Hi, this is mostly directed those who are already greek-affliated but I appreciate anyone's replies. OK...how would you feel about an interest that "formally expressed" and all and was sort of taken under your wing as far as knowing the "IG do's and don'ts" so to speak. You vouch for her as a good candidate to your chapter and she (or he for the fraternity members) is very qualified but although she has done all the "pre-reqs" when rush comes around she doesn't go . That is sort of the situation I am in. From a young age, I had taken an interest in an organization. As a freshman, I thought I was ready to pursue membership into the organization I am interested in and I expressed interest and did everything I felt was necessary to secure my spot (sometimes getting too engrossed). Well, I am now finishing my sophomore year and the org. of my choice had spring intake but at the last minute I decided not to go because I just didn't feel "ready". Well of course, a few of the girls I was "IG"ing with made it and told me that a few of their prophytes feel like I disappointed them and wasted their time by not applying because time they spent on me could have been spent on someone else who WAS "ready" so that is making them think twice about vouching/voting/"paying attention AT ALL" to me come next year when I feel I will be more mature physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I have a good GPA, do community service, and am active on campus and will continue to do so but some think I have sort of "black-balled" myself. How would you, as a greek, feel about giving me "another chance" per say?
Exactly what does "grind" mean ? I first heard that term from a young member of the family. Old school required you to go to the Interest meeting, write your letter,the chapter sent your name to the registrar's office, they voted and you got a letter saying yea or nay.. you don't have the gpa for example. You showed up for the meeting, were told how much it would cost, what outfits you would need and you were officially in the Pledge Club where you learned history, etc., got ready for the show, about eight weeks, and all that "other stuff". Hell Week was 1 week. No upfront anything was necessary. Why do a bunch of "grinding' when you may not be accepted?
I thought it was supposed to be like that also. You go to an interest meeting and then rush, you get your acceptance or reject letter, and the rest follows. So all that revealing your interests and grinding shouldn't have taken place anyway! By you showing your interests early you could possibly be hazed and rejected! So it wasn't wise to reveal anything before you are ready to submit and go to rush. Now the people that crossed without you might try to haze you because they know you want to pledge their org or they might try to black ball you! So your best bet is to probably pledge Grad.
