WHATS UP LADIES, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS ABOUT HOW DO YOU ALL WANT TO BE TREATED OR APPROACHED. IM NOT TALKIN ABOUT GAME OR NOTHIN BUT JUST YOU ALL POINT OF VIEW.
1. WHATS THE DEAL WITH THE WANTING THE **** OR THE DUDE THAT WONT DUE RIGHT BY YOU. YOU COULD HAVE A BF AND HE COULD CHEAT/LIE/OR EVERY ABUSE(DONT CONDONE IT). AND SOME(NOT ALL) WILL INSTANLY SAY WELL HE LOVE ME OR I SHOULD GIVE ME ANOTHER CHANCE. OR YOU WILL LEAVE THAT ONE AND JUST GO STRAIGHT BACK INTO THE SAME KIND OR RELATIONSHIP. THIS BOTHERS ME BECAUSE A GOOD MAN WILL COME AND THE FIRST THING YOU WILL DO IS KEEP HIM AS A GOOD FRIEND OR HE IS NOT MY TYPE, BUT THIER TYPE IS THE KIND THAT LIE AND CHEAT ON YOU. SO WHAT ARE YOUR VIEWS ON GIRLS WANTING THE BAD MEN.
2. I HAVE HEARD COUNTLESS FEMALES SAY THEY ARE GETTING TIRED OF A DUDE TRYIN TO GET THEIR NUMBER AND SAYIN "SHORTY", "MA","REDBONE"...ETC SO WHATS YOUR IDEA WAY FOR A DUDE TO APPROACH YOU..... BUT WHEN A DUDE COMES UP TO YOU AND SPEAKS POLITE AND MANNERFUL GIRLS THINK HE A LAME OR ACTS WHITE LOL, SO HOW WHAT ARE SOME THINGS THAT YALL LIKE OR DISLIKE.
OH YEA THESE ACCOUNTS ARE NOT PERSONAL JUST SOMETHING THAT SEEN AROUND AND ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW THE DEAL......
1-thugs and no good males are 2 different things. i've had my fair share of thugs and i love em to death. even if they are out of the streets and juss have the **** mentality. they get stuff done and make other things happen. i'm guilty of the good friend thing. sometimes u just don't want to ruin a great friendship with a messy relationship. i'd b hurt if i lost a good guy friend ova sum bs that comes with a relationship
2-i love when a guy approaches me and genually sounds interested or he catches my attention by making me laugh. i hate when guys come up to me and seem too polite cuz i'll automatically think its game. i don't care bout tha shorty and the ma thing while u talkin to me but don't yell down tha street and round the corner for me. get cha lazy **** up and walk up to me nicely.
1. Like others have said not everyone wants a man who treats them bad because I know I don't. But how the media(videos) portrays many of our black men is through the "****" or the "****". Since this is mainstream(or IN) this is what some females think is right.
2. No I don't like males calling me ma or shorty because that is a mess. This is how I feel about being approached by a male. I feel that I am a black queen and a child of God, so I am royalty. And since I know I am royalty(and all other females) I would like to be treated as such. If you approach me with manners I have no problem with that because that would be correct, but body language and eye contact can sometimes speak louder than words.
ladies that respect themselves desire and deserve to be treated with respect. as far as the approach, i like when guys are confident and comfortable w/ themselves. every guy can't pull off the **** thing and every guy isn't a smooth, sweet-talker. JUST BE U! if a guy is real w/ himself first (and it shows when he aint) and then me, his chances are much greater
Every woman wants to be treated like a princess. Point blank. I don't care if it's Queen Elizabeth or the Hattie the ****, everyone woman loves to feel like royalty. When the dude approaches a female, that's how he should come at her. I'm not saying he should BOW DOWN or nothin (...although that would be nice now that i think about it :wink: ), but on the real, just treat her like a lady.
But i do hear what u are saying, becuz part of the reason why women are being approached the way they are and why they are being treated the way they are, is because they don't open their mouths and demand more. 8 times out of 10 when a dude comes at a female with that whole "shorty/ma/baby" thing, the girl thinks it's cute and just giggles. We say we want one thing, but we still accept the things that we claim we "don't like". And to the guys who are saying "what if the guy wasn't raised intelligently??", honestly...it's doesn't take too much intelligence to speak to a female with sense. I'm not asking the dude to solve a mathematical equation...just come at me like u would want someone to come at your own mother or sister.
1-thugs and no good males are 2 different things. i've had my fair share of thugs and i love em to death. even if they are out of the streets and juss have the **** mentality. they get stuff done and make other things happen. i'm guilty of the good friend thing. sometimes u just don't want to ruin a great friendship with a messy relationship. i'd b hurt if i lost a good guy friend ova sum bs that comes with a relationship
2-i love when a guy approaches me and genually sounds interested or he catches my attention by making me laugh. i hate when guys come up to me and seem too polite cuz i'll automatically think its game. i don't care bout tha shorty and the ma thing while u talkin to me but don't yell down tha street and round the corner for me. get cha lazy **** up and walk up to me nicely.
i feel you on some things jaz like the statement about being a **** dont mean your gonna be bad towards a female. The thing that i want to know is that why wouldnt you want to date a good friend. in my opinion that would be the best thing to do for real. if you could eliminate all the mess with tryin to figure out the person and this and that then why wouldnt you take the risk. with dating a good friend then you pretty much know the personality of the person so no surprises. do you go into a friendship knowing that a person will just stay a friend or does it start off as he liking you but yall deceide to just chill and be friends?
respect is relative, depends on the type of culture right? maybe him saying "hey ma" IS respect as opposed to him coming at you hitting you upside the head and sayin "come on now b**ch i is yo man now" instead of talking bad about him, you might want to "check" yourself by realizing that if you dress in the "hip hop" attire, listen to the "hiphop" music, speak any kind of "hiphop" language, or any combination of them, then you are in the "hiphop" culture, and that is just another part of it, saying otherwise is like moving to mexico and getting mad when people speak spanish, but i guess that is just my opinion "shorties"
i want to be approached like the intelligent person i am "Say shawty and other crap like that just don't do it for me.
I have tendecny to like the athletes because im an athlete so i figure we'd have more in common. I think i ahve a tendency to atrack bad boys because it's seems like a challenge. I think that i can change them or make them act differently but in the end thats not the case
i dont understand how the way you talk reflects your intelligence, btw i think drug dealers, not "bangers" but reall @$$ drug dealers are the smartest people on earth, not only do they have to run a business, they have to watch out for competition, the cops, deal with all these other issues and watch for double crossers and all this other crap, calculating things in their heads on the fly and so much stuff..... back to the topic tho, ive said "Excuse me shorty." as proper as i could sound and made sure i pronounced every word to perfection just to make people laugh, it seemed to have worked because some actually tried to stop and talk to me, but i wasnt really trying to talk to them, just doing a bet
1. I don't want a bad man and I've never said I wanted one. Everyone's definition of a "bad guy" is different. To me bad means bad and I have no time for drama. :roll: so there's your answer to #1.
2. If you want to talk to me I need you to come up to me and speak to me maybe try hello, then go one from there and the next word betta not be shawty, ayo, or the infamous girl wit da big **** purple pants! :? I've heard this said on the AUC Strip :x Thank God not to me because that girl was nice to keep on walking, I wouldn't have been :roll:
respect is relative, depends on the type of culture right? maybe him saying "hey ma" IS respect as opposed to him coming at you hitting you upside the head and sayin "come on now b**ch i is yo man now" instead of talking bad about him, you might want to "check" yourself by realizing that if you dress in the "hip hop" attire, listen to the "hiphop" music, speak any kind of "hiphop" language, or any combination of them, then you are in the "hiphop" culture, and that is just another part of it, saying otherwise is like moving to mexico and getting mad when people speak spanish, but i guess that is just my opinion "shorties"
It's when Shawty is screamed at me from a car load or a posse of dudes posted on "The Wall" give a break and aquaintance of mine told me that guys only holla at female in a group because they have more confidence then...but my thing is if you get rejected then all ya boys just seen it and it would be better if you stepped away from the boys and introduced yourself.
:? I've heard this said on the AUC Strip :x Thank God not to me because that girl was nice to keep on walking, I wouldn't have been :roll: 
