I dont know what it is about the things that us guys go through but are women becoming more and more...
Whats the word....
Dispensible?
Not me personally, but it seems like all of my good guy friends are being sh*tted on. Good guys with bright futures who could have anyone decide to take chances on women who start out great and find some way to not only f*ck sh*t up, but make it seem like its their fault.
*inhale* Ive never seen so many unfaithful b*tches in my life. Treating men like pieces of meat without feelings...Im trying to keep my boys in line, but Im afriad they are going to become players and I wont be able to say anything that will change them around. I dont know if I want to.
Cuz im sick to my stomach. Physically upset.
Anyways, comments...
this is personally why i dont get serious with potential guys...
GOOD GUY: this particular guy was a sweetheart, decon of his church, saved sanctified filled with the holy ghost(hallelujah) he stayed almost a hour and a half away from me but came to see me almost 3 times a week. anything i asked for i got(though i didnt ask for alot). things were good for about a hot 2 months, then things started to change. im a musician and a poet. he told me " If i was goin to be his woman, i would have to get my tat's removed(2 tats) i would have to perm my hair( at the time i wore it natural, fro and all) i would have to stop going to the poetry spot(cause i should be in church friday nights and sunDAY) and unless i used my talents for God(poetry and playin the sax) i would have to stop. now this is supposed to be the good guy???
"BAD GUY": me and this guy have been talkin for a HOT HOT year, he doesnt want a relationship(because it would be long distance) he doesnt trust me( because im not in the same city as him) he loves the fact that i will do my own thing(poetry, jazz). but this is the guy that you dont want a relationship with cause he is the "****" the one people might think will go upside ya head,(but he's never touched a female like that) . Sayin all this, my point is, the obvious might not alway be whats good for you. cuase i want a God fearing man, but not at the expense that i have to stop being me to have him. The Bad Guy may not always be as bad as you think( Visa Versa)
What's bad about him?
To Saxx (and everyone in general):
The definition of being a good and bad guy has less to do with your ability to provide for someone as it does for you ability to make someone happy. Now, being "churchly" good means nothing if youre blind, and being a bad boy (some call ****, i call a Hustla...) means nothing if hes in jail, But I've known some **** people to have a better Idea and understanding about relationships than others. Why?
Hard knocks. Theyve been through alot of relationships, and the reason why they treat some women like hos is because they've seen alot of women and they have a hard time trusting them because they know how shady Some can be. With that they either have a hard time committing because of their own experience or their own preference. As far as the good guy that was spoke of, he obviously was using his moral standpoint to impose preference (which makes him uniquely stupid). I think style of dress and what you do professionally (or not) has nothing to do with your relationship with God or anything. Its probably my liberal standpoint on things, but Im a Methodist and I'll be damned if I make any woman change who she is because of what the "church" says (cuz I couldnt think of any other reason why hed want you to change unless the church instilled that into his mind).
Treating a woman right means youre thoughtful. We are all human and wont be able to do for someone at some point in time, so itd be best if we dont judge someones good/bad status on their wealth or prominence but their actions. I think Id rather pay for my womans phone bill instead of give her a dress as a present... with that said, let me add this final thing.
Relationships change from person to person. Everyone has their own unique way of expressing how they feel and love. Going into a relationship with any predeterminations or issues might result in a short lasting partnership. You either adapt or you dont when it comes to a partner...just find someone you dont COMPLETELY conflict with and if they make you happy as well you might have something. *goes off to think to himself*
the reason why they treat some women like hos is because they've seen alot of women and they have a hard time trusting them because they know how shady Some can be.
Or is it that they can't trust themselves? Or because they have low self-esteem? Or maybe, they unconsciously look for someone just like them.
A lot of yall think women want men who in & out of jail, does ****, and etc when in actuality we just want a man with excitement and who keeps our attention. Guys who are shy, really nice, romantic and all that stuff might be "good" but can you keep your woman's attention and become unpredictable.
The only reason why you think women only want jailbirds is because that's what a lot of us have to deal with, not because of choice or preference.
A lot of yall think women want men who in & out of jail, does ****, and etc when in actuality we just want a man with excitement and who keeps our attention. Guys who are shy, really nice, romantic and all that stuff might be "good" but can you keep your woman's attention and become unpredictable.
The only reason why you think women only want jailbirds is because that's what a lot of us have to deal with, not because of choice or preference.
A lot of yall think women want men who in & out of jail, does ****, and etc when in actuality we just want a man with excitement and who keeps our attention. Guys who are shy, really nice, romantic and all that stuff might be "good" but can you keep your woman's attention and become unpredictable.
The only reason why you think women only want jailbirds is because that's what a lot of us have to deal with, not because of choice or preference.
I dont know what it is about the things that us guys go through but are women becoming more and more...
Whats the word....
Dispensible?
Not me personally, but it seems like all of my good guy friends are being sh*tted on. Good guys with bright futures who could have anyone decide to take chances on women who start out great and find some way to not only f*ck sh*t up, but make it seem like its their fault.
*inhale* Ive never seen so many unfaithful b*tches in my life. Treating men like pieces of meat without feelings...Im trying to keep my boys in line, but Im afriad they are going to become players and I wont be able to say anything that will change them around. I dont know if I want to.
Cuz im sick to my stomach. Physically upset.
Anyways, comments...
BIG DADDY I UNDERSTAND YOU FULLY BUT THE THING IS ITS NOT ONLY WOMAN ITS MEN TO. I THINK AS A PEOPLE WE GET CAUGHT UP IN TODAYS TRENDS, EVERYBODYS TRYNA BE A PLAYER OR A **** BUT THATS CRAZY CAUSE THAT LIFE STYLE AINT FOR EVERYBODY. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING FAITHFUL. AND ALSO MEN ARE JSUT AS UNFAITHFUL AS WOMAN THATS HALF THE DA@N REASON THAT WOMAN ARE UNFAITHFUL AND THAT IS ALSP WHY IN 2005 YOU GOT ALL THESE LESBEIANS RUNNING AROUND CAUSE THET THINK MEN AINT SH** WTF
I dont know what it is about the things that us guys go through but are women becoming more and more...
Whats the word....
Dispensible?
Not me personally, but it seems like all of my good guy friends are being sh*tted on. Good guys with bright futures who could have anyone decide to take chances on women who start out great and find some way to not only f*ck sh*t up, but make it seem like its their fault.
*inhale* Ive never seen so many unfaithful b*tches in my life. Treating men like pieces of meat without feelings...Im trying to keep my boys in line, but Im afriad they are going to become players and I wont be able to say anything that will change them around. I dont know if I want to.
Cuz im sick to my stomach. Physically upset.
Anyways, comments...
BIG DADDY I UNDERSTAND YOU FULLY BUT THE THING IS ITS NOT ONLY WOMAN ITS MEN TO. I THINK AS A PEOPLE WE GET CAUGHT UP IN TODAYS TRENDS, EVERYBODYS TRYNA BE A PLAYER OR A **** BUT THATS CRAZY CAUSE THAT LIFE STYLE AINT FOR EVERYBODY. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH BEING FAITHFUL. AND ALSO MEN ARE JSUT AS UNFAITHFUL AS WOMAN THATS HALF THE DA@N REASON THAT WOMAN ARE UNFAITHFUL AND THAT IS ALSP WHY IN 2005 YOU GOT ALL THESE LESBEIANS RUNNING AROUND CAUSE THET THINK MEN AINT SH** WTF
the reason why they treat some women like hos is because they've seen alot of women and they have a hard time trusting them because they know how shady Some can be.
Or is it that they can't trust themselves? Or because they have low self-esteem? Or maybe, they unconsciously look for someone just like them.
*laughs* Or maybe it is what I said it is. I think for every example of mine theres enough samples of yours to make you feel that way, sure... But youre talking about the psychology of it all. Im sure a guy doesnt say, "I cant trust myself so Im going to treat women like hos" and if he does he definitely needs to get a therapist. Low self esteem attributes to men treating women badly, sure...Im not addressing them though. Im addressing people who KNOW better.
Self esteem issues, personal trust issues...whatever the case may be, its really an issue of growing up. "Waaah, nobody likes me" "Waaaah, I cant find a ___" when really these guys should be working on themselves before getting to be intimate with anyone else. That I'll agree with you on, but Im not talking about them though. Im talkin about guys with sense that know who they are and what they want who constantly get the short end of the stick... for instance me.
Im not speaking about now, but I was a really nice guy. I didnt have alot of money, but I kept things interesting and kept my woman happy. Did I get sh*tted on? Yes. Im not on a woman hating rampage moreso than I am trying to make sure no one else has to go through my pain. Helping women and men better clarify theirselves before they jump into anything with anyone helps make sure that there are less people sh*tting on each other (which ends the perpetual cycle of madness and revenge and hatred).
