Ladies I wanna know if you think I'm to young to wanna get married and start a family?
Now I'm 21 and i have done my share of dirt
I have broke hearts
And i have had mine broke
I have done a lot of flirting and dating and that is not fun
Now I'm at the stage where i feel I'm ready 2 settle for good
Enough with games i wanna girl that i can take home 2 mom for Christmas
Go eat thanksgiving dinner with them year after year
Dont wanna be running from female 2 female anymore
But to me the females my age dont want that and the ones that do are spoken for.
So should i just work my magic and keep on with the flirt game
Some say just sit and wait for her to come
But where IM from if u dont work you dont get paid
So am i mature beyond my years because i wanna settle?
Or should i act my age which people my age a good percent want 2 play the field and flirt
So am i to young?
Ladies what do u think i should do?
You get the fukk outta here cupcake
Charmen nigg@ you a single roll not even 2ply wanna blow smoke!...
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HA! It's like you just paint a pink target on yourself, just givin folx all the ammunition they need.
What really makes this post funny is that he is asking a bunch of 16-20something year olds, about marriage. What the hell do we know about marriage? Or any kind of longterm commitment?
Its like me asking Neosoul what Ohio State Univeristy is like. That cat don't know because He's never experianced it. He can give me all the stories and hearsay that he's heard, but that isn't knowledgeable advice, and it damn sure ain't gonna help me make an educated decision.
But....its whateva. Folx like Triad are the reason Divorce Court stays on the air and why I'd never go out of business as a Divorce Attorney.
But that's the problem with your age group. . . according to Erickson's Psychosocial theory, you're dealing with intimacy vs isolation. However if you have not successfully passed the earlier stage, identity vs role confusion, you are not ready to move into a mature relationship. If you are in college you are more than likely still trying to self-identify; trust me you still have a lot of growing to do between 21 and 24. It's good to want to build with your wife. It's bad to do it before you're established.
My mother told me the day I left for college (years ago), "There are some young women there who are only in school to get married; they are more concerned about finding happiness in a man than in establishing a life for themselves. So don't let your heart fool you. Remember what you are here to do, and make the right choices for your life. " When I reminded her that she was a teenage bride, she responded with "And you have lived deprived of the things you deserved; and I apologize for my mistakes. I applaud your daddy for stepping up and being a good man, and a good father, but you can't get a better example of how NOT to do things. "
That's really personal to me. No, I'm not married; but I have been down that road before and God put a roadblock up. Just know that you know, that you know that you know.
If you are in college you are more than likely still trying to self-identify; trust me you still have a lot of growing to do between 21 and 24.
I said more than likely. . .and also, not once did I say like most parents or big brothers or uncles would say "YOU'RE MAKING A MISTAKE"!
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ughhhhh....Yall cannot speak for everyone on this site or even in your age group. and role confusion????
That's commonly accepted psychosocial theory. I'm sure you took the class; but just in case:
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Stage 5 - Ego-Identity vs. Role Confusion
This stage of adolescence begins with puberty and continues until about age 18 to 20.
The primary task of this stage is to achieve ego identity and avoid role confusion. Developing one's ego identity requires taking all one has learned about life and oneself and molding it into a unified self-image that is meaningful within the community. Role confusion is a lack of a clear identity. This is often indicated by adolescents asking, "Who am I?"
This is a time of transitioning from childhood into adulthood. It is important that the distinction between the powerless and irresponsible time of childhood is made clear from the powerful and responsible time of adulthood. This rite of passage may be marked by an event, ritual, ceremony, etc.
If a favorable balance is achieved during this stage, then the virtue fidelity will be developed. This means one has found a place in the community in which he/she can make useful contributions and will remain loyal to this group.
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Role Confusion - Uncertainty about one's place in society and the world.
I believe every man crafts his own destiny, I just want that young man to make an informed decision. You don't play around with marriage. That's why the divorce rate is so high now.
well PimpTight, one might put it that way. . .
Naive has such negative connotation though, while not necessarily meaning a negative situation.
Oh well. . .
You may think you're ready for marriage, but you need to make sure your future wife is ready as well because it takes two to tango... (that was lame... :lol: )
What really makes this post funny is that he is asking a bunch of 16-20something year olds, about marriage. What the hell do we know about marriage?
How can you speak for a whole group of people over millions of people and you are one person? Maybe you are not ready if that is so that is all you had to say. But you wanna go over that and spark ish. I know young people that were married @ the age of 18 and it works for them. My grandmother was married @ 14 and was in that for over 30 years. So age is just that a #. You judge a person from what they have been threw. Me i have been threw my share of b/s and i feel that i'm ready for that. I'm not saing that i wanna do it 2marraw but in the near future.
Ask your self this
How can you say that you are 2 young when you dont know what age you are gonna die?
Me i go with 2marraw is not promise so i need to find a woman that wants to work toward that.
