After hearing this discussion yet again, I will attempt to finally put this to rest.
Why is it hard to find a good man or woman?
Simply... Because you cannot have a mature relationship with an immature person.
It takes time for a person's character to develop. Until it does, they may or may not be single, and may or may not be seeking a relationship. Whether they are ready for it mentally is another thing. So, in order to make a good partner they have to go through a growth process.
Once they have matured, they generally do not remain single very long. However, since the majority of people around them are immature , they become discouraged. But once they find a satisfying relationship they remain there, and are now off the market.
Think about it like an apple tree. The majority of apples on a tree at any given time will not be good for eating. They may be too small, too young, or not ripe. Plus the messed up ones left behind by everyone else. The truth is that the ripe ones are the first to be picked. So they aren't on the tree for very long. It's timing, you have to catch one after it matures and before someone else gets to it which means the odds are always against you.
Being single and mature means you are in transition , which is why it is so hard to find people like yourself. When you look around, most of the people you see aren't ready. But you are now a desired item, and your time will come soon.
My attempt to break it down. 8) Holla!
ooooo, i'm an apple. Any one want a bite??? J/p. Won't disturb the deepness of this thread :lol: .
But on the real, i totally feel u...and that's exactly how i see it. It's all in timing. Some people just aren't ready at a specific period in time, and when u finally are ready, you're lookin around becuz u can't find anyone. If it's not your time, it just isn't your time. Some people just don't get that tho, and eventually end up losing their "ripeness" and turn "rotten".
After hearing this discussion yet again, I will attempt to finally put this to rest.
Why is it hard to find a good man or woman?
Simply... Because you cannot have a mature relationship with an immature person.
It takes time for a person's character to develop. Until it does, they may or may not be single, and may or may not be seeking a relationship. Whether they are ready for it mentally is another thing. So, in order to make a good partner they have to go through a growth process.
Once they have matured, they generally do not remain single very long. However, since the majority of people around them are immature , they become discouraged. But once they find a satisfying relationship they remain there, and are now off the market.
Think about it like an apple tree. The majority of apples on a tree at any given time will not be good for eating. They may be too small, too young, or not ripe. Plus the messed up ones left behind by everyone else. The truth is that the ripe ones are the first to be picked. So they aren't on the tree for very long. It's timing, you have to catch one after it matures and before someone else gets to it which means the odds are always against you.
Being single and mature means you are in transition , which is why it is so hard to find people like yourself. When you look around, most of the people you see aren't ready. But you are now a desired item, and your time will come soon.
My attempt to break it down. 8) Holla!
^^^Wow I likes it alot!
To comment more on the maturity thing, me and my boyfreind were talking last night about how females and males "think alike, but react differently". Like I believe there are alot of mature males hiding in these immature mindsets that they have to parade around in to fit it. I know alot of males that once you actually get them to talking, they want the same thing we females do, a good solid relationship. But then once they get back to "their" world, they sometimes feel like they gotta pork as many girls as they can, or deny themselves to the one girl they feeling, because it doesn't "look" good. Peep pressure makes them believe that they gotta be a "****" in order to gain comarderie*sp* and respect. Am I making any sense?
You are making perfect sense and it all goes back to what Neo was saying about MATURITY. A GOOD MAN is not going to be concerned with what outside influences are saying about his relationship affairs. A GOOD MAN is MATURE enough to make his own decisions and does not let others dictate his actions/emotions :wink: A GOOD MAN is going to have enough common knowledge to know that in the end, it aint his buddies that will be fulfilling all his needs/desires :twisted: , therefore what others think/ being "pimpish" will be of no relevance to this GOOD MAN
And there you have it my friends 8)
I like that Neosoul. I have to say that I agree with that. I never looked at it that way, but now that I do it makes a lot of sense. The best ones are the first to be chosen. WOW. I have to para-phrase this to my girls.
NSB,
Give the people some insight into your own life. Are you the mature one who lost out, now that you're a graduate? Or do you still have some growing to do?
And there you have it my friends 8)
