Dont Say You're Not (if you are)

24 replies · 7362 views · Started by Wisdom_Tree · Oct 2004

I agree, people need to just start being honest and admitting the truth's to themselves. I think people deny things because they don't want to look at reality

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PoeticChocolate from Sacramento, CA · Nov 2004

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I was reading an article about women havin a predetermined prototype of what they want their husband to be, therefore strictly dating guys with the characteristics whether they be physical, personality, or materialistic. It works the same way with men though. I've seen some dudes strictly pursue broads because "every other **** on the yard wanted her," or because she had a car. My whole philosophy is: I can't expect a man to have anything that I don't have. While it is nice to date a guy that can pick me up, pay the bill, and buy me things, I can't let that be my sole basis for choosin a mate (I have dated some broke hoes). I'd rather have a broke dude with ambition than a spoiled-rotten rich boy with no sense of reality.

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Wisdom_Tree from Texas City, TX · Nov 2004

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jstblz99-2h2h wrote:
BigDaddy Tres wrote:
I think thats the difference I was speaking on. "Why would I want a man who is doing so little for himself that he cant do for me" is one of the things men most have a problem with. We feel like you should want us for who we are and not what we have. If the potential lies within us to be great but we dont have anyone to help us get there (though we really shouldnt Need anyone) then you cant hold that situation against him. Then again (from a womans perspective) You dont look in the trash for diamonds...
oh i feel u on that but i also feel that u should have SOMETHING i mean gat damn............... im not saying u gotta be rich, im saying at least be able to STAND on ur own..................... i can help a man who i see is doing something with himself....................

LoL, Ive actually heard a girl say just that. "Have something, damn!" And thats to be expected cuz if he continues to have nothing and be nothing then I can see how that doesnt appeal to you :lol: . Im speaking more to the norm of the situation like the men who dont have it all but are making Due or who pay their bills, eat good and have a goal but are still struggling. These guys do whatever they can for their woman, save up their arm and their leg just to sell it just so she can have and the support they need (yall seen the Jadakiss video, like that) isnt there. Not only is it not there but a sentiment Against what theyre trying to accomplish creates a negative force between them. To the other statement about predetermination...well, Im sure theres some basis for that statement psychologically but open mindedness cures some of the ailments of guesswork. Even when people have their regiment of dating if they would just be a bit more open minded about who they were looking for then they wouldnt be so upset at the results. Its gotta be frustrating because there are 2 laws that contradict. Law 1: If you do the same thing you'll get the same result. Law 2: Keep doing the same thing if its the right thing. Men should follow the the second Law, but are conflicted because the first Law, which really isnt a law but just a matter of circumstance, is affecting them. "Seems like I try to be nice and try to do right but they do me so wrong." or "Seems like I always run into thes Hoes and cant get a real woman to see me" are some of the issues us real Men are having, so the dark side calls some of them. Cuz then comes Law 3. Law 3: If you do something different youll get a different result. "I was doing being a good guy and girls werent listenin, so if I be that raw, bad nicca..." And there you have it ladies and gentlemen. :arrow: