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Here's another one for ya'll... Aight, see I've been talking with this guy for a minute (as friends) and stuff. Being that we aren't at the same school, but still not that far from one another, we see each other we can (could) and usually he called like every night (maybe skip a day here or there). Well, last weekend, I was over his way visiting my aunts so I went and hung out with him when I left my aunt house. We just chilled or whateva, nothing major. Well, e'rthang seemed cool... We know that we both like each other and we had talked about taking it to the relationship level but we wanted to make sure that when we do, it's is a well thought out decision or what not. Anyway, I'm a lil worried about him cuz I haven't talked to him since Sunday... and it's Friday now. When I tried to call, I'm getting his voicemail and I left one message (wasn't bout to leave ten million messages), that he still hasn't returned. My question is, what could be going on? I'm thinking that he's "backing out" and is tryin to stop talkin to me. If so, that's cool... I'm a big girl and can handle it. But I'm also a lil worried (cuz first and foremost his is my friend) and wondering if something is wrong.

^^^As his friend, its cool that you're concerned abou this well being. You should just keep calling to make sure everyting is aight. It's not like him to not call. I don't think you should be worried about the relationship thing. Ya'll knew each other long enough.

Damn, that's flucked up. I don't know dude, but you did give a good enough description for me to give my own experienced opinion. I'm only saying this to try to avoid you pain. I don't think he likes you as much as he thought he did anymore :sad: . This could be for a lot of reasons, but I'm just warning you, that's exactly what it seems like.

Thanks for both of ya'll answers (Serpent King and TheWire). I guess I'll try calling a few more times. But if I can't get him any one of those times, I'll just look at the entire situation as a chapter in my life and keep it movin'. I just really hope nothin is wrong :-(

^^^..No prob. I hope everything is good wit dude.

No problem. I like helping nice girls out like this. Yall are the ones who actually don't deserve **** to be doing that type of shady shyt.

Okay...so heres the deal. I had been talkin to this guy for a while and he took my v-card about 2 months ago. I never really cared too much for him, but i did have some feelings for him. And of course I still do feel somewhat attached to him cause he was my first. But yesterday...i was at school walkin to the library and guess who i see?! This **** was posted up wit some other random chick. Soooo it kinda caught me off guard. I tried to walk past em' real quick and act like I aiint see em...cause I juss didnt feel like hearin him lie to me. So as I walk by, he calls my name and was like "Oh you cant say hi to nobody...I see how it is...you do you okay!" Im like..."Yo...I aiint even see you! I wasnt payin attention." I cant even lie...i was kinda p.o'd when i seen him wit that other chick. Cause he never said he aiint wanna talk to me no more...we juss stopped talkin. And I thought we were friends before all tha crap happened between us. But I guess not. Why couldnt he juss come out and say he didnt wanna talk to me like that no more. GROW SOME BALLS. And he is the prime reason as to why I dont even like talkin to juss one guy...cause u put all this energy into em' and get nothin in return. Sorry this was soo long...i guess Im kinda venting!

Yeah... I've seen this time and time again. It's always some nigguh that fuccs it up for the next. So do you really want the next guy you REALLY like to feel alienated and uncared for b/c you don't wanna get too attached b/c of what some guy did b4 u? Honestly, at LEAST 1/4 of girls do that exact same thing. You can't blame some guys for other guys' mistakes tho. For your sake tho, please don't go out and try to turn yourself into some **** now. I've seen it way too many times, and judging from what u've said i don't think that's what you honestly want. B/c trust, you're not gonna find happiness like that.