So your in a soro/frat. Many people say to other people when they are interested in becoming apart of a certain org. to " do your research,make sure this is the one for you, and the last thing everybody seems to say is...
GET IN GOOD WITH SOMEONE WHO'S ALREADY IN THAT ORG.
I've been looking at it like, if I wasnt in that org, would I even talk to this person?
So my question for all you greeks is did you "get in good" with someone on your quest to become apart of the org. that you are in? and if so do you feel that is somewhat fake on your behalf?
Also, for those who ARE greeks can you tell the people apart? The ones who are only interested in talking to you because of your letters, and the ones who really want to know you as a person?
I'm not trying to offend anyone, but I thought about this when I was discussing soro's/frat's with my friend.
i mean people are talking about spotting fakeness, but how does a person like myself go about talking to someone who knows NOONE GREEK at all when i really do want to know about the organization itself without conveying the fakeness yall talk about, i mean people who know me know im down to earth, i dont do backflips for people, im pretty quiet, laidback...but i do have trouble talking to them cause i dont know what TO talk about...
i mean i do online research but its really not enough, i mean what kind of questions are you allowed to ask, ive read this site which has been helpful, but some questions are forbidden and some arent ive kinda found out, so how can ya get more info from a greek without offending, what specific questions did yall ask about the org??
i mean people are talking about spotting fakeness, but how does a person like myself go about talking to someone who knows NOONE GREEK at all when i really do want to know about the organization itself without conveying the fakeness yall talk about, i mean people who know me know im down to earth, i dont do backflips for people, im pretty quiet, laidback...but i do have trouble talking to them cause i dont know what TO talk about...
i mean i do online research but its really not enough, i mean what kind of questions are you allowed to ask, ive read this site which has been helpful, but some questions are forbidden and some arent ive kinda found out, so how can ya get more info from a greek without offending, what specific questions did yall ask about the org??
i mean people are talking about spotting fakeness, but how does a person like myself go about talking to someone who knows NOONE GREEK at all when i really do want to know about the organization itself without conveying the fakeness yall talk about, i mean people who know me know im down to earth, i dont do backflips for people, im pretty quiet, laidback...but i do have trouble talking to them cause i dont know what TO talk about...
i mean i do online research but its really not enough, i mean what kind of questions are you allowed to ask, ive read this site which has been helpful, but some questions are forbidden and some arent ive kinda found out, so how can ya get more info from a greek without offending, what specific questions did yall ask about the org??
I can relate to Shoya Star. I am active in a couple clubs at my school . I do community service ofent but I do not know any greeks. I do my research on the net and in books . I know that i need to talk the members but i dont know how. I dont want to be groupieish but I would like to get to know members of the chapter I just dont know where to start.
I can relate to Shoya Star. I am active in a couple clubs at my school . I do community service ofent but I do not know any greeks. I do my research on the net and in books . I know that i need to talk the members but i dont know how. I dont want to be groupieish but I would like to get to know members of the chapter I just dont know where to start.
Be Active On Campus
Join some organizations around your campus. Don't JUST be a member be a worker. Become an part of that organzation. In the end it's far better for GLO's to know you for your hard work around campus and your interest, rather than just your interest alone.
You'll generally have the opportunity to work alongside with greeks from all organizations.
They'll see you for whomever you are.
This way you have more to talk about than just what it takes to join your Organization of Choice.
i mean people are talking about spotting fakeness, but how does a person like myself go about talking to someone who knows NOONE GREEK at all when i really do want to know about the organization itself without conveying the fakeness yall talk about, i mean people who know me know im down to earth, i dont do backflips for people, im pretty quiet, laidback...but i do have trouble talking to them cause i dont know what TO talk about...
i mean i do online research but its really not enough, i mean what kind of questions are you allowed to ask, ive read this site which has been helpful, but some questions are forbidden and some arent ive kinda found out, so how can ya get more info from a greek without offending, what specific questions did yall ask about the org??
a agree with you. The internet and books can get you a long way but it can only offer but so much. you can't just strike up a conversation with a greek because like you guys were saying, thats going to come off likes it's been staged. And there's so much you can't ask and you have to be so "discreet" about everything so as not to offend. you really have no idea what you can and cannot ask
As an aspirant, I have went to members of XYZ sorority and spoke with them, not because I want to kiss up, and try and be the best of friends but because I saw it as an opportunity that I may not have again.
On my campus the chapter or XYZ just got off suspension so there aren't any member on campus other than a few faculty members. So when I do come across a member whether its at a social or just on campus I have on a few occasions approached them in a dignified manner and spoke with them on various topics including the organization as well as other general topics. Some may see it as being "fake" but I see it as being serious about my pursuit. No matter how many organizations I work hard for, or how many community service hours I do, I will not have that chance equal to come across a member of XYZ sorority as others may have.
If and when the time comes for me to offically express my interest I do not want to be just another female in a room of 50+, I want the members to know that I have been serious not for a few weeks or days, but for semesters, and years.
