Because the real issue has nothing to do with that other person. It's about you taking responsiblity for what you do.
what??ok you have to take responsibillity for oyur actions but youre tellin me that when a girl dresses like that she takes no part of the responsibility????????????
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i would like to say that this entire thread is really hilarious. some of you guys are really missing the ponit. respect was the issue of this topic, not judgement. the two dont always go hand and hand... get it together guys.
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This thread is about judging whether this woman deserves respect.... :???: .
ok sedi, thats not what i meant. Ex: I can see the way a woman is dressing and automatically be like, "hmm. i guess she's a hoe." In most cases of you guys cases, this will affect how you treat her. What I'm saing is that it shouldn't. I can think she is a hoe but still give her respect. Sooooo, like I said before gentleman, I think some of you guys are missing the point.
When people dress like that, they know full well what they're doing. When that girl dressed like that, she knew exactly how she'd be perceived. And she dressed like that regardless. I've said that if it were me I would treat her with the respect that every person deserves. But if someone were to treat her like a hoe, that person is not at fault. She is. People have to take responsibility for their own actions. She dressed like a hoe, knowing she'd be perceived as a hoe, then that's what she'd obviously expect to be treated as. Her dress and the way she carries herself say that she wants to be treated as a hoe. So how can you really blame people for treating her they she is basically begging to be treated? Nobody is responsible for how she is perceived (which is the reaason how she is treated) except her. It's her responsibility.
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This is why we have so many issues. No one takes responsiblity for their actions. You can't control what someone has on or even their actions. You can only control yours. So, if you disrespect someone, don't say that it's their fault because no one made you do or say anything.
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This is why we have so many issues. No one takes responsiblity for their actions. You can't control what someone has on or even their actions. You can only control yours. So, if you disrespect someone, don't say that it's their fault because no one made you do or say anything.
Lol, u damn sure had me fooled Jazzy :-) .
But that post is another contradiction. You say "No one takes responsibility for their actions". And if a man disrespects that girl it's his fault because no one made him do or say anything. Ok, a man will say "I treated her like a hoe becuause she is dressed like one". So... what about the girl? Why does only the man have to take responsibility for his actions?(which he does). Why doesn't the girl have to take responsibility for dressing like a hoe? You're being reaallly one sided Jazzy
Because the real issue has nothing to do with that other person. It's about you taking responsiblity for what you do. So, don't even try to flip the script. Your reaction doesnt make you any better than her.
You know what... I expect way to much from people and thats my fault.
Because the real issue has nothing to do with that other person. It's about you taking responsiblity for what you do. So, don't even try to flip the script. Your reaction doesnt make you any better than her.
You know what... I expect way to much from people and thats my fault.
Nobodies trying to flip the script. Like I said in the post before. Go to any man and ask him why he's treating that girl like a hoe, I guarantee you he'll tell you "Because she's up here looking like a hoe." How is that not taking responsibility for what you're doing? He's being honest about why he's doing it, and is accepting that that's what he's doing. He's taking responsibility. You've got to look at the situation from a objective point of view instead of subjective. Because it seems as if ur just trying to defend the woman instead of actually getting to the true heart of the issue. The responsibility bit isn't valid in any way shape or form in this situation, because the man will take responsibility for why he's dogging the girl in a heartbeat. Now... again, why doesn't she have to take responsibility for her giving the impression of a girl who wants to be disrespected? Why are the men to blame?
Because the real issue has nothing to do with that other person. It's about you taking responsiblity for what you do. So, don't even try to flip the script. Your reaction doesnt make you any better than her.
You know what... I expect way to much from people and thats my fault.
I agree with you 100% on that. Your disrespect is on you, not the woman... To some degree, it doesnt even matter what the woman is wearing. Men, and I guess according to the polls some of the ladies also, are just going to be disrespectful anyway.
i don't think anyone said to go out of your way to disrepect them.......
but i was saying that they shouldn't be surprised if they get disrepected because of the way they're dressed...you dress like a ho, you probably gonna get treated like one 8-) (nessa)
I agree with this statement. Clearly, from the results of this poll, its a reality that this is what happens. And its not just a few people thinking like this, a lot of men and women know what the deal is. No matter how you try to break it down and make reason and logic of it, it's plain and simple. People will treat you a certain way based upon your appearance. Is it right? no. Does it happen? yes. Will it stop?I wouldn't hold my breath...............
i don't think anyone said to go out of your way to disrepect them.......
but i was saying that they shouldn't be surprised if they get disrepected because of the way they're dressed...you dress like a ho, you probably gonna get treated like one 8-) (nessa)
I agree with this statement. Clearly, from the results of this poll, its a reality that this is what happens. And its not just a few people thinking like this, a lot of men and women know what the deal is. No matter how you try to break it down and make reason and logic of it, it's plain and simple. People will treat you a certain way based upon your appearance. Is it right? no. Does it happen? yes. Will it stop?I wouldn't hold my breath...............
thank you dammit...i was thinking i was the only one who had some sense on this site...gtg2 work....>> 8-) (nessa)
I agree with you 100% on that. Your disrespect is on you, not the woman... To some degree, it doesnt even matter what the woman is wearing. Men, and I guess according to the polls some of the ladies also, are just going to be disrespectful anyway.
Lets be real here. It's not some of the women who said the lady doesn't deserve respect... It's almost double the amount of women who voted she doesn't deserve the respect as voted she does. That is obviously saying something.
Again, the poll isn't saying "Would you treat her with the respect" as I read it, it says "Does she deserve the respect". And that is a flat out = no. So if someone clicked no, like myself, it doesn't say she won't get the respect becuz people like myself give people respect regardless. It is saying that the way she is presenting herself, she doesn't deserve it. Whether anybody approaches her with respect is on them, but whether she deserves it or not is on her.
I'm not sure if u read the question in that viewpoint so I had to re-write it another way. Now ask yourself not if you would give her the respect of a lady. But does she truly deserve the same amount of respect you would treat a classy lady, regardless of how you would treat her?
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