ABORTIONS:ChildreN ARENT MISTaKES...excuse me for saying that, just sometimes they are unplanned. A number of my friends have had one and they are happy at the end that they had it taken care of so that they were able to complete school/highschool/college/work ext. But do uthink it should happen or should u just man up to your responsibilities or go thru wit the **** so your life wont be completely ruined and just regret it later. PLEASE SPEAK FREELY. NO MATTER IF YOUR FOR IT OR AGAINST IT DONT BE SCARED
The only thing I have to say on the matter is that you never know how someone feels unless you are in their shoes. Meaning that it is unnecessary for people to try to make decisions for other people. It is true that children are not mistakes, but there are several other factors you have to keep in mind. Basically, I think it is up to the mother to make a decision for herself, not us. but who are we to put restrictions and demands on others? This is America.
I completely agree with everything you said. Only thing tho is that I am ****. If I were in a situation like that, I more than likely would have an ****. It wouldnt be an easy decision, or a decision I would want to make, but in certain circumstances you do wut u gotta do. I agree that no child is a mistake ( they were created at the wrong time in life moreso ), and they can be blessings...but I know for myself personally...that right now I could not offer a child the kind of life they deserve or even the life I had. And that aint fair to them. I think it would be more selfish of me to keep a baby I know I aint ready for and they not have all they deserve and need, than keep a baby and HOPE that my parents can help to support us. I aint trying to have no baby and let it burden my family financially and emotionally. That just aint fair to them. We have enough expenses and finances to worry about now...a baby would make it just that much harder. They raised their kids. They shouldnt have to worry about helping to raise their child's child. And when I say take careof them, I dont mean babysitting every once in a while, or taking them to the park in the afternoon. I mean me living at home, living off my parents cause I know I wont have a good enough job to support myself and the baby, and everything else. I say all that cause I have seen it with so many of my older female cousins, and my friends.
i say to each its on, but i personally would try to make the sacrifice, if i can't handle it i would give it up for adoption, but other than that if you make it, you should keep it.....
my mom was gonna have me aborted because she was a freshman at Spelman, but she chose to keep me just because she was adopted herself and thought I at least deserved a chance like she did...............i mean im ****...especially in the case of **** victims, but i think people who choose to abort should really look at all the options available to them, I just think it's better for that person to give it up for adoption if they cant handle the pressure......but to each its own, its her body......
Generally....im against abortions...that is murder...who am i to take the life of my own child....if i was woman enough to lay down and do it...im woman enough to handle my responsibility...you know the consequences when you opened up your legs (this is to no one in particular...just in general)
also...just because you are going to have a baby doesnt mean that your life will be ruined...sure things may get out of control and hard sometimes...but there are many ways to get around that...the question is how hard are you willing to work...
I've never been in that situation and if sometime in the future i do find myself in the same boat...i honestly can't say that i WILL go through with the pregnancy happy and glad about taking care of my responsibility...however...it will take the devil himself to make me abort my child...
I agree wit u completely,Its always in the back of your head...what if I would have done this, what if i would hav done that...but the honest truth is that u had it and there is nothing u can do about it......Its like when u weigh ya options sometimes **** is the only way to go.Im saying i dont no if it is considerd a sin or not but now that the deed is done its over.People are quick to critizize a female who has had an ****...when they should really b there holding there hand......U dnt eve here bout noone down playing the males who got the female pregnant.Shi* a lot of the times they are the ones who put up da money cause they dnt feel like havin da pressure from a child.......THINK ON IT:arrow:
Until ur in that situation.....everything that u said u believe in changes, DRAMATICALLY. **** to me, personally, is wrong beause yes u are killing a life. But what do u do when u have one parent encouraging that when u are in that situation-to do what you need to do (have an ****) to continue your goals in life, and you have a Minister as your other parent-telling you that **** is straight from the pits of hell, a boyfriend who tells you that he doesnt want u pregnant right now or taking care of a child or watching his child go through foster homes and that all expenses will be paid and he will help take care of you, and then you have yourself-you have told yourself ALL your life that you would keep your baby or give it up for adoption time and time again-until you get pregnant, and everything you have believed in suddenly goes out the door. You still feel that **** is wrong-but you feel like you are trapped and have no choice. I think everyone on here can say what they would like to do if they were in this kind of situation....but until you are really placed in this type of predicament-you really dont know.
Bottom line is this...before I got pregnant...I said I would never have an ****...when i got pregnant...I said what do I do...for me...it wasn't really a matter of having a baby but it was more of...how do I tell my mother...what do I say...how is she going to react...What Is She Going To Think Of Me...Except for a few rare cases...women are the ones who deal with that situation all day, everyday...no man could ever tell me what to do with my body and thats all to it...I didn't plan to get pregnant and I don't think he planned for me to get pregnant he just felt like doing what he felt like doing and it led to a lifetime situation...Now I spent 560 dollars of my money for a one time thing...I would have needed state assistance to take care of it so I would have ended up spending 560 plus of my money and then a quite a few thousand dollars of your money and i'm sure that some of you wouldn't have been happy about that...I wasn't in the situation to take care of a baby...and I couldn't turn my child over to someone else....You dont know what you'd do until you see that plus or double line on the ept....guys get girls pregnant and leave for stupid stuff like "you didn't name him after me,"....and all society ever does is give them a slap on the hand...a women looks out for the future of herself and her child...and the whole world comes crashing down on her at once
The only thing I have to say on the matter is that you never know how someone feels unless you are in their shoes. Meaning that it is unnecessary for people to try to make decisions for other people. It is true that children are not mistakes, but there are several other factors you have to keep in mind. Basically, I think it is up to the mother to make a decision for herself, not us. I, personally, would not get an ****, but who are we to put restrictions and demands on others? This is America.
Cosigns. You never know what that person is going through. My thing is when girls use **** as some form of ****. Now, that just isn't right.
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