I guess I might need to direct this question to the guys ages 23 and up. Are any of you guys thinking about marriage in the near future and if so, what's making you want to commit? I've found that a lot of guys are waiting to their late 20's and early 30's to get married. Why is that? Is that the golden age for guys now to settle down? On the flip side, what's taking you so long to get married? Alright, fellas... let it rip!
I don't know if you were waiting for a reply from the guys or not, but I feel that people should date at least 2 years before they marry. After two years, everything should be revealed about a person. People can't hide their true nature for two years, because it will start to come out. The importance of waiting is for you to see the good, the bad, and the **** in the person. If you see signs of things that you can't deal with in a marriage, you might need to leave. When I say things you can't deal with, I'm not meaning that he/she leaves dirty socks on the floor. What I'm talking about is character issues. If the person has character issues you couldn't deal with in a marriage, you need to leave. I can't deal with a man who lacks integrity. In the past, I've dated guys who lacked integrity, and I realized that is not what I want in a marriage.
What if you are dating or interested in someone that’s not in your area? Does the 2 year rule apply to long distance relationships? Thanks for the feedback!
I've said it once and I'll say it many times over:
In a world where someone will try to stop me from following through on my good habits (e.g. helping with a jacket, walking a girl to her door after a date, etc) but allow someone to treat them like an animal, instead of their companion, I would just prefer to be a-damn-lone. No wedding bells for me anytime soon.
What if you are dating or interested in someone that’s not in your area? Does the 2 year rule apply to long distance relationships? Thanks for the feedback!
Well, I would think you need to date 4 years if it is a long distance relationship! LOL Most of the time long distance relationships do not work. Someone out of town could really hide their true nature, and when you do meet it will be like a fantasy. They can be the perfect person because you aren't around them enough to hear an occasional **** or bad morning breath, etc. ( I just had to throw that in there! ) I think people who have long distance relationships, just build a big fantasy in their head about the other individual. You need to be around a person, especially if you are thinking about marriage. It can be a big eye opener if you marry someone, who you aren't hardly around. There might be some things that you find out, that you can't deal with. I feel if a couple is thinking about marriage, one of them needs to move to where their partner's located.
I've said it once and I'll say it many times over:
In a world where someone will try to stop me from following through on my good habits (e.g. helping with a jacket, walking a girl to her door after a date, etc) but allow someone to treat them like an animal, instead of their companion, I would just prefer to be a-damn-lone. No wedding bells for me anytime soon.
What woman were you dating, that tried to stop you from having manners??? Wow.. she's a rare breed!
Well, don't give up because you will meet the right one. Just work on yourself so when you do meet her, you will be well equipped to be the husband you need to be.
I am obviously not a guy but I experienced this situation with my own boyfriend. We have been together four years and we always figured we would end up together anyway. He constantly thought about it and spoke about it. I never really said much but "yea baby love you too" lol... Some men may be intimidated by women who constantly bring up the subject or try to pursuade their mates to ask them. I am only 18 and he is 20 but he proposed January of this year. Now before someone says "you are too young"... yes we know that. We decided on the longer engagement (2-3 years) because, as was mentioned, being financially and emotionally stable plays a big factor in marriage and keeping a relationship strong. The first thing he thought about was insurance and bills. It really gets to a man when they can't provide for their loved ones the way they would like to. Also, you have to take into account the aspirations of both individuals, i.e. grad school, or in my fiance's case, law school. I totally agree with TSUBluetiger when he spoke about society's standards pushing everything to the right.
) I think people who have long distance relationships, just build a big fantasy in their head about the other individual. You need to be around a person, especially if you are thinking about marriage. It can be a big eye opener if you marry someone, who you aren't hardly around. There might be some things that you find out, that you can't deal with. I feel if a couple is thinking about marriage, one of them needs to move to where their partner's located.
