i dont HAVE TO APPRECIATE ****

yeah! how bout this dude called me asking me about some other dude and at the moment i can't even think of who it is but he said Natalie why can't you look past the looks and think about his personality? I said how bout it's his personality that I don't like? and now that i think about i really didn't like his looks either. but he didn't have to try and point out that i only like people for their looks jsut cause i didn't like him :evil:

I feel u Queenie. I try not to be too picky when it comes to guys and their looks. I try to seek the inner person, but when the spirit is just as **** as the exterior, there really is no hope for the negro :?. But yeah, men are real quick to say how fidning a "good black woman" is far and in between, but i don't understand how that's the case when we are outnumbering them in the churches, colleges/universities, and the job force. Seems like they have options galore to me :roll: .

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No here is a good one...I see this all the time on bp or mg. "I want a FREAK in the bedroom but a lady in public and she must be God fearing!!!" Unknown WTH??! :roll:

i like this post, its healthy to let out all of your frustrations... but... i think the problem is that most of you will let the guy approach you, an **** guy has nothing to lose, he already knows hes ****, and hes been rejected thousands of times, so he thinks hey whats one more, so he will go up to you quick, the kind of guy you are probably all looking for most likely wont approach you, either because he is shy, or he is too busy to worry about things like that, next time you go to a restaurant and want something to eat, stand there with your mouth open and tell me if anything good comes into your mouth, of course not, the only thing thats going to go inside your mouth is a insect, now go back to that same restaurant and grab a fork, pick up a serving of pie and glide it gently to your mouth, savor the flavor, and dont just pick any old pie, make sure you do your research and find the best kind of pie for you, and when you find that pie, make sure it is well cooked, and flawless.... i think of it like buying CD's, you could stand in front of the store and wait till hustle man comes out and tries to sell you a bootleg, or you can go inside the store and find exactly what you're looking for

lol i though noone would relate to my post and i was just randomly being crazy..yayyyyy im not crazy... i just think like guys look for too much when they want wifey/girlfriend/etc and dont even realize it...and they expect us to lower our standards simply because they are "black men doing good for themselves"... and are "rare in the black community"... like even if a guy is cute and he approches you in a rude manner or if he stinks lol....if i did that to a guy i would be roasted alive for being a **** or whatever but for a guy to do that it's almost viewed as ok...the norm...and its quite sad :arrow: talk amongst yourselves YAYYY PEOPLE DONT THINK IM CRAZY on this topic lol