....but anyways Your not always going to like who you are related to (which is another reason i want to go out of state for college) but they are your family whether or not they like you or if you don't like them...in my opinion just do you...stay true to yourself even though it may seem like its 1 against 20 or how many people are in your family...im the "odd ball" of my family...but just stay strong plus when you become rich...they will come around..then you can kick them to the curb....just kiddin

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xosugababeox@yahoo.com · Jul 2008

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Girl i feel you entirely i sometimes face this same drama. But, it push me to know what i want out of life and fight for it. Although family is suppose to be supportive, you have to understand they probably grew up with a mentality of being different and stepping outside of their comfort zone would make them feel as you do. You are obvisouly very smart, but if your family is good at sports then thats their comfort zone, to pursue a dream while knowing your family won't support you is hard. Your job is to teach the younger members of your family to follow in their own footsteps.Your a born leader and you need to show them that your education means alot to you. So they could support you or 10 years from now your uncle will be googling your name. He could get mad again but no matter what you success will give them a sense of pride.

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I say stick firm to what you feel is right-in the end you have to live with the decisions you make. You cant live life for the approval of others. I totally feel that just because people are kin does not mean that they cant be wrong or that they have your best interest in mind. You will be a stronger person for it in the end. Remain observant but not judgemental. I dont know if you watched the CNN special "Black in America"-it opened my eyes to another perspective of why WE do things to ourselves and our families

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Orca51 from Indianapolis, IN · Jul 2008

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monique09 wrote:
wow that was alot to read...lol no it wasn't well i could relate to most of the things you said except in my family all my cousins rely on me they think i'm the chosen child so all the pressure was/is on me to succeed in highschool and in college so stressful sometimes....for instance in my family this year i had a bad year because my mom lost her job and everything in life was crappy...and my family found out that my gpa had dropped from a 3.4 to a 3.1......and they said some of the most insulting things...which really and i mean really upset me...because the 2 cousins below me have gpa's that are barely 1.0s.....but anyways Your not always going to like who you are related to (which is another reason i want to go out of state for college) but they are your family whether or not they like you or if you don't like them...in my opinion just do you...stay true to yourself even though it may seem like its 1 against 20 or how many people are in your family...im the "odd ball" of my family...but just stay strong plus when you become rich...they will come around..then you can kick them to the curb....just kiddin

Thanks for the advice. I just don't know if I can deal with it anymore. Lately, I've spent more of my time crying than smiling or laughing. Whenever someone sees me crying, I try to go somewhere where I can be alone. It's impossible. I lock the bathroom door and they want to get in to see why I'm in there for so long. Or I'll sit in my closet with my ipod, and they'll come in there basically just to tell me I'm selfish or something. I'm just so sad lately. They keep going on and on about how this isn't MY life until I'm 21. HowI can't pick MY college because it's their choice. Or how I can't buy a $2,000 car when I'm 18 to get around even if I have the money for the car, gas and insurance. I need the car because if I don't have one it's harder for me to work because i go to a private school(that i got a full ride scholarship to which is the only reason I was allowed to go, and they still say it was a bad idea because I'm not white) and the school doesn't have bus transportation. I depend on friends for rides to work in the winter because they are nice enough to not want me walking in the snow, or if it isn't too bad I walk. I feel though that if they really don't let me leave for college I'll never get away. Can they really stop me from going out of state for college? Can they even stop me from moving out at 18 even though I'll still be in high school?

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Orca51 from Indianapolis, IN · Jul 2008

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xosugababeox@yahoo.com wrote:
Girl i feel you entirely i sometimes face this same drama. But, it push me to know what i want out of life and fight for it. Although family is suppose to be supportive, you have to understand they probably grew up with a mentality of being different and stepping outside of their comfort zone would make them feel as you do. You are obvisouly very smart, but if your family is good at sports then thats their comfort zone, to pursue a dream while knowing your family won't support you is hard. Your job is to teach the younger members of your family to follow in their own footsteps.Your a born leader and you need to show them that your education means alot to you. So they could support you or 10 years from now your uncle will be googling your name. He could get mad again but no matter what you success will give them a sense of pride.

Thanks for the advice. I feel that the only contact I want my family to be able to have with me 10 years from now is google. I don't want to hang around any of them. I want to move out soon. Do you think it would be really hard to survive w/ a roommate at 18, while working 30 hours a week and taking an easy high school course load? I don't need to take really hard classes because I could actually graduate after this year, which is my junior year. The only reason I'm even sticking around for the last year is because of the things I don't want to miss about senior year.