I was online yesterday and a question was posed what is the purpose of GREEKS?
Also do GREEKS of today still carry the message that the original founders did?
And a bigger question is if there are so many GREEKS why don't they possess any type of power in the world? Have they made a difference and why havent they attempted? The person felt that GREEk orginizations were not excersizing the potential power they possess.
WHATS YOUR OPINION ON THIS????
And before anyone jumps on me I support all brothers/sisters that are greek my grandfather was a mason, and I myself hope to one day be apart of a sorority
^^^ see now.. the problem lies therein... I think thats kinda fake (not you, but the entire concept) and I HATE being fake.. They automatically think that I am just befriending them because I want to be in their sorority... The truth being that I would be friends w/ them regardless, but their letters are sorta putting them on the defense, because I DO want to be in their sorority... Like.. I can't even talk to some of my friends that pledged because they are like UBER-NEO, and they can't be real anymore.. not calling Greeks Fake, and not wanting her to have loose lips, but is there anyway that I can communicate w/ 'em w/o looking fake? hmm.. what am I asking? Ok.... you might have to disregard this entire post cuz I dunno how to put this in words....
How do you befriend a GREEK w/o them thinking that you are after their letters (even if you do want to join their sorority)? Like.. I don't know how to make it clear that even tho ________ is what I really desire to be in, and they are in it, I would rush/pledge without including them, so as to make them separate...
I dunno.. respond if you understand this... or if you have any idea of what I'm tryns say...
How is it fake if you want to know how that person is? If you want to know how someone is, you have to get to know them. You can't go off of rumors and speculation alone. And there is no one, surefire way to befriend a greek. But one thing for certain is that you've got to stop viewing them as a Greek and look at them as just a person. Treat them like you would any other student on your yard. Before I was on line, I was just nice and cordial to everybody. So it didn't look weird for me to be nice and cordial to Deltas. It didn't stick out. Now, if you are the type of person who is generally unpleasant to be around, then you will look very weird being nice to the members of XYZ. Do you understand where I am coming from?
^^^ see now.. the problem lies therein... I think thats kinda fake (not you, but the entire concept) and I HATE being fake.. They automatically think that I am just befriending them because I want to be in their sorority... The truth being that I would be friends w/ them regardless, but their letters are sorta putting them on the defense, because I DO want to be in their sorority... Like.. I can't even talk to some of my friends that pledged because they are like UBER-NEO, and they can't be real anymore.. not calling Greeks Fake, and not wanting her to have loose lips, but is there anyway that I can communicate w/ 'em w/o looking fake? hmm.. what am I asking? Ok.... you might have to disregard this entire post cuz I dunno how to put this in words....
How do you befriend a GREEK w/o them thinking that you are after their letters (even if you do want to join their sorority)? Like.. I don't know how to make it clear that even tho ________ is what I really desire to be in, and they are in it, I would rush/pledge without including them, so as to make them separate...
I dunno.. respond if you understand this... or if you have any idea of what I'm tryns say...
How is it fake if you want to know how that person is? If you want to know how someone is, you have to get to know them. You can't go off of rumors and speculation alone. And there is no one, surefire way to befriend a greek. But one thing for certain is that you've got to stop viewing them as a Greek and look at them as just a person. Treat them like you would any other student on your yard. Before I was on line, I was just nice and cordial to everybody. So it didn't look weird for me to be nice and cordial to Deltas. It didn't stick out. Now, if you are the type of person who is generally unpleasant to be around, then you will look very weird being nice to the members of XYZ. Do you understand where I am coming from?
yeah.. i think I get what you are saying.. i am usually cool w/ people (i'm really outgoing) and i have a lot of friends that are in frats and I just see them as one of the nigguhs who happens to belong to ABC, but w/ my friends that are in sororities, it feels like our relationship is like a test to see if I will use her to get IN her sorority....I dunno.. it just feels kinda weird.. like i don't make a big deal out of being friends w/ frat boys, but i guess w/ the ladeez it is different... i feel like they automatically assume that i'm only cool w/ them 4 their letters... I tell them all the time that I'm not after their letters... but it is like they don't get it (hence UBER-neo--so amped about pledging and THEIR sorority (can't blame 'em)).. Like.. I've had to talk to my friends in the sororities that I don't want to be in about it.... My friend said that it is usually just cattiness between females, but I really am looking forward to someday calling these girls my sorors, so I'm hoping that that is not the case....
For example: My friend just crossed XYZ and I obviously I was cool w/ her b4 she crossed, so you know I was giving her and some of her LS hugs you know.. for crossing..... now, one of her LS was acquaintances w/ me b4 she crossed, but we weren't tight.. I went to give her a hug and this heffa was like "Naw, you just hugging me for my letterz.. yadda yadda yadda."... I WAS tryna congratulate her on crossing, and I was tryna make things cordial btwn us (cuz my friend and her were LS.. can't compete w/ that) cuz I knew we'd see each other a lot....
I don't know how to say it, so I am probably confusing y'all all over again... Maybe it is just here at HU... like.. Greek Life is thrown in your face (for lack of a better word) and people really aren't "the girl w/the purple room on the 4th floor" but rather "the girl going out w/ that Que on the 4th floor"... howard is really focused on greek life, and it is hard for outsiders to separate individuals from their orgs, and probably even harder for the NEOs to realize that they were so-and-so b4 they crossed, and now, they are still so-and-so.. who happens to have letters...
Maybe I'm intimidated or something... I dunno.. I'll add mroe when I figure out wtf I'm saying...
^^^I sorta understand what you are saying, but by your own admission, it seems as though it is your perception about how you're being treated than what is really going on. I ain't gon' lie. People who didn't say two words to me in class were coming to hug me after I probated. So I understand where the neo is coming from. And people who were a lot closer to me started acting funny toward me once I crossed. I hear a lot of non-Greeks saying that so-and-so changed after she/he got dem letters. But have any of the non-Greeks stopped to think about how you treat people after they get their letters?
^^^^ YOu DO get what I was tryna say!!!! OK.. yeah.. I have thought about how I treat people after they get their letters... I swear.... I treat e'rybody the same.. except for the ladies that crossed what I want to "pledge"... I dunno... Its like they become super-human.. I really need to be rid of that... I mean.. I have no problem checking my Que friends.... letting 'em know that their bark is worse than their bite :wink:.. but my other friends. hmm.. I just automatically get the UTMOST respect for them, and I guess it gets in the way... Cuz you know.. pledging is hard, but then they pledged what I want to pledge and they came out as strong as ever...Those are truly the people that I don't want to disappoint....it's like I'm afraid that they will take it back to their sorors or something if I make a wrong move...hmmm
::Smacks head w/ Palm of hand::
Duh!!! :idea: Is that what I really think??? Wow.. I am hecka stOOpid then....Lemme go take my happy a$$ to the corner....
Thank you for helping me see the light, Trauma.. I really needed that.. you are hereby authorized to bestow on me a cyber-smack anytime I ask anymore confusing/stOOpid questions....
^^^^ YOu DO get what I was tryna say!!!! OK.. yeah.. I have thought about how I treat people after they get their letters... I swear.... I treat e'rybody the same.. except for the ladies that crossed what I want to "pledge"... I dunno... Its like they become super-human.. I really need to be rid of that... I mean.. I have no problem checking my Que friends.... letting 'em know that their bark is worse than their bite :wink:.. but my other friends. hmm.. I just automatically get the UTMOST respect for them, and I guess it gets in the way... Cuz you know.. pledging is hard, but then they pledged what I want to pledge and they came out as strong as ever...Those are truly the people that I don't want to disappoint....it's like I'm afraid that they will take it back to their sorors or something if I make a wrong move...hmmm
::Smacks head w/ Palm of hand::
Duh!!! :idea: Is that what I really think??? Wow.. I am hecka stOOpid then....Lemme go take my happy a$$ to the corner....
Thank you for helping me see the light, Trauma.. I really needed that.. you are hereby authorized to bestow on me a cyber-smack anytime I ask anymore confusing/stOOpid questions....
LOL!!! I get what you're saying, because I've been there. I will not tell you how many Delta lines I've seen cross, while trying to hold back tears and wait patiently. One of my best friends crossed a while back, and I was very nervous around her. I didn't want to "mess up" and ruin my chances either. So I know where you're coming from. And I won't be giving you the cyber-smack. lol Your questions address issues that are not really common knowledge or easily researched. Now if you wanna know something stoopid like " Do sororities and fraternitiespay dues? or "Do sororities and fraternities have meeting?" Then you are beyond being corrected by a cyber-smack. That's just plain stoopid. lol
Anyway...just be yourself, perform hella service, and treat EVERYBODY nicely. I hope you get what you seek!
Now if you wanna know something stoopid like " Do sororities and fraternitiespay dues? or "Do sororities and fraternities have meeting?" Then you are beyond being corrected by a cyber-smack. That's just plain stoopid. lol
The best advice: Just do you. Your the fake if you don't and you will live to regret it. Its just something about people when they get those letters: They feel invincible but its like "Hello? Remember, not too long ago you were GDI as well." Don't let it get to you, honey. Be true to yourself. REAL people will see that before anything else.
Staying humble keeps you grounded. remember that.
(Good answers, Trauma.)
ya'll ignore this but.
::jumps around the room:::
I'm sooo excited...and I just can't hide it.... I know I know I know I know I know I WANT YOU...
this is so freaking sad Ashley...sit yo dumb **** down...
::hangs her head:::
I really need to be rid of that... I mean.. I have no problem checking my Que friends.... letting 'em know that their bark is worse than their bite :wink:.. but my other friends. hmm.. I just automatically get the UTMOST respect for them, and I guess it gets in the way... Cuz you know.. pledging is hard, but then they pledged what I want to pledge and they came out as strong as ever...Those are truly the people that I don't want to disappoint....it's like I'm afraid that they will take it back to their sorors or something if I make a wrong move...hmmm
::Smacks head w/ Palm of hand::
Duh!!! :idea: Is that what I really think??? Wow.. I am hecka stOOpid then....Lemme go take my happy a$$ to the corner....
Thank you for helping me see the light, Trauma.. I really needed that.. you are hereby authorized to bestow on me a cyber-smack anytime I ask anymore confusing/stOOpid questions....
