hey i'm planning on pledging aka in college. i really want to, and i'm a legacy. but what if i'm horrible at stepping. do i have to step. i'm going to be honest, i go to an all white prep school, and never really learned how to dance as pathetic as that might sound. i know aka's love to step what will happen if i just can't get it? many people have told me just go to a white school, and don't pledge. but i don't want that. i really want to attend spelman, and become an aka. will i be ridiculed for being a bad stepper. please help.
Point taken @ C nels. I didnt mean to come off as smelling myself but her question just seemed a real waste of time. Didn't mean to try to regulate your time either. Sometimes I have to step back and realize that the world does not revolve around AFRO. Look forward to your response. ttyl.
@Orca, I agree with smc. Becareful who you show interest to. If you truly are interested your actions should speak for themselves. And no, I believe all of the divine nine have anti hazing policies. Still i suggest you keep your actions and mouth in check... thats a no no on black campuses... try to befriend other prospects... you can spot them because they will be at all the events like you. They can share knowledge with you etc. I wish you luck, and whether you have rhythem or not, If you put forth extra work... you wont look crazy during step shows.
thanks for the advice. but one thing. i know they haze. lol. mom's already told me some crazy stories. the weird thing is i use to be a dancer,then i go to an all white school and lost all my rhythm in the course of 3 years.
wait are u saying that the aka's will basically begin hazing me before rush if they know i plan on pledging? crazy
If you go around telling people you want to be an AKA that will leave the door open for hazing and possible rejection. There are some legacy people that get rejected, because they don't like the fact that you "assume" that you are going to make it. I know it sounds crazy but that is how the Greek stuff works at black or white schools. There is a system in the Greek world and you better learn it before you make some huge mistakes. For one thing, you don't ever tell your interest and you have already made that mistake. Anyway, you better be glad for HBCU connect to school you, but why hasn't your mom told you these things if she's an AKA? She should know about discretion. Anyway, take care.
If you go around telling people you want to be an AKA that will leave the door open for hazing and possible rejection. There are some legacy people that get rejected, because they don't like the fact that you "assume" that you are going to make it. I know it sounds crazy but that is how the Greek stuff works at black or white schools. There is a system in the Greek world and you better learn it before you make some huge mistakes. For one thing, you don't ever tell your interest and you have already made that mistake. Anyway, you better be glad for HBCU connect to school you, but why hasn't your mom told you these things if she's an AKA? She should know about discretion. Anyway, take care.
my mom probably hasn't told me because she isn't too fond of the idea of me pledging to begin with. she actually regretted pledging completely. once she left college she left it completely behind her. mainly due to the hazing that i guess afro wants me to say doesn't happen. but me and my mom are alot different so i still plan on pledging.
guess it depends on your definition of hazing. But for the record...THEY DO NOT HAZE. That's all you know and that's all you will ever know.
hmm...ok i guess i'll pretend as if they don't haze...even though i know better.lol. plus there is a whole book on it called pledged and aka's are in there. so even if my mom hadn't told me i couldn't found out. but i'll just pretend as if i never heard about any of that.
my mom probably hasn't told me because she isn't too fond of the idea of me pledging to begin with. she actually regretted pledging completely. once she left college she left it completely behind her. mainly due to the hazing that i guess afro wants me to say doesn't happen. but me and my mom are alot different so i still plan on pledging.
Well, honey you aren't going to be able to do legacy. Your mother has to be active at least 2 years in order for you to do legacy. If your mother feels that strongly against AKA, after hazing her, she probably will not want to become active again and to give money to nationals. Therefore, the legacy thing will be out the door. Also, you might want to listen to your mom. If she feels that strongly against you pledging, there is a good reason why. Your main goal should be focusing on school and to get a good education. All that Greek stuff is interesting, while you are in school, but in the real world a lot of people leave it alone after graduating. For one thing, it is too expensive to pay dues to be around a bunch of foolishness. (There is a lot of mess that go down in those Graduate chapters). When people become grown they should leave childish stuff behind, even though some don't. I have Greek members in my family, and none of them are involved after college because they are busy with their careers, family, and church. If you are involved in your church and married with children, you wouldn't have time to be involved in a Greek graduate chapter.
Anyway, to each its own. You have to make that decision for yourself, but do listen to your mom because she does have wisdom in that aspect. She doesn't want you to go through the drama and mess she went through pledging undergrad. All that stuff can be a distraction, so you better be very careful of it. Your main focus is to get an education, so you can get a good job and to be able to support yourself. Don't let anything get you off track from your goals whether it is men or pledging. A lot of young girls get distracted when they get to college, because of those two things: Greek stuff or men. Don't let it distract you, and this advice is coming from someone who has been there. I have become wise now, and I'm not letting anyone or anything distract me from what my main purpose is. So I advise you to set goals before you get to college and stick to them!
Well, honey you aren't going to be able to do legacy. Your mother has to be active at least 2 years in order for you to do legacy. If your mother feels that strongly against AKA, after hazing her, she probably will not want to become active again and to give money to nationals. Therefore, the legacy thing will be out the door. Also, you might want to listen to your mom. If she feels that strongly against you pledging, there is a good reason why. Your main goal should be focusing on school and to get a good education. All that Greek stuff is interesting, while you are in school, but in the real world a lot of people leave it alone after graduating. For one thing, it is too expensive to pay dues to be around a bunch of foolishness. (There is a lot of mess that go down in those Graduate chapters). When people become grown they should leave childish stuff behind, even though some don't. I have Greek members in my family, and none of them are involved after college because they are busy with their careers, family, and church. If you are involved in your church and married with children, you wouldn't have time to be involved in a Greek graduate chapter.
Anyway, to each its own. You have to make that decision for yourself, but do listen to your mom because she does have wisdom in that aspect. She doesn't want you to go through the drama and mess she went through pledging undergrad. All that stuff can be a distraction, so you better be very careful of it. Your main focus is to get an education, so you can get a good job and to be able to support yourself. Don't let anything get you off track from your goals whether it is men or pledging. A lot of young girls get distracted when they get to college, because of those two things: Greek stuff or men. Don't let it distract you, and this advice is coming from someone who has been there. I have become wise now, and I'm not letting anyone or anything distract me from what my main purpose is. So I advice you to set goals before you get to college and stick to them!
ok thanks for the advice...but one thing i'm not religious in any sense of the word. but yeah my mom told me why she doesn't want me to pledge, and despite that her reasons are good, i believe i'm strong and can not let the same things that distracted her distract me as well. the president of alpha phi alpha distracted her. she was active for over two years, and yeah i have goals set. I want to be an attorney, and political science major. I promise I'm not going to let guys distract me. I've already gone through the guy distraction phase, and am not planning on going through that again.
It is imperative that you do some research. I'm telling you more than I should. Your mother has to be active for 2 years before you pledge and be currently active when you submit an application during MIP. If she isn't currently active with nationals, which means being up to date with dues, you will not be able to pledge legacy. As you mentioned before, your mother doesn't have anything good to say about AKA, so I'm sure she will not want to pay any money out to nationals or reactivate her membership. You know your mother more than I do, and you would have to talk to her about reinstating her membership so you could go as a legacy. Even if she does, she will still have to be active for 2 years before you can submit an legacy application and is not an guarantee that you will make it. I've heard of many that have gotten rejected going legacy. If they don't like you, they will find grounds to reject you, even if you have a 4.0 and have a lot of community service hours.
Anyway, you are going to have to do some research and I have given you a lot of info that you should have researched on your own. You can't just go around hollering that you want to be an AKA because it is going to take more than that. You will have to do all the ground work in researching. You are concerned about the wrong things. Knowing how to step isn't your issue. Your issue is not doing research and knowing the basic stuff you need to know. The reason why they are laughing at you on this HBCU connect forum, is because you are asking questions and saying things you shouldn't be saying. It will be 10 times worse, if you go to some AKA members and say the things that you are saying on the campus you are thinking about pledging at. I have found that AKA's aren't the nicest chicks. Now.. Delta's and Zeta's might be sympathetic, but the AKA's will be very rude to you if you go and approach them talking the way that you are on this HBCU forum. They will take that stuff and run with it! Anyway, just trying to help.
Still i suggest you keep your actions and mouth in check... thats a no no on black campuses... try to befriend other prospects... you can spot them because they will be at all the events like you. They can share knowledge with you etc. I wish you luck, and whether you have rhythem or not, If you put forth extra work... you wont look crazy during step shows.
