Have any of you ladies lost the trust of your mother? Or of someone really close to you? Now you have to live the rest of your life proving a point to them cause they just won't let the situation go and everytime something happens, they throw it back in your face?
I never lost the trust of someone close to me. But there were a few times that i disappionted my sister, who I live with. I'm not going to go into detail because it's too much to explain. But I know if it were my mother who knew these things and not my sister, it probably would be different.
I know what you mean. Since I've been in college, my mama has constantly been like "I need to know what you are doing at all times, I don't care if you are in college" kinda thing. But last November (Thanksgiving as a matter of a fact), was the first time she ever said something about trust. See, my mother and my father aren't together and this past Thanksgiving, I decided I would spend the day with my dad side of the family so I went to my aunt's house which is about an hour away. Well, after the dinner and stuff was over, my friend (a guy and yes just friends) called me and asked me to come over to his house and just chill. I didn't have anything else to do and it wasn't like it was late (it was about 8 or 8:30) so I did. Well, my mama started blowin' up my cell around 9 or so asking me where I was, who I was with, what we was doing... I didn't lie though. I told her I was at a male friend's house (I did say his name), we were watching TV, and just chillin. Well, after that she basically told me to come home and I'm not into disobeying my parents so I left. It was embarassing as hell... I'm 19, never really get in trouble, and with a male friend who is just that... a friend. Anyway, when I finally got home, she was like "Kasha, I don't know if I can trust you. If you wanted to go to some guy's house, you should've told me. I still would have told you to bring your a$$ home but at least I wouldn't feel like you sneaking around."
Anyway, that ****REALLY hurt like hell. Even now, she questions where I"m at and heaven forbid I say with a male friend (even if there are females around she somehow just catch the "male" part), she really starts tripping. I think it's not so much the trust part, even though that is what they say, it's more like they realize that their child is growing up and aren't really ready to let go (especially if you are an only child like me). But even though it hurts you like hell, you learn to take it and just try to keep their trust somehow, someway .
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