I'm trying to figure this ****out, becuase me and my ex-boyfreind are going through some SHYT. Letme pop game to ya.
Now lets say you have found that one girl that takes care of you, anything you needed she got you, she's always there when you need her, you love her, family loves her too...you know...
Okay, so you're not ready for a relationship with her because, you don't know if you can competly turn away any temptation that comes you way. You wanna be free to see other people. Understandable. But because of the relationship you two have, you know she is always going to be there...so that when you are ready...you can pick up where you left off... :roll: ha...assumptions...
Anyways... how do you make a person not take you for granted. How do you do this in a way that they know you will always be there for them...but not always be HERE for them..? Do I make any sense? Yeah...he's probably right with the I'll always be here...but I don't want him to KNOW that. I want to become challange again...
Am I making good sense?
There is definitely a way to have him not take you for granted. Like Sapphire said, don't let him know that you will always be there. The fact that he does know that if anything else with these other females fails, then he can always be safe and come back to you. There is not a problem with that....I mean you want him to come back to you right? But just don't let it become a habit...do you know what I mean? And shoot, two can play that game.
I know deep down, and I know he knows deep down, that we are getting back together, its just an unspoken thing between us. I just don't want him thinking he can THROW me aside like he did and I'm just going to be waiting here, arms out.
PrimaDonna_1908 wrote:
Become unavailable:
-return every other call (unless it's an emergency)
-go out with other fellas
-deny him the goodies (to keep your sanity and make him lose his)
Oh that stoped a second ago. So I WISH he would try that ****with me.
jstblz99-2h2h wrote:
don't let him taste the goodies
let him feen about it
he'll get all hot and bothered
if u talk about it
just let him choke the chicken........................
You need help.. :lol:
xavierette wrote:
I dunno call me the weirdo for this thought, but I honestly dont think that its the best idea for you two to be " Best Friends" right now considering the circumstances. I mean u two can be cool, but there is still to much emotional wind flyin around. From what I read previously he broke up with u cause he wanted to test the waters....now he wants to be great friends. :? I dunno it seems to me like he is kinda usin u for that ol pack of ramen noodles that u have just in case u run out of food and get real hungry....It may seem blunt but trust me because i have been there before.
I have more to say but I will stop there for now
You bluntness is well recieved by this chick! Now if you look closely HE considers us Best Freinds....me on the other hand, I just think he wants to have his cake and eat it too. It don't work that way. I've been with this boy since...freshman year and I'm a junior now...so that probably where he gets this great freindship from...he can kiss my ****...I'm just going do what I was told to do, which is treat him just like any other freind I have. My momma told me relationships are like rubber bands, if you start to pull away, they can only do two things, break the rubber band or get closer to you.(Boy I sound like Forest)
yeah, i agree with alot of what Myranda said. U guys need to just chill out for a lil bit. A friend of mine said sumthin to me when it comes to do dudes and relationships. "Once u close a door, you need to CLOSE it all the way. Don't leave it cracked, don't open and shut it, CLOSE that sucka". She did that with an ex who wanted to be "friends" afterwards. Talking with him all the time only left the emotions open, and it made it harder to get over him. In sense, it wasn't really like they were broken up, cuz he was always in the picture. If nucca wanted "space"...that's exactly what u need to give him.
I'm not saying don't ever talk to him again, but at least after initial breakup, get some space to evaluate yaself, the situation, and just feel SINGLE again.
yeah, i agree with alot of what Myranda said. U guys need to just chill out for a lil bit. A friend of mine said sumthin to me when it comes to do dudes and relationships. "Once u close a door, you need to CLOSE it all the way. Don't leave it cracked, don't open and shut it, CLOSE that sucka". She did that with an ex who wanted to be "friends" afterwards. Talking with him all the time only left the emotions open, and it made it harder to get over him. In sense, it wasn't really like they were broken up, cuz he was always in the picture. If nucca wanted "space"...that's exactly what u need to give him.
I'm not saying don't ever talk to him again, but at least after initial breakup, get some space to evaluate yaself, the situation, and just feel SINGLE again.
Imma tell you like this.... Just ignore the nigg. You gonna find out how much he really care. Cuz if he just usin u "like an old pack of Ramen noodles" sure he gonna try n talk but after a while he gonna say fukk it and by another one cuz on A&T campus they come 5 for a dolla. But if he treatin you like piece of jewelry that u need to come out lookin fresh but only wear on special occasions he gonna keep tryin to get back at u. Why cuz you put in too much effort to get it to let it go so quick. Even though u dont wear it no more you still need it and cant find nothin else like it.
Imma tell you like this.... Just ignore the nigg. You gonna find out how much he really care. Cuz if he just usin u "like an old pack of Ramen noodles" sure he gonna try n talk but after a while he gonna say fukk it and by another one cuz on A&T campus they come 5 for a dolla. But if he treatin you like piece of jewelry that u need to come out lookin fresh but only wear on special occasions he gonna keep tryin to get back at u. Why cuz you put in too much effort to get it to let it go so quick. Even though u dont wear it no more you still need it and cant find nothin else like it.
