ok it seems to me that you want to have your cake and eat it too. What are you looking for right now do you want longevity? Decide who has the most potential for that. Because it seems that mr. summer love and you have problems linkin up since u live in different areas right?
Aww, this is all different kinds of special. Girl done grown up...
With all of that intellect in your mind, I'd just like you to sit back and let time go by. Talk with them and gauge who they are and what they mean to you respectively. I think once you weigh your possibilities and you don't make any considerable stretches (like changing your Whole motherlovin life and everything you stand for around for someone), then you make your decisions.
Decisions...not choice. Someone could pop into your life tomorrow and have all the qualifications and charisma, so you have to decide for yourself what you want. Its not supposed to be easy; if it was, it wouldnt be right.