Ladies, here's one we all can relate to.
The other day when I was out at lunch, a rather rough-looking fellow took it upon himself to sit down at the table across from me and "spit game." You know the type...the lame, toothless and/or gold-toothed, uncombed, unkempt, wanna-be gangsta type brotha who thinks all women are hoes and they all want to be holla'ed at by HIM.
So. This brotha welcomes himself to my lunch table, interrupting my meal and the book I was reading, to tell me how much of a **** he was and how attached I would become to him. :roll: Of course, in my being civil and respecting him as a human, I politely ignored him and waited for him to ask for my number so I could go ahead, give him the wrong one, and finish my lunch. Which I did. So my question for you all is, was I wrong for misleading him, allowing him to think that he could actually call that number and reach me, although I felt his approach was inappropriate? What's the alternative to being...well, dishonest?
You all know how these guys can get if you reject or even ignore their advances...some yell, curse, call names, and even go so far as to get physical, like grabbing and so forth. My policy up to this point is to be as nice as possible until I can get away, but maybe that's not good enough, since these guys still think that that kind of thing is effective. So what do you suggest? What have you done when you find yourself in this situation?
And guys, you're welcome to comment too, even though the guys I'm referring to aren't necessarily the "college-bound" type...
Well I've been in your same situation and usually I just tell them that I got a man. But lately its been getting out of hand, so now I just tell them that I'm not interested and I walk away. Simple as that.
Dude Perspective:
Don't lie about the number, don't lie about having a man. . . just give him a simple and sweet "I'm sorry, I'm not interested." In his case you should have reminded him that he was being rude by interrupting your lunch.
If he begs to know why you won't give him your number, simply say, "maybe another day or time, but right now I'm not feeling you."
A girl told me that before, and it was so shocking that I just walked away.
Dude Perspective:
Don't lie about the number, don't lie about having a man. . . just give him a simple and sweet "I'm sorry, I'm not interested." In his case you should have reminded him that he was being rude by interrupting your lunch.
If he begs to know why you won't give him your number, simply say, "maybe another day or time, but right now I'm not feeling you."
A girl told me that before, and it was so shocking that I just walked away.
IF U SAY THAT TO A TRUE ****, A GIRL WILL GET HER **** STRAIGHT CLOWNED!!! HE WILL EMBARASS THE MESS OUTTA HER. ESPECIALLY DOWN HERE WHERE I RESIDE!!! THESE NUCCAS DOWN HERE HATE REJECTION.
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i have never met a dude dumb enough to run up on a girl with those lines about makin a girl a wife and how she gonna be all over him....
been watchin too many videos and listenin to these idiots rap about their game to chicken heads...sad sad day.
but dont lie to the brotha...just tell him straight up he approached you wrong and you aren't feeling him at the current time.
That's my 2 cents.
If someone comes at you respectfully and you simply aren't interested, he deserves a respectful response, even if you really aren't interested. Saying that you're already involved with someone is usually enough.
I'm assuming that people are coming at you disrespectfully, like the dude you described in the post, in which case, do what you gotta do. You don't necessarily have to call dude out in public, but let him know that you're not interested and additionally you don't appreciate the way he approached you.
Please don't go with the fake numbers and all that because it's disrespectful and opens you both up for some embarassment, even if you feel that he deserves it. If you tell someone you're already involved or you simply aren't looking for someone right now, even the most pressed dude will appreciate your class and the opportunity for him to save face. Holla!
Neo you feel me. . .
If you're straight up about it, even a **** will respect your honesty. . . If he's too hardcore, for that, he'd probably get turned off by your civility anyway. Most dudes are not going to make a scene if they approach you without their boys. And if they do approach you with their boys, the first thing you should say is "oh so you couldn't do it by yourself."
You shouldn't have to make any excuses for who you choose to date. But I know the fake number thing pisses EVERYBODY off. And you might see the person again, so you're taking a big risk.
